If u have a friend that acts up in a bad way how would u talk to he or she?

Question

Like acting up like sexual kind of way.

Answer 1

I don't know what you mean by bad way

Answer 2

You need to be more specific. Describe acting up? If it's a guy coming onto a girl in a sexual way, then politely tell them no. If they refuse, then call the police.

Answer 3

Reductio ad absurdum. You probably haven't heard of it, but you've probably seen it in stuff like this:

Father: "Why did you start smoking?"
Daughter: "All my friends were doing it."
Father: "You're saying that if all your friends jumped off a cliff, you would do that too?"

Reductio ad absurdum works just like that; You can prove your point by taking someone elses logic, and show that it is absurd do to its consequences.

Take your friend for example. They're doing a certain behavior we'll call "X-ing" or just "X". Your friend does "X" to get her/his goals A and B. But you know that these behaviors lead to "F". This is how I suggest you can help call into question your friends behavior, espcially if they're doing it right in front of you.

You: "Hey, friend."
Friend: "Hey, you!"
You: "Hey, remember when you did X?"
Friend: "Yeah, why?"
You: "Well, I was just curious, because I really don't do/haven't experienced a lot of X; Could you tell me why you personally like to do X?"
Friend: "Sure! I do it because it gets me A, and its not like I'll ever get into B or something!"
You: "But don't you think that A and B are just a quick road to F, which in the end defeats the purpose of trying to get A and B? It just seems kinda absurd to me."

Its at this point your friend will either see the certain level of absurdity in their behavior, or will clarify certain terms, or try to justify their behavior.

And thats fine!

The purpose of this should just be to get your friend TALKING about it; With you not trying to JUDGE them, but trying to LEARN. Even though you may really be trying to help your friend, or may know a better way/behavior they should be doing? It's important you adopt the position of someone whose just there "to listen"; Otherwise your friend may become defensive or insulted.

From there, you two can actually have a calm discussion about a potentially 'upsetting' issue.

I hope this helps! If you can, you might want to talk to someone older than yourself about this, or to an authority figure you respect and trust, as well.

Answer 4

I don't understand your question, but you should have asked it, "If you have a friend who acts up in a bad way, how would you talk to him or her?"

Answer 5

If you can, talk to them , Be open and honest in how you feel. If it's towards you, make sure your in a place where there are people within reach. Be Careful!! Sandee

Answer 6

i always give the benifit of the doubt but if they receive a couple of breaks and continue on it is asta la vista baby