2007-04-17 07:05:57 · 9 answers · asked by Silva 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, after a certain point. Are you talking about depressed people, and people who have no motivation in life? I've been through that myself, so I know what these people are going through. And I know sometimes all they need is for someone to be there and listen, and not give up on them. But there does come a point where, if they are not willing to help themselves, there is nothing more that you can do for them, without being brought down to their emotional level as well in the process. If I get the point after awhile, that they are not interested in help, but only interested in pity or attention, I will leave them alone. I don't consider that giving up on them, if they ever decide to want to change their life, I will always be there for them. But if they are not willing to change, then they are gaining some type of pleasure from the state that they are in, and no one can help them until they make the choice to want to help themselves. If I were to stay there, I would not be helping, only giving them the pity that they are craving from others, and fueling their fire. And I would be brought down emotionally in the process. If people want to change, I am here. But they need to make that commitment first, otherwise I can't help them.
2007-04-17 07:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people can be that way for one reason or another at one time or another...
Like the girl that is always harping about her cheating boyfriend, or the guy that is always going on and on about sports or his car... or the person with all these problems that they can't ever just shut up about, their house, their car their job... whatever!
We all do it! and I believe that our reasons for avoiding some people and accepting others depends on what we feel we do ourselves, and therefore what is acceptable and what is to be avoided in another, is gaged by a sense of selfishness.
Birds of a feather... you now?
It really depends on what the person is going through in the moment and how greatly it is effecting them internally...
I don't think that anyone is in that state all the time... Everyone has their moments of both clarity and frazzled rattling on and on about nothing important to anyone but them.
I am very good at avoiding all people, all the time when I can at all help it! I prefer avoiding all kinds of people draining or otherwise...
Because all people suck and where they feel superior on the one hand... they are usually severly lacking on the other somewhere that even and especially they can't see it!
2007-04-17 07:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do have the wisdom to avoid those kinds of people and I also have the character to speak my mind and set those people straight. I don't beat around the bush.
2007-04-17 07:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lonely Bàstard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup.
I know this might sound mean, but I walk out of the room the moment they walk in. I don't even wait until they come close to me. That way, they cannot say I avoid them (even though I do), since I walk out before they see me.
2007-04-17 07:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by winter_solstice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the wisdom - etched in my brain. However, I tend not to listen to my brain and find myself in a conversation or trying to help someone else who is. I wish I would listen to my brain, and my heart more often and try to avoid some people.
Sometimes you just don't see it coming!!
2007-04-17 07:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly no longer alot on the 2nd, maybe in 10 years time i will have issues that are useful provided that i'm purely 18 on the minute... yet pal & relatives will continually be useful .
2016-12-29 04:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by groschel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally yes, I am a firm believer in that. But it is easier said than done when you're talking about people you're stuck at work with, or family members.
2007-04-17 07:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-04-17 07:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nice pic.........yes i finally do, it took me awhile to assert myself and be honest with myself before actually following through with the actions, and well my psychiatrist gave me great reading material, etc............
2007-04-17 07:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by alex grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋