am in love with a guy who claims that its difficult to get a divorce.he is still living with the wife and he keeps coming with a whole of excuses.he says he loves me and he wants to be with me but he is still living with the wife coz he dont have anywhere to live as l dont want to move in with him as yet .he is broke.does he love me.what should l do.
2007-04-16 22:13:53 · 10 answers · asked by dimples 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's very expensive to get a divorce. It basically costs 1/2 of everything you have. If there's children it's more like 80% plus child support. However, if he really loves you he'll do it. I've done it, not for a lover but due to the relationship being totally stuffed, and had to pick myself up from the floor financially.
2007-04-16 22:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You notify your lawyer and the court that he is not following the temporary order. 2. Don't have any more conversations with him regarding the separation agreement. Let all desires be communicated through the attorneys.. 3. Tell him not to call you unless it is an emergency regarding your kid. if he does not comply. File a police report and pursue a restraining order. 4. If your state is a one party state, then record the non compliance and verbal abuses. Use evidence to get restraining order. If he doesn't want to abide by the order, they will consider making him have supervised visits. You need to put your foot down now or it will never end!
2016-05-17 07:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to walk..no, run, quickly away from this.
If you're not in the US, it can be very difficult and tedious to get a divorce. We do make it considerably less drawn out here than in the UK, for example. Depending on your attitude, that's either a good thing or a bad one.
However, if he was unhappy, he'd get a divorce. I mean, really unhappy. And, you don't want to get involved with someone who isn't available. You'll spend every holiday alone, and if he has no money now, are you going to support him?
Don't sit around waiting for this man. His personal integrity is non-existent, he's obviously an emotional disaster, and he's broke. If you want love, get a puppy, but do not do this to yourself. He's so not going to be worth it for you.
2007-04-16 22:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away as far as possible from this guy. Actually in most cases, its easier to get a divorce than it is to get married itself. This guy is lying to you probably to keep you around for him to use at his will. He has no intentions of ever leaving his family as long as he has the best of both worlds and it would be very costly for him to leave them for you. If he truly wanted to be with you and/or really loved you, hed be with you right now. This is a disasterous scenerio for you with you eventually becoming the ultimate loser in this game. You dont need to be involved with some married idiot that obviously doesnt care who he hurts to get what he wants. You deserve better so move on and dont look back. Good luck
2007-04-16 22:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get a divorce is easy. Just call a lawyer and everything is done by the lawyer. You just have to sign on the dotted line. But in reality, there is more. Like for your case, your bf is financially broke and he has no place to stay and no money to spend. I think you need re-consider this.
2007-04-16 22:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope he doesn't love you, it's not that difficult to get a divorce, all he has to do is get a lawyer and file, if he doesn't want to do that he can file at his local county court house all by himself. IF he had any intentions of getting a divorce it would have been started already. He isn't going to get one, he is just using you. And you are allowing him to.
2007-04-16 22:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him alone to sort out his personal problems while you carry on with life. Playing the fool while a man is two-timing his wife to play around with you is a game that's as old as life.
2007-04-16 22:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not put yourself in that situation in the first place.
NEVER mesh with a married man.. When you do... you are ruining his families life...wife and kids...
Don't think you would want others to ruin yours when you are married as well isn't?
take care..
2007-04-16 22:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must get out of this relationship. Tell him to call you when the divorce is final.
2007-04-16 22:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope did it 2 times, dump his a&&,he,s using u if you,r having sex
2007-04-16 22:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by crengle60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋