my husband pays to see a prostitute, is this ok, its not affecting me so should i just let him continue
2007-04-16 20:42:24 · 28 answers · asked by a_working_wife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some are born to polygamy, some are pushed into it, some ignore it out of empathy, and some out of ineffectuality.
Is it truly not affecting you? Could not a nice dinner out, movie and bunch of flowers (or whatever), and a more personal interaction and exchanging of soul-energies (so to speak) be a better allocation of limited resources and fulfillment of the marriage? Is the sex safe? Are you free to take a lover yourself, if you choose to?
The French commonly allow mistresses to their marriages, and male consorts on the flipside. One would not say it is de rigeur, but it is acceptable.
Great that you know about it though: that's got to be a good thing.
2007-04-16 20:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Master Anarchy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is right or wrong? Right or wrong is different to every person depending on your values and beliefs. If you think its OK, then don't listen to what other people say. Just beware that your husband doesn't pick up any STD's- very high risk if he is having sex with a prostitute, even with condom usage.
2007-04-17 03:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll find that it's not socially acceptable in most places, but who's going to tell them? If it is what he needs, and it doesn't affect your relationship, be open about it, and let it be. Strange as it may seem to some people, this is not an unusual arrangement when one of the partners needs more sex than the other.
2007-04-17 03:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay seriously, why would you want a husband that is getting affectionate with another woman that has a possibility of having STDS? Don't you want to raise a family with your husband? What if he contracts a STD? Make him stop seeing that prostitute. That's wrong and sickening.
2007-04-17 03:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, this is interesting. You have that old school attitude that men will be men. Back then it wasn't okay but at least women didn't have to worry about STDs. I don't know what is worse the fact that he's cheating or that he's cheating with someone who makes a career of sleeping with guys she knows nothing about just to make a dollar. Hmmm.
2007-04-17 03:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by michelle_emu4eva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*This is not a serious question.*
.But yeah if you have no problem with it, then by all means let him enjoys his STD filled prostitutes...and I just hope you are smart enough to at least get yourself checked for any too.
Anyways.....enjoy!
2007-04-17 15:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fine with that then whatever but surely you mustn't like the fact that he's going somewhere else to get sexual pleasure unless you don't want to give him that. Personally if it was me hell no there would never be any way that i would ever consider it to be ok.
2007-04-17 03:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will if he ever give you a veneral disease. If I loved my husband,(I am not married) I would leave him if he was seeing a prostitute!
2007-04-17 03:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends, if you are together then heck yeah it matters, but if not, your right...As much as it disgusts me, its really not affecting you so he can continue to do it!
If you mean you are together and he does it, i think it is wrong! That is just not on.....
2007-04-17 03:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Tamika W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having sex with your husband it should affect you. you need to be worried about getting stds... and its just odd that you are ok with sharing your husband with anyone... maybe you guys should seek marriage counseling and get help. this is not a healthy situation. not for you him, you or if you have children or ever plan on having them with him.
2007-04-17 03:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by bee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋