Or denied it if asked directly?
If so, what were the circumstances?
2007-04-17 08:23:22 · 30 answers · asked by abetterfate 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Lying when we are young helps some of us to survive our childhoods alive, so that's okay.
But lying when we're older does more to harm ourselves, than it does to harm others.
Some people believe that lying is the root of some mental illness, and it knid of makes sense.
At some point in everyone's life they have to stop lying and say, 'Some people are going to like me, some aren't; At least I'll be myself, and if people like me, then I'll know that they actually like ME!'
2007-04-17 08:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 13⤊ 0⤋
I have always been honest about being a lesbian. I don't care because I don't need anyone's approval. This is my life and I have just as much right as anyone else does to live it as I am, without shame or giving explanations. My father is a minister and that doesn't even stop me from being out of the closet. It's not our every conversation, but I never lie about who I am with anyone. If I lose "friends" because they got to know the real me, then they never were true friends of mine. I want to be surrounded by real friends who accept and love me as-is. Got no respect for me? - GET OUT.
2007-04-17 08:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't lie about it. I often work with young teens so I do hedge the issue a little (while I don't feel there is any problem being open, they are not my kids and I don't have the right to choose what is acceptable for them.) If they ask me right out I then do tell them, I reckon lying too them oought to be considered worse than telling them I'm gay. The kids are never that bothered, it's only their parents that get over excited about it.
2007-04-17 08:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by 'H' 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I haven't had many people ask me if I'm gay or not, but ever since I came out to myself I had to tell anyone who asked me the question that I was gay because then I'd be living a lie.
2007-04-17 08:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the wind variations, you will appear as if that continuously! and the age old... How are you? good and you? the two are merely an exchange of courtursies, yet they are additionally the main worry-unfastened Lie's reported for all time, everywhere, time-honored, 24/7. the 1st is mendacity because of the fact they don't care what circumstance the different guy or woman is in and extremely do not choose for to acknowledge. the subsequent is as undesirable because of the fact they are responding with a lie, as we are generally not aways good, (the two ill or emotionally suffering) and merely blasay-ly return the niceties.
2016-12-20 17:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by zolinski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have NEVER lied about being a lesbian.And if asked directly i always tell the truth.
If people dont like me for who i am then i dont want them talking to me at all.Being gay/lesbian isnt a disease,its apart of life.Im proud of being a lesbian and proud of who i am,so are all my friends and family.
2007-04-17 08:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since I "officially" came out many years ago, I don't think I've ever actually lied about being gay. There have been times that people have assumed I'm straight and I haven't bothered to correct them. (I think they must be kinda stupid not to realize I'm gay, but it's usually older people or people who haven't been outside of their own little words very much.)
2007-04-17 11:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first came out I was especially nervous about losing clients over my sexuality. Early on I had one client ask if I was gay (word had spread through a mutual acquaintance). and I lied.
After that I felt terrible - like I betrayed myself or something... Tough to explain.
Anyway, I don't broadcast my sexuality and the question is fairly uncommon but if asked, yes is my answer every time.
2007-04-17 09:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as fortunately I haven't really been in a situation where I needed to. The only time I was close to it was at work I had just started my job and someone said 'So how's your wife(they knew I was married)' and I just replied 'Fine.' I did later correct this mistaken assumption later on in my career, once I was settled in. I think sometimes I make the assumption someone is going to be homophobic without giving them the benfit of the doubt.
2007-04-17 08:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by waggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No reason to lie to yourself or others around you - if possible,
always be true to yourself.
However having said that, a lot of ppl are in situations where they have to 'lie' in order to keep safe and away from ridicule.
I hope such ppl at some stage in their lives, can come to peace with who they really are deep down, whether they are gay/bi/str8/black/white/religious etc.
It wouldn't be a happy life, if you denied yourself the basic human right to be yourself.
Good Luck with your answers : - )
2007-04-17 08:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by gothik_greeneyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In college I took a job at a christan book store near campus, and lied to the people there becuase I knew how closed minded they were. Other than that, I've always been open
2007-04-17 08:34:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋