What would you do if you found out your boyfriend posted a personal ad?

Question

I found my boyfriend's personal ad on Yahoo by viewing the history on his computer. What would you do? Thanks :(

Answer 1

Confront him, and depending on what he said, I'd likely dump him. It would basically come down to this: is the ad recent? If it turns out he did it before you two became a thing, then you are going to look kind of dumb for asking. Otherwise, it is obvious that he doesn't take your relationship very seriously. You may want to consider letting him go and moving on. Either way, good luck!

Answer 2

Answering the ad is a good idea. Then ask him if he has a girlfriend. Make something up like, "A lot of guys here have lied before about having a girlfriend. Do you?" Then see what he says about you.

If he tells the truth (that he does have a girlfriend), ask in a subtle way why he's straying. He may be more open with a stranger online than if you confronted him in person.

Answer 3

Just because it is on the dropdown bar doesn't mean he has a profile. Don't jump to conclusions, even though it is hard not to. Check your cookies and history - see if he has actually gone through the site looking at profiles. Could he have accidentally clicked on something? Those True ads are everywhere! Go to the site and click on the box where he would type in his screen name - and press the down arrow key on your keyboard. Hopefully, it will show a list of usernames that have been used to log on. After that, you can search for that name if it comes up. Don't be shady and try to catch him doing something you don't agree with - you can end up looking silly.

Answer 4

If the ad is about him looking for another/other women, leave him...quick. Don't think twice. It will be easier now, than 6 months from now when you find out that he cheated on you a few times.

If the ad is just a friendly thing, like say he wants to meet other people that enjoy music or something, just talk to him about it, and ask what he hopes to find, and help him with the search.

But, most likely it's the first reason above. Again, if so...just end it.

Answer 5

Sleepy's points are good.

Aside for the other answers (dumping, responding), have you considered the nature of your relationship with him? Are you two exclusive with each other? A verbal agreement of exclusivity, not just an assumption because you've had sex with him. If the answer is no, he is allowed to play the field just as you are. Was this ad placed recently while you were "exclusive" with him? Or is it an ad he has had up for awhile?

With the menfolk, you can't assume anything. Many women tend to think if she has had sex twice with a guy and gone on more than 5 dates, she is his "girlfriend." Women need to be direct with their men on how she wants to view their relationship.

Answer 6

First, I would not be checking his history on his computer, because of the trust issue. If I did find a personal ad. And if it appeared that he was looking for a girl friend. I would ask him to explain. If in the process he informs me he is a free agent. I would strike it up to his lost not mine and move on. Life is too short to be with someone who is looking for someone else.

Answer 7

Confront him about it in person. You can start it off like "I was just browing on your computer and came across such and such..." Try to make it nonthreatening, you should be information seeking. If he can't give you a good answer or you suspect that he is lying, either push him harder for the truth or get out of there. Is it possible that his personal ad is old? Just a thought, maybe he had it up before he met you, and never bothered to take it down. Either way, you need to take care of yourself.

Answer 8

You should do one of two things.
1. Answer the add from a public computer, so that he has no way of knowing it's you. Make a date with him. Meet him and dump something awful on his head right before you dump him.
2. Just jump straight to the part where you dump him.

Answer 9

Does it say that he is single and looking for hooking up, or just looking for friends? You may either A) make up a fake account as another girl, send him message and see what he says and then call him on it or B) confront him and have a discussion. I would not trust a man that did that. Also, how did you find it, were you browsing the ads yourself or someone alerted you about this?

Answer 10

I would say make sure the ad is recent, sounds like it is if it's in his history tho. He is obv a jerk and you want someone who wants to be with you, not looking for someone else. I would make a fake profile and if he does respond to the ad tell him its you and he's an ahole! Then leave his sorry butt!!