30yrs old, newly single and suddenly find myself quite alone
2007-04-17 01:42:17 · 22 answers · asked by sally 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi Sally let me tell you first of all your not sad girl there are many others in the same boat! I'm 30 next year and i seem to lose friends over the years either we've gone seperate ways or they turn out to be not such a good friend after all if you know what i mean, sometimes i feel sad and lonely just like yourself although i do have friends a lot of time i feel like i have to do the ringing and arranging with them all the time to see them, I have kids just like them so it's not that there are busier then me, but that's the way life is now, i'm sorry to say the world is a very selfish place and ppl do only worry about themselves (i know many ppl will dissagree) but that's how i see it day in and day out. it would be ideal if you could be introduced to new ppl through someone you know maybe a friend or family or work collegue if you work, although it's fun and easy to talk to ppl on the net just be very careful if you plan to meet anyone through the net as it can be a dangerous game, you did'nt mention if you have kids coz if you have you could always get in to clubs, activities etc always good to meet ppl that way. And if you don't have kids then you could always join a club maybe a gym, or go bingo or look in your address book there's bound to be someone you've lost touch with. i just resently meet up again with an old school friend and now i'm sure we wont lose touch again. Wheres theres a will theres a way! don't give up and remember there's nothing wrong with wanting to meet new ppl. I wish you all the best and hope you find some nice ppl that will treat you right. x =)
2007-04-17 02:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despair no more and forget that lonely sadness. The answer my friend is through the web. Its there you will surf for the type of friend you have in your dreams. Looking for a good friend whether on the web or by any other means depends on the luck which you either have or you don't. Iam not scaring you but think of this. A man goes to fish and pulls out a poisoned fish. He hurries home with a big appetite and that evening he gets a delicious meal. Next day he is admitted for food poisoning. That is the world , you look around for something you desperately need and when you finally get it, it gives the "headache" of a lifetime.
So dear friend, look around consciously and hope for the best from the internet.
2007-04-17 03:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kwizza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what you like? Go where you are comfortable. dont try and be Mr. Personality, wait, observe and if you see someone with the same interests as you, sing a song you like as well, or drinking the same beverage as you, be short and cordial and make your opinion and feeling known, the conversation should grow from there. Befor you know it you are discussing other things, meeting for a movie, sporting evsnt, or just a excursion to the park, where you can let the friendship expand.
2007-04-17 01:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find what it is you like doing. Join a sport or come up with a hobby which you've always wanted to try but never got around to. I'm sure you'd make new friends there and what's better is that you'll be doing something you love.
2007-04-17 02:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try joining some sort of club and then you can have a new hobby and make new freinds aswell or how about inviting some old friends out and asking them to bring some of there freinds aswell so you will be with people you already no and meeting new people at the same time.
2007-04-17 01:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by sammie21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ... making or even finding new friends is can be very difficult ...why dont u try myspace.com its fun and exciting and alot off ppl are on there for friends .. try it see how u go if u dont feel comfortable about that why dont u join a gym or even a dance class great fun and a work out !!! 2 in 1
luv leash xoxo
2007-04-17 01:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by leashy4u2luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to a small friendly pub which had a great live band . The same crowd went every week and people soon started talking to me.
2007-04-17 04:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by caroline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, TRY ( i know it's hard) but try not to feel so sad or so desperate, and it'll happen a LOT easier for you -- almost by accident!!! (or so it will seem) and when you are happy with you, and not so UNhappy to be with you, others will enjoy being with you, too!!! and when you are happy with you, you will look happy (and NOT desperate) too, get it? it comes from inside, and it's contagious! :^) good luck!! (i know you can do it!!) take care- grmmynet
2007-04-17 01:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by grmmynet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on chat room, chat to ppl on here i did and now i'm talk to mostly everyone around the world lol, go to partys,night club HAVE SOME FUN!!! u'll soon find someone
i hope u'll find a new mate and soon u'll be less alone if u want a mate just mail me k on caerphilly2009@yahoo.co.uk thanks x and have fun
i hope this helps if not i am sorry and i hope it turns out the way u want to turn out to be!
2007-04-17 01:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out! Hit the night life, you can still be young. Try to meet friends of your friends (I'm sure you have at least one).
And don't be scared to introduce yourself. Get out there and socialise! :)
2007-04-17 01:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋