I was butt buddies with this guy four years ago but we are still friends (and if i want i can still call for the butt) but i don't...so my friend sees him on my friend's list and says he is fine and remember the stories i've told about him...so i go to her house and she is on the computer with him (she wrote him first)...so she tells him that i am there and i start talking to him on instant messenger since i haven't spoken to him in a minute...i've known this girl since 7th grade....SO
1. should i be more upset than what i am...i think they are two grown people (me and the guy never had a relationship)...but i was surprised when i saw that she was talking to him
2. Is she really my friend...he asked me if it was cool and said if i didn't want him to speak to her anymore he would stop the conversation...she has yet to ask me
3.or should i say whatever and have with both of them....
2007-04-17 03:48:11 · 17 answers · asked by fatiegurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
At the moment i'm not mad at the situation. I'm just surprised at the fact that she went to my friend's list and initiated the conversation with him. do you think she should have asked me or tell me that she was going to start writing him...I'm not a jealous or hateful person when it comes to my friends...but i think it is more respectful to approach the person with your intentions...right?
2007-04-17 04:15:05 · update #1
If he was trying to get with your friend that's one thing, but this is one of the commandments good friend do not break "Thy may not hump Thy friend's ex." Even though you and this guy were only cutty buddies, you still had a sexual relationship with him. You're friend's a skeezer, she should have asked your feelings on it first. Let her know it bothers you, and if she's a real friend she'll leave him alone.
2007-04-17 03:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by atlchick1983 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't called this guy for "butt" in so many years (even though you still can) than let him go! Unless you want to ruin a friendship over a guy who obviously means nothing to you. Why should your friend ask permission to be with a guy who's not your ex-boyfriend, who you don't even care about at all? If you're jealous that he's into her now and you're on the sidelines than that's just some personal issues that you need to work out on your own and not blame on your friend. Let your friend have her fun and don't let it ruin your friendship! It's not worth losing someone you love over a booty call!
2007-04-17 03:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you the one who decides if these 2 should date, or hook up, or whatever? If they want to get together, it's not any business of yours.
The only exceptions are if you know that one of them is either infected with an STD, or else deliberately setting out to use the other - for sex, to get money, etc. Then you are obligated to tell the other one the truth. If they continue on, it's their own informed choice to do so.
2007-04-17 03:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me relationships are particular, this is why i've got no longer had to many. yet to narrate on your tale. final twelve months I had an strategies-blowing lady pal. she had all of it!. sooner or later all of it ended however. she gave me a word and it didnt say plenty, as nicely asserting she became into sorry and that she cherished "different" human beings. It incredibly tore at me for the longest time. we stopped asserting hi in the halls, and that i basically did no longer care approximately something. i became into depressed in the direction of alotta stuff. i became into stupid back then cuz now i understand its no longer the tip of the international. yet I nevertheless incredibly cherished her on the time. I basically never have been given the nerve to "attempt" to ask her out back. i became into to terrified of the respond. What if she stated no? then i could have been much extra unhappy. So I basically enable it go. there have been different women, yet I nevertheless cherished her and that i might nevertheless go out along with her back then. That became into final twelve months however. basically those days however I asked out yet another lady that has been catching my eye. She stated definite and we've been going for 2 weeks!!. i'm over the different lady now, yet basically bear in strategies that there are different adult adult males available. basically stay existence. Nate sounds like an incredible guy! follow him for now, yet to restoration this subject I propose which you in ordinary terms attempt to construct your previous relationship with Eric, the place you 2 have been basically friends, then shop going from there and you 2 may even come again jointly later on. in my opinion, i think of he nevertheless likes you if he stares at you with unhappy eyes....Its what I used to do
2016-10-22 10:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think if she was really your friend she would have talked to you about it before trying to hook up with him. Friends with benefits still fall into the ex category when comes to a friend trying to get with them. She should have asked what you thought about it, or just stayed away completley.
2007-04-17 04:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you upset? he's not an ex and you haven't even talked to him recently until the day on messenger. unless you have feeling for this guy i don't even get why you care. i think you just need to mind your own business
2007-04-17 03:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by JM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ew, that's gross... why would your friend wana mess with some guy you've already messed with?
you were the one who put all this thought and imagination in her head bout how he was and what not, so now she's curious. so.... you kinda brought this on yourself.
and... that's nasty! for someone to wanna hit that after you already did??
2007-04-17 03:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Skittles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is your friend wanting to sleep with a guy she doesn't even have a relationship with?
geesh.. there are so many better things to do with your lives than trying to sleep your way around in life....
TRY GETTING A CAREER !!!!!
2007-04-17 03:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why "friends with benefits" doesn't work - we are human brings with emotions.
Leave them alone and get over yourself.
2007-04-17 03:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shoud giver her pointers so she can get stuck.
Honestly maybe you should suggest a 3-some... you both wanna tag this guy, why not experiment a little, its only sex
2007-04-17 03:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Dylan m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋