Why are women who are divorced so bitter and jealous of women with happy marriages?

Question

I mean, they got what they wanted (divorce) why aren't they happy? Were their husband's right, they will never be happy? Just wondering?

Jen...I'm sorry that you're so jealous and bitter, I'll pray for you okay?

I see your other question Jenb..you shouldn't be messing with a married man because your man left your chunky butt.

Apparently not as OLD as you jennb, which could also explain why you're bitter.

Answer 1

I think alot of women blame the man for their unhappiness. Maybe the divorce wasnt what they wanted. The man could have made decisions that left the woman with no other choice.
Divorced women usually have children and are still connected to their ex. Even though they are divorced they still have to deal with eachother for the children. Divorces make people nasty.
I think women are naturally jealous anyhow. And some women as men are never happy.

Answer 2

I don't think that divorced women in general are bitter/jealous...I had the best time at my best friend's wedding and love spending time with her and her husband, even though I'm divorced 9 years.
If you meant specifically bitter about a happy marriage for their ex...it's probably more about the new couple testing her reactions, the whole awkwardness of it all, maybe even smugness coming from the ex ("you see? I am loveable, and you are not").
On the other hand, I'm not going to a wedding of a collegue today, because I don't enjoy going alone to these things. But meeting him and his wife would be cool, for lunch or whatever. It's not being jealous, it's the same reason I don't go to clubs or bars or whatever without a friend or date.

If you are dealing with a woman who shows these traits, or simply know of one, try to look closer at the woman as a person. That's where the answer lies.

Answer 3

First of all you are stereo typing women. Not all divorced women are bitter and jealous. I am divorced and happier than I have ever been. I wish married people good luck, and hope that they have a long and happy life together....pretty much before you ask a question word it right...it should have asked why SOME women are bitter toward others that have a happy marriage.....

Answer 4

i think you're way off saying divorce is what they wanted. there's a lot of people who are totally heart broken over their relationships. i think the people are jealous because it's human nature. people always want what they don't have. and people are bitter because of a bad breakup. maybe they were cheated on or left for someone else. it's hard to say because there are so many situations that might have happened. just focus on your own marriage and keep that happy and don't worry about other women and their issues

Answer 5

Don't be so judgemental. You never know when your own marriage could fall apart. Don't be so sure theres not another woman waiting on him when he steps off the plane today Ms. Girly. Don't be naive enough to believe it could never happen to you. You're certainly no Halle Berry, No Jennifer Lopez, No Janet Jackson, No Jennifer Anniston, etc. What makes you think you could never become a divorcee. And it really seems by the additional details you keep adding to your question that you are the bitter one. One last thing about your comment calling Jenna "old". You know theres only one way to keep from growing old, and that is to die young.

Answer 6

That is an offensive generalization. Not all people want a divorce, is not easy to break up a family, so hold on to your inmature judgements.

I'm divorced and I'm neither bitter or jealous. I'm extremely happy for myself and for others. For your information, you don't need to be either married or divorced to be happy.

Good luck

Answer 7

I think you are over generalizing.....I don't know many women that are married that are very happy.....they all just look tired all the time....

I have learned from life experience that those that have to go around convincing everyone else of "their" happiness are not really all that happy.

And one more thing...marriage doesn't guarantee anything.....you can get cheated on, or have financial disasters....anything..married people aren't immune to life's problems...in fact, it oftentimes just creates more....

Answer 8

Hi Kali,

Why don't you put yourself in their shoes and think about it.

For eg:what if your mom was a good woman and your father divorced her for infidelity and sleeping with other women,hahahha your stepmom to be,and because of lust and greed he divorced her.

Or

For eg: What if your mom was the biggest flirt she liked to bed with all men and didn't like a your father for many reasons,like abuse,assaults,maybe you being the daughter some father threathen their wife of raping their daughters maybe if you were to be raped by your father,,hahahhaha how does it sound??

There are many issues.

Answer 9

Because (this is going to sound sexist) women in general are quite jealous in nature. They never show it to the guys faces but they are.

I pritty much agree with the person above its all about the happieness that the other person shares with your ex, i mean you was there why couldnt you be that happy. Happyness is a mindset as well, being in a happy state of mind attracts people to be happy and happy people to be attracted to you.

Answer 10

I think it has more to do with the fact that someone else can make their ex happy, where they couldn't. I know my husband's ex is tormented by the fact that we are married and they couldn't stay that way. She tries to pass it off as being happy that she has her freedom, but you see her true feelings when we are around as to how truly and obnoxiously jealous she is!