So the classic married so long, she is completely uninterested in sex, even on birthday's. So will it be wrong to go to a house of disrepute / massageparlour and pay for the pleasure ?
2007-04-17 03:02:34 · 53 answers · asked by Harryboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a divorce and get yourself a thai bride. Much better.
(make sure your thai bride is infact a female before you marry her though)
2007-04-17 03:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Are you happily married? Is sex the only problem? Typically, you will find out that the lack of interest in sex is the result (not the cause) of many marital problems. The question you should be asking, is not whether or not you should pay for sex, but rather, what you could do to get your wife interested in sex again. Think about what has changed in your lives. Are you physically out of shape, that perhaps she no longer finds you attractive? Has she grown out of shape, and she feels unattractive? Is she depressed? Does she have a lot on her mind? What do you do around the house to help her? All these things can be reasons why she is not interested in sex. She may have a low sex drive, and may require a little more work, but if you really want to, you can get her interested in sex again. Have an open conversation with her, find out what is going on in her mind, how she really feels about the whole situation. Also, if you have made a routine out of sex, that may be part of the problem. Mix it up a little bit, take her for a night out, and then don't go home, go to a nice hotel room instead. Don't give up on your wife, and also, don't run the risk of ruining your life or your wife's by catching a VD. If you really want to go to a massage parlour, tell your wife, heck, take her with you, have her get a massage too. Who knows what may happen.
Put a little more work on trying to restore your wife's sex life, and less time on taking yours somewhere else.
2007-04-17 08:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Mr she might be depress ask her whats wrong and what is the problem and don't pay and don't forced for it. I think she is depress and may be you did some thing that's why she didn't want sex.
Now do some thing on a weak end wake up in the morning and take her for a walk or jogging and do breakfast and try to care about her if she didn't like any thing then don't do it. Spend the whole day with her tell her that you love her too much and be romantic with her. Take her for the shopping buy her clothes and whatever she wants. Take her to the parks and try to make her open so that she 'll tell you what she feels and what is the problem with her.
I promise if you give her time and care about her then she 'll be fie with you. At night take her to any fancy restaurant and do a great dinner. After that i hope so she 'll be happy and go home and touch her face and tell her that she is so beautiful for you and take her to the bed and you know what you have to do. All she need is your attention and your importance and specially your love.
Hope it 'll work for you. Best of luck
2007-04-17 07:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong. No compromising in that. Talk to your wife. There may be some reason's that is keeping her away from sex. Probably the work load or some issues that she is unhappy with. Bring her somewhere else and talk if she is not opening up at home. Probably a holiday or something. Deal the problem together. I'm sure you wont be happy to find your wife paying someone for sex while you are in trouble. Obviously you will want her to share you bad times as well as your good times. So she is in the same situation. Talk to her and try to resolve her problem and i bet she is will like how she was.... all the best and dont think of negative things or ideas.
2007-04-17 03:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
.Hey to each his own.
*BUT if your sex life has gone down the toilet, and she is no longer interested...you may want to look into why that is. It could be for numerous reasons, but have you ever sat her down and actually discussed this with her to see what the hell is going on?
.She may be insecure with herself in some way, or she could even be cheating on you? You have to think of all possibilities for her reasoning not to have sex with you...her own husband.
*I'm not sure if you have already discussed this with her or anything, but I am going to assume you have not because you didn't mention it. So before you run off and go paying some random woman or women for your pleasure that you aren't recieving at home...why don't you figure out why there is a problem at home with you wife first.
.And hey marriage is a two way street, I think w/o trust AND sex it cannot work out. SO what I am getting at is if she is unwilling to talk to you and have sex with you still, even after you two talk...then it's high time you start filing those divorce papers.
*I'm sorry I am not going to tell you seek counseling, because if your marriage is essentially making you unhappy...then honestly there is no reason you should stay in it right? It's the same difference as being unhappy in a standard relationship, usually when people aren't happy they move on.
~My advice to you is that you need to discuss this matter with your wife first and find out what the underlying problem is and why she is acting this way towards you FIRST.
-Because as your wife she should not be holding sex from you, and the funny part of all this is that THIS IS WHY PEOPLE CHEAT !! And women or men cannot understand that?! Why? When someone is not putting forth their effort in a relationship....even if it is sex....it does damage and leads into cheating. Because sex is like an addiction, you do have to have it at some point...and when your spouse won't put out....well I'd be looking elsewhere too.
*Anyways good luck with that.
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2007-04-17 03:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it will be wrong. Think about your marriage and wife instead of your own needs. Is your wife uninterested in sex because she's stressing over bills, her health, a sickness in the family, does she feel unattractive, is she too tired by the time she gets into bed. You can ease her mind by talking with her finding out what's wrong, helping her around the house. Don't ask what you can do to help, just do it. Tell her she's beautiful, (not in bed). Buy her flowers or candy or something you know she loves or has been wanting.
2007-04-17 03:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Pixel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may be paying for the pleasure of a venereal disease, then you will have to explain that to her.
If you have been married for a long time, then she is probably an older woman, and she may need a hormone work up. Its not unusual for a woman going into menopause to lose interest in sex, and need a different approach or some medicine, be frank tell her she is not meeting your needs and its putting a strain on you and to have a check up and make sure shes all right in the hormone department before
going to couples counseling.
Nothing beats good married sex.
2007-04-17 03:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to ask yourself is WHY. Why has it got to that stage where she is uninterested in sex? Admittedly it is a problem because sex is part of a healthy relationship. You need to talk to each other if you value the relationship. Sex is important for most couples. Have you both considered sex therapy? I work in the counselling enviroment and it shouldn't be mocked. Paying for sex is another matter. If she says she is ok with it, I wouldn't believe her. Don't do it.
2007-04-17 09:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww thats a shame,have you tried to talk to your wife about it? Maybe if she knew what you felt about it then maybe she can help you understand why she feel like this and no sexual activity is going on in the marriage. I think that it would be wrong for you to go to pay for sex, it would hurt your wife so much if she knew or found out. Talk to her, this is the only way around it.
Hope everything works out.x
2007-04-17 06:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by ♫мёģąŋ♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you! You know it is wrong so why are you even asking? You owe it to your wife to find a solution for this. Sometimes us married people can get lazy and not really work very hard at keeping each other happy. It takes some dedication and doing a lot of selfless acts for each other. You are probably not close to each other in other ways besides sex. Work on that. Use your money for counseling and not prostitution.
2007-04-17 03:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find the underlying cause of low sex drive it could be an illness or is she not confident about her body. you should work out what the problem and no don't pay for sex it will destroy the marriage talk to her if you can't resolve it think about separation. Good luck
2007-04-17 04:00:39 · answer #11 · answered by babyblueeye2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋