People are criticizing me because I want a baby shower for my second child.
With my first, I had to move the date of the shower, so only like 10 people were able to come.
I am going to have a party to welcome my new child.
Is this wrong, am I asking too much from people.
The kids will be about 19 months apart.
I just gave all of the newborn clothes away, and just got rid of bottles before I found out.
2007-04-17 04:31:48 · 19 answers · asked by amber_ledford07 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
OMG u have got to be kidding me!!! People are criticizing you because youre having a baby shower for your 2nd child?? Well i see NOTHING wrong with it! Both of your children are special not just the first one. I know several people who had more than one shower. My mom has me and my little sister where 18 mos a part she had a shower 4 us both. My sister in law has 3 kids had a shower for all 3. my other sister in law has 3 kids had a shower for all three. The list goes on and on and on oh and my cousin started not to have a shower for her 2nd son because of what someone said but eventually she decided to have one....
dont let someone take your fun away. have the baby shower!!!!
Good luck and congratulations!!
2007-04-17 04:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by lovely 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Wow I cant believe these people who answered you.. And I cant believe your "friends" I mean maybe its because I came from a small town but all my friends and family throw showers for every baby. Even if you have 10!! I mean I understand if you thought the 19 month old was the last one, so you got rid of the clothes. And if the first is a girl and the second is a boy, then it dont matter anyways. I say have it and if it means having a little one at your house or whatever, and you will see who your 'true" friends are. Babies are a gift from God, and they should be welcomed with open arms. Even if it is a family member or friends millionth kid I would still buy them something that says Congraulations on your baby. These people are rude. And if all else send me an invitation and I will be there!! Good Luck and Congratulations on your new addition to your family.
2007-04-17 04:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by dtodd46 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is nothing wrong at all with having a second baby shower. If parents kept every single thing they used with their kids since they were born, they would be insane. Once your kid grows out of stuff, you naturally want to weed some of it out. I had a shower for my second baby and it was great. My sister-in-law threw it for me and I got almost everything I needed. I got rid of a ton of stuff since my oldest was turning four. Anyway, there is no rule that you can't have a second or even third shower. Have your shower guilt-free. Don't let other people tell you that you can't have a party for your new little blessing. Good Luck!
2007-04-17 04:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by that's_kooky! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think *every* baby, whether it's your first or your fifth, deserves a shower. Every new baby represents a change in your family dynamic, and each child is a brand new joyful reason to celebrate, in my opinion. If no one else is kind enough to offer to throw you a shower, then by all means, have a "Welcome Baby Shower" after your new little one arrives.
I love attending a baby shower after a baby is born. You know how big the baby is, the sex, and whether baby will be breast or bottle fed. It makes it very easy to buy a gift!
And if you send shower invitations and people send their regrets, fine. But I bet people will surprise you and you will enjoy and nice baby shower.
Congratulations on your impending new addition!!
2007-04-17 05:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Diaper Cakewalk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say...No it is not wrong, but I would to have a small shower. Maybe just the family, they will understand that you did not have a big one the first time and be a little more understanding to your situation. Also you might try having a diaper party, that way you can invite everyone and have a party, and if they want to bring you a gift for the baby that is their choice but they for sure have to bring diapers "all sizes" cause that is what you will need the most!
2007-04-17 04:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by jen_reynolds6 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I personally don't see a problem, but why should someone buy you a gift that already bought you one from the first one? Then you gave it away. Have a party to celebrate but I would not request gifts from people that already gave you gifts for the first shower.
2007-04-17 05:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, I think it's okay. You don't have to make a real big deal about it. Just invite family and really close friends. They shouldn't mind, especially if they didn't come to the first shower.
Update: Wow, sounds like someone on here is against you having a baby shower too. Whoever the etiquette expert is, please identify yourself and correct all of us. Or, better yet, just don't go to her shower.
2007-04-17 04:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsar99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually baby showers are only for first time mom's.
but maybe you could have a re-gifting shower.
This is where friends and family bring you items they no longer need for their child. So you aren't asking them to purchase anything. Just give you things you may have just given them, or maybe they can shop thrift shops, and yard sales for used items, and not asking for new things.
2007-04-17 05:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not wrong to give yourself a baby shower! Especially if the new baby is a different sex than the first. Who cares what others think. I would call it a "celebration of the upcoming child". I think it's nice to celebrate each child's coming because it's such a miracle. Good luck!
2007-04-17 04:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would say have a small get together with friends and your closer family. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Family and friends should always buy a little gift even if it is your 2nd or 3rd child. Thats common courtesy to welcome the little one into the world. Good Luck!!
2007-04-17 04:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋