is it wrong ?

Question

that i feel every person in my life is expendable meaning if they dont wanna be here in my life for whatever reason i am not gonna cry about it i freely let them walk . i have told my wife that. as long as both of my kids get the child support they are entitled to and taken care of whats the big deal. kinda waste of time to have people around you who dot wanna be

Answer 1

It is not wrong, i think you're just being true to yourself, i wish everyone was that honest. I do believe in the idea of marriage in terms of growing old with someone that you're compatible with but you should not be stuck to the same person for the rest of your life (sexually), it's not natural. And if things do not work out move on, life is tooooo short to please everyone.

Answer 2

I agree with the fact that you shouldn't try to keep someone around that doesn't want to be there. That of course just makes everyone involved miserable. However the way you are saying it is kind of cold like you don't care about them one way or another. your words are saying I don't want you here and I don't need you here. No one wants to hear that so you are pushing people away from you not letting them freely walk as you state.

Answer 3

You sound like a sociopath to me, with no feelings ,and a very selfish attitude to life. I feel sorry for your wife and children and I expect they are suffering greatly because of your mental illness. You probably don't think you need to see a doctor because that is part of your condition but if you feel anything for them at all you should go and tell a doctor exactly what you have said on here.I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

Yes, it is one thing to be strong enough, or to have a support system to help out should something happen to you or your spouse. But to say, "Hey, if you leave, big deal, I will get by just fine" implies that you do not have any feelings for them, they served the "job" that you needed done and are really no longer needed, but you "allow" them to stay around. Everyone likes to feel needed and loved, your wife is no different.

Answer 5

Your philosophy is fine except for little things like 'love' and 'commitment' and 'potential depression' that seem to be coming from your statement.

Why not look for the good in the people in your life? Be grateful for the little things, their attention and concern, the fact that they rely on you to fulfill a unique role in their lives.

A little gratitude will go a long way to making you feel better about them and yourself.

I love the people in my life as an extension of the love I have for myself--I figure they must be pretty special, just because they're mine.

Answer 6

I can understand you not wanting to stay with your wife if you've lost the love for each other. But are you saying that you are willing to cut out your children, too? Money is not a replacement for a father.
Do you have depression issues, or have you been diagnosed as a sociopath, because that's how you're coming across?

Answer 7

Now you should take a look , a hard look at why your like that.
You should try to remember that some people NEED to feel that you care enough about them that you would fight to keep them around.....oddly enough....some people count their worth in the other persons eyes by seeing how far that person is willing to go.
Some people would see you as being self centered....I don't know you or your entire situation so I"M not saying that, but by how you've explained yourself in your question...that's what i was thinking....good luck...

Answer 8

No, it's not wrong to be that way.

Are you sure that is 'really' how you feel though?
Have you given time to think about it?
Maybe you are just going through a phase?

Not trying to condone your feelings at all, just hope you give it some more thought/time so you don't make any rash decisions that you may seriously regret down the road a bit. (Especially concerning your children)

G' luck.

Answer 9

Well yes it is wrong. People get married and have children in order to have a family! And if marriage goes not the expected way kids are still there expecting love from BOTH parents! Even if they don't tell it....

Answer 10

I don't know if it is wrong, but it is definitely cold.
Sounds like a defense mechanism to make you feel like you will never be hurt by anyone....I'm not a shrink but I do know people. The world is not black and white....there's a lot of grey out there, but you just made it black and white. Hope this approach works out for you.