to my friend that i am pragnant who are trying for long. i have family friend who are trying for long and they do not...when we had out first i did not know they are even trying. she always used to ask when you going to have baby. i had some problems and always felt bad her asking. when i had my daughter i always talked about my daughter with her. she seemed to be not mind mine doing it. she did not even told me they are trying. later she told me that she did not like talking about kids because they do not have kids. now our relationship are not good because whenever we talk how hard i try something about my daughter comes up and she takes it in bad way. she is my husbands cousin's wife. now i do not talk much with her. i am pragnant again and i need know that would i be insensitive to tell that i am...? should i just wait untill she found out through someone else.
thanks.
2007-04-17 09:47:07 · 4 answers · asked by silkartdesign 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell her yourself but in a very toned down way. By this I mean not getting all excited and gushing about your pregnancy. It will be much nicer for her to hear it from you rather than from others.
My friend has been trying for years and has found out she has PCOS, endometriosis and harding of her uterine wall due to the endometriosis. She is currently injecting herself everyday with hormones so she can begin IVF. I feel terrible for her as I have 3 kids already and in the last 6 months have been pregnant 3 times. The first 2 unfortunately ended in miscarriage but this one has stayed in there and I am now 11 weeks pregnant. I told her the first 2 times and she was happy for me and when I lost them she was supportive. When I fell pregnant the 3rd time and it looked like it was going to stay in there...I was scared to tell her as although I had lost a couple of babies, I was finding it really easy to fall pregnant while she couldn't at all. But when I finally got up the courage to tell her...she was so happy for me! And I am being as supportive as I can to her in her efforts to become a mother, as hard as it is.....as I feel guilty that I am pregnant and she isn't! But she is a good person that doesn't hold it against me, thank goodness!
I hope your friend can ovecome her jealousy of you (which is what it sounds like to me) and that you can overcome your guilt at being able to fall pregnant when she can't. It should be a happy time for you...not a stressful one worrying about your friends reaction to your happy news. Good luck with it!
2007-04-17 10:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by West Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so sweet! Very nice of you to be so concerned for your friend. I have a similar issue. I have a friend who is going through years of infertility issues. She and her husband are trying IVF. I told her the first time, and she was happy for me, and very nice. Now, it's been only 2 years, and I'm pregnant again. I didn't want to tell her, but she just called me, and I couldn't help it. I told her. She was very happy.
Just think about your friend, and try to judge whether or not she will take it well. You can tell her, and then be very sensitive and ask her "Are you ok with this? I know you really want a baby. You can be the auntie!"
Good luck!
2007-04-17 16:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should wait untill she find out from someone else! you just said that you guys arent that close anymore because she was basically jealous of your first daughter! ...what would be yourpoint in calling her up about this one?........2 rub it in?!!!
2007-04-17 16:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by somebodysmamasoon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Touchy subject. I probably wouldn't tell, and I am sure she would understand why.
2007-04-17 16:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dana C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋