My 35 year old sister was badly beaten up by a boyfriend last Thursday. She's now left him and is staying with me. She managed to eat a small sandwich on Friday and Saturday, but since then she hasn't kept anything down and keeps vomiting. She got checked at the local hospital yesterday and they said it may calm down after a few days. However, she can't even keep down small amounts of water. Does anybody have any suggestions on what is causing it. At the hospital they seemed to think it is psychological (nerves), but she feels relaxed and safe at my house and it seems to be getting worse rather than better. I'm really worried that she will dehydrate.
2007-04-17 00:16:28 · 23 answers · asked by debbie t 3 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Injuries
She doesn't want the police involved as I think that would cause her a lot more stress. She's not actually keeping anything down at all, not even sips of water. My Mum took her back to the hospital this morning for a second visit. The doctor there has made an appointment for her with her GP for this afternoon. I can't see that there would be much that her GP could do. We didn't take her to the GP in the first place as we thought they would just send her to hospital where they have the proper equipment to check her out. At the moment, she's willing to stay with me as there is not stress here, but if I try to get the police involved I think that would just drive her away. She's left the guy several times before (even going into a Women's Refuge at one point), but this is the longest she's stayed away from him and I want to keep it that way.
2007-04-17 00:28:23 · update #1
Take her back to the hospital, or to a local doctor. Insist that they X-Ray her and examine her properly, if they did not do this already.
Give her ice cubes to suck on to try to prevent dehydration. There are nausea medications they can prescribe if the cause is not physical. Thank goodness she has you to take care of her.
All the best to you both.
2007-04-17 00:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kella G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-20 08:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly keep the appt with the GP. Explain the entire situation. Do not gloss over the facts so that her ex doesn't get into trouble. She needs help and you both need to be sure there is proper documentation of how abusive this man is. These guys don't like to just let there favorite punching bag walk away.
Explain the difficulty with food and your fear of dehydration.
I am concerned that she isn't keeping anything down and hasn't for several days. She may have damge to her intestines which could create a blockage. Mind you that is only a possibility. I haven't seen either of you.
Here is another piece of advise even though it wasn't asked for: get the police involved. Like your sister I chose not to and thought I was safe moving into my Mom's house. I wasn't. He broke in through the window. I never thought this guy would do this to me. We were to be married in three weeks.
If I had informed the police I would have had more "drive-bys" on my Mom's house and may have prevented what happened to me.
The flip side is I am a much stronger person now and went into Emergency Nursing to help people.
She may choose not to press charges but that doesn't mean that you can't get a restraining order for him to stay clear of your home. She may be angry with you for getting the police involved but I would much rather have an angry sister then bury a dead one.
I wish you both the best of luck.
2007-04-17 01:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey I'm really sorry to hear that your sister has had to go through that, firstly maybe she should think about ringing the police to press charges, women should never have to put up with that treatment! and way her health is the main issue at the moment, she may feel calm but inside she might not be it could be shock or it could be something else! it might be that if she was hit in the stomach it might have bruised it, the hospital would have found something if there was something! you could try ringing nhs direct or go on their website they might be able to help! you could buy some diorolite (no sure how it is spelt) but basically it is a hydration sachets that you mix with water and she just sips very slowly at it! this will help with any salts she has lost from being sick! i hope this helps you both and she will need lots of TLC during this time i hope she gets better soon !good luck and god bless, xx
2007-04-17 00:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by pinkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her to your local GP, or go back to the local hospital. Say its been a few days she seems to be getting worse rather than better, and tell her about how safe she feels in your house.
im not a doctor so i would have no idea what to say it was. she needs to be seen by a doctor soon though if she cant keep down water.
Could have she eaten something bad? like too much dairy or something that could upset the stomach.
do you know a friend who is a doctor ask them to come round for five minutes to examine her and give you furthur advice.
2007-04-17 00:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi luv,
You already know something is' nt right, so take her back to the hospital and demand further investigation. Also I am wondering if she could possibly have a stomach bug that seems to be spreading throughout the country at the moment but I would still insist on further tests at hospital anyway.Give your sister my love from Liverpool and she is blessed to have a sister like you she can turn to.As for her ex, what goes around comes around even if were not there to see it happening.xx
2007-04-17 00:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by skens girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her back to the hospital to be treated for dehydration. If the boyfriend is not in jail, I would make a quick phone call to fix that too. Take good care of your sister. EDIT: After reading the additional details, I again say the asshole needs to go to jail. Your sister needs counselling too. It may seem like more stress initially, but it will be better in the long run.
2007-04-17 00:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your sister was badly beaten by some nasty beast. I think she should go to her GP and seek his advice. Don't be fobbed off by consultants/doctors if you are unhappy with their advice. Several years ago I dislocated my shoulder, but was told by the less than competent consultant who 1st saw me that it was a frozen-shoulder. After enduring 24 hours of constant searing pain in my shoulder, I went back to the same hospital and saw a different consultant. He had my shoulder X Rayed and was thus able to diagnose the problem and sort it out straight away.
2007-04-17 00:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dehydration is serious if left untreated. She needs fluids. Get her to the hospital and the proper authorities need notified so this guy doesn't remain on the street to hurt her or anyone else. There is what is called PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). A psych eval would be prudent also.
Lastly, Contact the missionaries of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in your local area and ask them to administer to her. They will be in your local phone book.
2007-04-17 02:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by swomedicineman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd take her to another hospital and tell the doctor your concerns. It does sound like she has a bit more serious of a problem. BUT I am not a doctor so I don't know for sure. Your sister should be thankful that she has you and or family she can turn to. And as for the boyfriend send him over to my place. (ACUSHNET, MA) I want him to hit me. I can guarantee he won't walk away from me as he did your sister. Tell him I also said he is a WUSSIE.
2007-04-17 01:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋