Okay, well...yeah. I'm 13 years old and I'm pretty sure I like one of my friends...Anyways, I'm just concerned that if I ask her out then our friendship would be like akward and stuff. Plus, I'm shy. Well, I thinks she likes me and I think she knows I like her...We're both kinda shy, I guess. I'm not like a jock, you know...Anyways...What should I do?
2007-04-17 10:59:22 · 22 answers · asked by okiewhateva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are many things working for you in this relationship. For example, you guys are already friends. This gives you a lot to talk about, and you already know eachother. If she likes you back, that's a great thing too.
It is risky to try and take friendships to the next level. You never really know how that's going to end up. It's a risk you need to think about and decide for yourself whether or not you think it's worth it.
The thing is, it could be even more awkward if you like her and just keep liking her, but never doing anything about it, you know? Then you'd always be shy around eachother, and always uncertain. If you ask her out, then you would know where you stand more.
If you have a great friendship, then there's a good chance that you'd have a great relationship. Remember, just because you're "going out" with someone doesn't mean that you have to stop being friends.
If I were you, I would probably ask her out. Just something casual, like to watch a movie at your house or something. If you're having a good time, then you can ask her more formally if you want to be "boyfriend and girlfriend"
I want to wish you the best of luck, and if you have any more questions, please feel free to email me, I'll be here for you.
2007-04-17 11:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by bookworm1317 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, where would you take your friend? A movie, the mall, to a friend's house for a party? Maybe you can start by just suggesting you get together for an event because she makes you laugh or you both like a movie or something. Try not to make it so date- like by meeting up with other friends so that you are in a group and then keep it fun and casual. If your friend can go out with you, she will let you know if she would like go out again. I am more than "pretty sure" that this will all work out Ok if you just take the first step.
2007-04-17 18:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Lizbiz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out, what if you never do and than wonder what if for the rest of your life? You can't just stand there thinking you're in love with her but she'll never know. Keeping it all cooped inside won't help. What if she moves away unexpectedly than what will hurt the most is being so close and you'll never know what could have been, because not seeing you were loving her was what you trying to do! Yes I've been listening to a country song....anyways tell her before it's too late.
2007-04-17 19:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you are 13 I would just arrange for a group of friends to go and catch a movie together. That way it's not awkward, and no one feels put on the spot. If she says no then she was just one of a number of people that you were inviting. Plus you haven't ruined your friendship with her.
Good Luck!
2007-04-17 18:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Super Babe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you like her then find out if she likes you. Ask a friend to do it or ask one of her friends. IF not that then yes, ur friendship might get a little ackward if you two break-up. But it's up to u to ask her out if u really like her. My advice? ONLY go out with her if u reaaaaallllllyyy like her cuz trust me that if u 2 breakup then ur friendship will be really weird unless you two are really different from the rest of us. Good Luck!
2007-04-17 18:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should only ask her out if you really like her. If not it's not worth the friendship risk. And about being shy...You should just seize the moment. Don't think about what might go wroung. Think about all the good that can come.
hope I helped!
-marina
2007-04-17 18:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Peace. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe you could share your hobby with her, what activities that may be, hiking at a park, waking your dog, video games and kool-aide at your house. Swimming at the Y, or rock climing wall at the Y then share a coke! Girls that age are flattered by attention so it helps if you can develop conversation. Remember like your usual friends to have fun with her and be your self not afraid, she just likes you.
2007-04-17 18:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of making the direct move of asking her out to a few sutlte things like playing with her hair or hugging her in the hallway and if she is a true friend she won't hate on u!
2007-04-17 18:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lakers24 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it ask her out and have safe fun :) If you are concerned about your friendship why not just ask her to a movie as that a friendly thing to do too. Good luck
2007-04-17 18:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by lacldc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone goes through this. the thing about relationships is...you will never know how theyre gonna work out unless you take risks. if you guys both liek eachother and you try it im sure if you both agree that its not gonna work out, that it wont affect the friendship. after all the best part of a relationship if being friends.
2007-04-17 18:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by aleea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋