soooo....I went to the doctor yesterday and it was confirmed Im pregnant!?

Question

My boyfriend knows and just as I thought he had a positive reaction to the whole situation.... now my problem is were getting an apartment together and dont get me wrong im glad about it BUT my dad is moving back home pretty soon I havent seen him in almost 2 years, im scared about telling him I have always been a huge daddy's girl and I know hes gonna be far from happy when he finds out and my mom is going to be dissappointed =( their VERY overprotective,I dont know if I should tell them 1st about my situation. I dont want to tell them alone cuz I know theyll tear me apart emotionally but if i tell them with my BF im scared my dad will hurt him or should I just move out and leave a note or something? my parents aren't exactly the most understanding people they can be very mean and hurtful sometimes....what should I do? and if anyone has anything relly mean to say then please dont bother 2 answer this cuz honestly thats the last thing I need to hear is more negativity =(

Answer 1

why dont u move in, get things sorted with ur boyfriend and THEN tell them? ur not going to be showing for ages so leaving it a week or two until its sunk in with u both isnt going to hurt.
lol, when i told my boyfriend i was pregnant he sat there in stunned silence for AGES (he was told he'd neva hav kids), then i told my dad who i expected to be over the moon, but he just said he was very disapointed in me, but it was my choise blah blah blah, step mum said that i suld try keepin my legs shut...i retorted that i hadn't kept my legs shut once..unlike her who has 4 children by 4 diffo men. mwhahaha. and my mum....well...she hated my babys dad so i knew she'd react badly. i wimped out n told her by text message. which 4 me, although it sounds horrible was the best way 4 me 2 do it. she told me she was going to move 200miles up north, and i'd CLEALRY got pregnant just 2 spite her (well...hardly thinking of her when i was with my boyfriend in bed now was i?!) n i was so horrible to her etc etc.
now...my mums being kinda ok with the pregnancy thing, y'kno, shes gettin all into it, gettin me bits, etc, my dads come to terms he'll hav another grand-daughter and my step mum? well...she aint my family stuff her. dnt like her in d 1st place. the only thing my mums being a pain abt now is she STILL hates my baby's dad...i ahvent' had the guts to tell her we split ("oh i TOLD u he was no gd...mind, not like u culd keep a man if u tried" yes ladies n gents, thats my 'loing' mother) and that was in feb! oh well..

try writing a script of exaclty what u'll say, u've got 2 hav ur bf there, it'll make it look like he's going to take a active role in the pregnancy as well as the babycare. dnt let him hav a hand on ur leg, but holding ur hand. lil bits of body language like this will tell ur parents he's not just sleeping wiv u, but supporting u and he loves u etc etc. i kno this sounds daft, but get a book out the libary on body language!!! u'd b amazed how much it helps! and wen u say the magic words "im pregnant", tempting as it may b 2 sound sheepish n put ur head dwn, say it in the happiest voice possible, wiv a HUGE grin etc. the more possitive u r abt it the more likely they'll react possitively too!!!

good luck. and congrats on the baby!! i was a daddy's lil girl too, it just feels like ur going 2 ur dad n saying "hey look daddy, i had sex and guess what!?!?!" lol. but he'll hav a lil princess from his lil princess...think abt it dat way. buffin can take away the fact ur his princess, he'll just hav 2 face it that ur growing up..well...grown..

Answer 2

Well I really wouldn't just leave a note, they might not take that too well. At the end of the day you are pregnant and you and your partner are over the moon about it so in the grand scheme of things that's all that matters. My advice would be to sit down with them on your own and tell them you're pregnant and before they get a chance to rant at you just tell them if they are going to yell and shout at you you'll just walk out. You don't need it in your condition and make sure you tell them so. This is your life and your baby. Tell them they can either support you or butt out. I know it'll be hard and you might not want to say these things but you don't have to say it in a mean way, just get your point across. You are going to be a parent yourself now so they can't push you about and treat you like a child anymore. I wish you the very best of luck. Try and let me know how it went.
P.s and do it the sooner the better so you can get on and enjoy your pregnancy. xx

Answer 3

You are in a tough spot, I think you need to be careful but honest. I have a young daughter and I would be beside myself if she ended up pregnant at an early age. If you and your BF are responsible and capable of handling being parents you need not put much thought into worrying about what anyone else thinks. I think an honest letter to your parents telling them your situation and your fears may be the best, but if you are afraid for yourself or your boyfriend you may want to wait. You don't need to take a negative verbal beating from anyone including your parents, you know what happend, why it happend, and the responsibility you take with any decisions you make from here on out. Just try to do the next right thing, everything will work out fine.

Answer 4

well, I would say wait until your pregnancy miscarriage rate drops by more than half....just to make sure you will have a successful pregnancy and wont have to go through unnecessary stress if you know your parents are going to be rough about it. That is usually about 12 weeks and most women don't show before this point. Next, Since both of you are the baby's parents and you dont want to go alone, it may be better that both of you go see both of your parents. Set up a meeting with them and let them know this is very important and that its something you would like their support with.It should be better the baby's father is there, not only showing that he is in support of you and the baby but to be there if your parents want to speak with him as well. Even though it would be so much easier to write a note, that is so much less meaningful than going to speak with your parents. Usually when we think our parents are going to blow things up, they turn out to be somewhat helpful. You may still catch a little negativity from them but in the long run I do feel they would appreciate you speaking withthem much more. GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!!!

Answer 5

If you cant face telling your parents by yourself or with your boyfriend, do you have an older female relative or friend of your mums that could come with you and help keep things a bit calm.

Your parents might be a bit disapointed with you because they will mainly be surprised as they will still see you as their little girl, they probably dont want to admit that you are sexually active let alone pregnant. That will pass especially after you have the baby.

Good luck xx

Answer 6

If your dad puts any hands on your boyfriend he will go to jail. Both of you should tell your parents the big news, your parents will just have to deal with it, you and your boyfriend have a family of your own starting, do what you guys think is best for your own family. Congratulations on your pregnancy and wish you good luck as you start a new chapter in your life, it's up to your parents to decide if they want to be a part of it. Perhaps tell your parents together in a public setting such as a restaurant then they will have no choice but to keep themselves in line with all the public around.

Answer 7

Well first of all Congrats! That's good that your b/f is being positive, and that you guys are going to move in together, Don't just leave a note though, I know how you feel b/c it would be the same way with my parents, and believe me i would ABSOLUTELY move in with my b/f and his family, unless we could get an apt. at the time. Just talk to them in a way that's not like your asking permission but a calm way of telling them it's gonna happen you know? I understand you don't want to hear them get upset i wouldn't either, but they are your parents dont you owe them at least this much, to tell them face to face? Good Luck though and Congrats again!!

Answer 8

You're unmarried and pregnant and think your mom is OVER PROTECTIVE? Give us a break. You and your "BF" will be split in a couple of years and these issues will seem minscule.

Just start talking and start figuring out if and how you can keep the father involved. And see if you are really in love.

I agree with many of the positive things said above about children etc. I like the one about going out to dinner together for the discussion.

Answer 9

wow! A baby, congratulations! Baby's are wonderful. I would suggest that if you want to be mature about your whole situation you should confront your parents in person with your boy. After all it was both of you that played this part. It's hard but I understand you because I'm going through the same thing.Just think how you are going to tell them and one things for sure dont' let no one convince you that you should abort because the least thing that you would want to do is take someones chance to live. Hope this works. God bless you

Answer 10

The first thing to do is to show your parents that you are treating this in an adult manner and expect to be treated as an adult. Schedule a time with your folks for a family meeting. Have your boyfriend AND his parents there. If his parents aren't an option, call on another adult your parents will repect. maybe a minister or close relative. Break the news to them tell them you love them and go on from there. It's your life now, good luck with it.

Answer 11

This just happened to my cousin and even though it was really loud in their house from the screaming after a few days it was back to normal. I suggest that you tell your mom first and then tell your dad because your mother is probably more understanding. And if you are over 18 and you don't belong to your parents anymore so it doesn't matter what they say, it's your body not theirs. You could do what you want with it. Good Luck!