Should I confront him on my suspicions? All my friends tell me to just leave him without even talking about it, (even though I dont have any real proof of anything) but my cousin said I should keep my suspicions to myself and try to seduce him with sexy clothing and romantic getaways. I'm very confused on what to do.
2007-04-17 01:02:25 · 15 answers · asked by Kim B. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love this man and there are no other factors affecting your relationship, then you must talk with him first, especially considering you have no current proof of his misdeeds. Furthermore you deserve (and need) to know the truth. Explain your suspicions and see what he has to say, (don't accept obvious excuses like working late, make sure he is able to put your concerns to rest). If he is unable to do so, then you must leave and I would also advise to be tested if you have any reason to believe this man is having an affair with anyone. Best of luck to you.
2007-04-17 01:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be unconventional but I would say love your husband, show him you care, and let him care for you too. People make such a big deal out an affair, humans weren't built for monogamy. You only have one life, why can't someone have a physical attraction to more than one person and be free to act on it upon mutual consent? Ah, yes, jealousy. Which is a lowly emotion, born of insecurity. Of course, I don't believe in a double standard either. If you had an affair, how would hubby take it? Would he flip out? In that case, he's a hypocrite. If he would take it in stride, I think you've got more than half the human race beat in being psychologically mature. It seems your only issue here is that you don't like it that your husband would rather you not visit him at his workplace. So, why this big need to do so? Can't you meet him for lunch somewhere else? Anyway, I am glad to hear that you are actually closer now and that you love being with each other. That is the key. The other stuff is just . . . stuff. Good luck.
2016-05-17 07:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG it sounds like you have already talked to the whole town about this, but not him. What if you are wrong, you have all of your friends and some family looking at him differently now. And what if you are right but you decide to try to work it out and now you have all of your friends and some family looking at you differently. No matter how this works out, you have screwed up how you handled this.
BTW I think a gay affair, is a different deal then a straight one. A gay man trying to live straight is not gonig to be happy long term. If he is gay, then he has to admit it to himself and to you, then you can set him free to live the life he should be living.
2007-04-17 01:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you've got to find the facts. You "think" isn't good enough. Untill you have the facts, you need to protect yourself by either avoiding sex altogether or using adequate protection. (If you are having it at all..)
If you love him, you want to make it work and you're angry and want revenge at the same time. what do YOU want? If you want HIM - do what you did in the beginning of your relationship 'till he comes back - don't care what anyone says.
If you don't - let him go. How you do it is up to you, but whatever you do - get CLOSURE - that means make sure you say everything you NEED to in order to close the door. If you don't NEED to say anything, then don't.
2007-04-17 01:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to any marriage. Get tested for STD's and that could be all the proof you need. I would recommend counseling before leaving. It could be just a mis understanding on your part. It goes both ways.
2007-04-17 01:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by edjumacation 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
man or women it don't matter sweety .. he's goofing around on you and the end is just the same, my ex messed around and that was the end of that 20 years down the drain because its man makes little difference in a divorce court.. just walk on kiddo and get your new life started.. it an'it easy sweety i spent many a day with a box of tissues. sorry honey .. good luck
2007-04-17 01:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♥lois c♥ ☺♥♥♥☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you suspect he's having an affair and why do you suspect it's with a man? If I thought my husband was having an affair I wouldn't automatically think it was a bloke he was seeing.
You need to talk to him about it.
2007-04-17 01:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by emaf1uk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For yourself and your health you should ask him.If he loves you he will tell you the truth and you can then decide what you need to do stay or go? It may not be true and he can explain or it is true and he and you have a decision to make!
2007-04-17 01:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by suzy b 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, you cant just leave him without knowing the truth. U will regret it if you really love him.
2007-04-17 03:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by txladybug_2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bring the other guy over to your place and asked if he wants to have a threesome. If you husband doesn't want to join in then at least you get some fresh c ock.
2007-04-17 01:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by hotjobs_69 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋