Its not as simple as it sounds.
ok here it goes. I'm currently dating this girl for more than 2 months now. I think she has an awesome personality and cute... but the problem is I'm not really falling in love with her. I just started talking to my ex (who is like the most gorgeous girl in the world...she's like an angel to me!) a few days ago...and only to find out that she still has feelings for me. I really did loved and still love my ex. Now i'm in a situation where no matter what i choose...someone is going to get hurt badly... I am so freakin lost. I dont know what to do?!?!?
(1) Would it be too bad/cruel to break up with my current gf just be with the girl who i love the most?
or
(2) Should I stay loyal to my current gf...and just sacrifice/disregard my intense feelings of love for my ex?
2007-04-16 20:21:24 · 21 answers · asked by confused zer0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
love . in my opion?
2007-04-16 20:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always always be the one you love...if they love you in return!
You are being unfair to your current girlfriend as your relationship is set totally on lies. You don't love her and it is unfair to be with her if you love someone else. If you break up with her gently and honestly you may even be able to salvage a friendship out of it....but this will be less likely when she finds out your back with your ex.
I would also want to be certain about the feelings that you and your ex have for each other. I have been in the situation where I have got back with an ex because I've thought I was still in love with them, then once back together found the old habits really irritating, only to split up a few weeks down the line. Either way if I was your current girlfriend I would rather be dumped than have somone be with me under pretense.
2007-04-17 15:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kazcatlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont love your current gf then you should tell her, it will be harder for her in the long term if you string her along. Honesty is the best policy. But you have only been together 2 months, so are you sure you wont fall in love with her if you forget about your ex? What happens if you break with your gf and then your ex changes her mind? Your left truely heart broken!
It sounds to me like you moved to quickly into another relationship, if you still love your ex.
I agree you should be with the one you love but ask yourself why you broke up in the first place? can this be fixed or would it happen all over again? people dont just break up for no reason, you need to discuss this with her and then you can decide is it worth the risk? Only you have the answer to this question! Good luck x
2007-04-17 04:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Miss E ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on here... why did you and your girlfriend split up in the first place?? If it was love why did You not stay together. In my own experience the best thing to do is be honest with your current g/f. Tell her you ex has said she still has feelings for you and see how she reacts!! Also the chances are IF your ex broke things off with you she is being selfish and the reasons she has said what she has said is she doesnt want anyone else to have you!! You wil hurt someone whatever way you go just try to make it as nice as possible.
I hope you work things out, xx
2007-04-17 04:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by little kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship "feeling of Love" is the most important. All I can say is follow your heart. Make the decision that you will not regret in future.
My choice will be go back to your ex and let go your current gf. My reason is very simple its better to hurt her now then hurt both of you in the future. If you know that your feeling toward your current gf is only like then better settle it. No matter what you will still hurt her as it's already a wrong action to start a relationship without "feeling of love".
2007-04-17 03:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First your ex could have decieded she still has feelings for you because you are with someone else, it could be a case she doesnt want you but she doesn't want anyone else to either. Why did you break up, its usually not a good idea to go backwards, you are thinking of the good times not the bad.
Secondly, if you have no feelings for your current girlfriend, you need to tell her, and split with her needs be, this is unfair on her, how would you feel, if you found out, she had no feelings for you because she was still in love with an ex, its not a nice situation and it completly unfair on her.
2007-04-17 04:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by portly_pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's right. No matter what u do, someone's gonna get hurt. But you know what? People heal...and they move on. Weren't you about to move on at one point? Face it; we're all replaceable to some point.
Ask yourself to whom you feel more connected to.
You say that you're "not really falling in love" with the new girl. Perhaps you've failed to make that same connection that u had w/ the previous girl. After 2 months, apparently something must be missing for you if you're wanting to return to an old relationship.
Sometimes a new sweater or jacket is just that - it's new. But sometimes an old sweater that you put on has lots of fond memories woven into it that are as real as its fabric.
2007-04-17 04:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by faith_no_more86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on and let me know, should I stay or should I go?
Dude stay where you are, youre ex is going to make you leave a girl youve been dating for 2 months (so of course you dont love her, you dont know someone after 2 months) and once you leave your girlfriend, your ex wont even want you.
Nobody wants to be with someone that will up and leave a person to be with someone else. That shows that you arent a very loyal person in my opinion.
Id never be with a women that left her boyfriend so she could be with me. Even if I did love the girl dearly, theres no way I could trust that she wouldnt do the same thing to me if someone else came along.
2007-04-17 03:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Thats me...A to the D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in every relationship love is the most important thing. therefore i will edge you to choose the one you love. that means you will have to explain to your current girlfriend the situation that you have find your self and that you wouldn't want to hurt her in anyway.
Notwithstanding this, how sure are you that theproblem caused the break up with your ex girlfriend would not surface again. she might have feelings for you but are sure she is a change person (if the fault is from her). think about it. love feels good but love can be blind. i pray that you make the right choice.
2007-04-17 03:42:32 · answer #9 · answered by spankybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think carefully of why you and your ex split up in the first place and if she wants you back because you have some one else, even if the later is the case you still need to think about the relationship your in, if you don't love this girl are you with her to stop you from been lonely, this poor girl could be falling madly in love with you and you cant return the feeling, so do you think it might be wise to finish it anyway instead of leading her on, tell her you like her but don't love her and that it would be unfair on her if you carry on the relationship..don't mention your ex at all to your g/f that really would be cruel
2007-04-17 03:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the one you love. It's better to break up with the girl you're seeing as soon as possible to try and minimise the hurt. I think she'd prefer you just to be honest and would probably be mortified if she knew she'd been your second choice.... If you don't get back with your ex now, you may regret it for a long time to come - life's too short!!
Good luck!
2007-04-17 03:31:41 · answer #11 · answered by LBUK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋