My boyfriend thinks that I should go back to work as soon as we bring the baby home from the hospital. How early is to early and how do I make him understand that I want some time with the baby I just carried for 9 months? I dont want to sound like I dont want people around my baby its just that I want to be able to have time with him too.
2007-04-17 02:52:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
See we are not sending the baby to daycare his mother is going to take the baby. So he thinks that its ok, but what ive been trying to tell him is that its not I want that time its our child not his moms. I just want time with my new family before everyone butts in. I will go back to work I just want a couple of weeks.
2007-04-17 03:07:20 · update #1
Tell your boyfriend that ALL daycares require that the baby be at least SIX WEEKS OLD before puting a baby in daycare. Wait at least that long, if not three months, because you are healing, and baby needs time to bond with mommy.
2007-04-17 02:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by a_k 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Goodness, you tell your boyfriend that you can't go back to work until you are ready! He can just support all of you until you are ready. I think by law the baby has to be 6 weeks old, but depends on the country you live in - if you send him to daycare, that is. You should take your time and enjoy it with your baby, you won't get it back again. Eating baked beans on toast for a couple of months won't hurt anybody.
2007-04-17 03:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too early going back to work is "going right after you bring the baby home". You never know how is going to be when you deliver, some females run into complications & some just have a healthy delivery. The same way you posted your question "How can I make him understand I want some time with the baby I carried for 9 months?" is your answer as well. Let your boyfriend know you want time with your new family & you want time to bond with your new baby. You have all right to stay home & enjoy your new arrival.
Second - mommy needs bonding with the baby, baby needs mommy to nurture him. Baby wouldn't want mommy to leave him right after she finish having him. Baby needs to know you're there.
Third- doctors dont recommend you going to work right after delivery because you're still healing, you're gonna need time off from work regardless of what he wants. He should have consideration about your health. Doc's recocommend you wait at least from 4-6 weeks after delivery or until your post-partum & baby's 1st appointment. They need to know that everything is back to normal before continuing what you was doing before.
Tell him to go back to work if he has a big probem with you spending time with your new baby. You're the first person baby should be spending time with after delivery, not anyone else before you- you carried him for 9 months and you put up with the pregnancy for that long and what comes with it- you should be the first to be with the baby as well. Nobody went through what you went through during them 9 months. Enjoy your baby for them few weeks and then think about work. The first few months is the hardest out of all the rest. The 4-6 weeks period that the doc gives you, you'll need to rest as well and catch up on the rest you missed. Babies have their own schedule when they're born, and you can be hours up at night dealing with baby, & during the day baby wants to sleep, so you'll probably want to rest then too.
Good luck & congrats...
<-------Mommy of 3 & 36 weeks prego with #4
2007-04-17 03:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Lucky Charm♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all a doctor won't let you go back immediately. It is medically necessary for you to be out for 6-8 weeks. If you can afford to stay home then do it, but many women have to work to help support the household. If you really enjoy your job, I would say go back. Many women feel more satisfied and fulfilled in their personal lives if they are doing something other than being a full time mother and wife.
2007-04-17 03:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with your baby until its AT LEAST 8 weeks, the baby needs his/her mommy, especially in the beginning. And like someone else mentioned most day cares require the child to be a certain age. Tell him if you making money is that important to him, then he can get a second job for a little while.
2007-04-17 03:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by ELW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of work you do, but your doctor probably won't release you to return to work until your 6 week checkup. I personally didn't think that was enough time, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Unfortunately not everyone can afford to be a stay at home mom. I would definitely tell him you need the first 6 weeks off though.
2007-04-17 03:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much time is all up to you. Keep in mind that typically your doctor will want you out of work until your body heals. For instance, I had a c-section for my son and I wasn't allowed to drive for 2 weeks and could not return to work for 6 weeks.
2007-04-17 02:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jen B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way for your safety or the baby's you should go back to work before 6 weeks.
Standing or sitting for too long after birth can cause clots (which can cause death if they move to the brain, heart of lungs). Can cause swelling, hemorrhoids, and god knows what else.
2007-04-17 02:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's super selfish of him to say that to you. No one will babysit a child under the age of 6 weeks regardless. So, if you don't do it, he'll have to. And that child should have YOU taking care of it for 6 weeks primarily for those first weeks of life.
2007-04-17 02:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im facing the same problem because of finances, I thought a usual maternity leave was 3 months, you deserve atleast that, tell him to go to work!
2007-04-17 02:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Bored 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋