I am pregnant with twins.I don't know the sex but if they are both boys I want to give them the same middle name but my fiance says it's a bad idea.what do you think?
2007-04-16 20:14:43 · 31 answers · asked by beanie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
You're having the babies so you pick the names when he has a baby he can pick the name. Sounds fair to me.
2007-04-16 20:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriff of Yahoo! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are some good ideas here, but I think the main issue is the question you are asking.
You and your fiance are about to have two little bundles of joy in your life. You are going to make some really tough decisions in the coming months and years together. It is important that both of you take the other's feelings and wishes into consideration.
People say that marriage is give and take, but it's really more give and give. Often times we girls get so into the baby thing that we exclude dad, and that can be a big mistake in the long run. However, it's not a good idea either to try to do whatever he wants, he has to learn to give too.
If your fiance really feels strongly that it's a bad idea, consider his feelings and ask yourself if you could compromise on the middle names. If it's not really that big of a deal to him, but you really feel strongly about it, then ask him to consider how important it is to you.
If you just cannot agree, then maybe you two should decide that one person will get to have the final say on the first name, while the other can have the final say on the second. Then you will just have to trust the other person and accept their decision.
The naming of your baby is so important, it should be something special for you and your fiance to share. I guess what it boils down to is that it doesn't really matter what WE think, because at the end of the day, you don't have to share your life with us!
Congratulations on your boys!
2007-04-17 11:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by moonj69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but, I must agree with your fiancé. Children and be head strong and the situation that you could run into down the road is both children choosing to use that middle name. Now what do you do? Force them to use different names and cause them to feel resentment toward you? Or start having to use both of there names every time you call or talk to them. No, I would select two completely different set of names. But, I think until they are 7 or 8 you should dress them in the same outfits, I think that is neat. LOL!
2007-04-17 03:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think they should have the same middle name. I mean there's nothing wrong with it, and if you and your fiance come to terms and decide to give them matching names, it's fine.
however, i think that they should have different names. i mean if they are identical twins, having a brother that looks exactly like you will be enough, and I wouldn't want to add the same middle name to the list. if they are fraternal, a different middle name would give them more of their own character. i think either way the middle name should be different.
it's your choice though. good luck and congratulations. being a twin is fun (i have a twin brother) and hard work. =]
2007-04-17 05:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kiri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see why it could be a bad idea-the whole identity thing, but i guess that is why you would like to do it coz they are in the womb together. i think it can be a nice idea, but i also see the cons. sorry i cant help!! best wishes. just had a thought maybe you could spell it differently? or name them after the same person...or give the first born the chritian name of that person for a middle name and th 2nd born the persons middle name for the middle name?
2007-04-17 03:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by judy.gideon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kenny, I think you fiance is right. They need their own names separate from one and other. Everyone need their own identity and that's why they must have different middle and first names. If you have boys here is 2 names.. Dustin David and Kevin Taylor. For girls.. Sandy Nicole and Jamie Ann. Those aren't 2 bad. Have a nice morning. I forgot Congrats on you twins. Have happy healthy babies and take care of mommy too.
A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-04-17 03:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a bad idea just as long as you keep the first names different. I think it's cute that both would have the same middle name it would bond them closer so they would remember that both are special and mean the same to you.
2007-04-17 08:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Maybelline S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the twins!
I agree with your fiance that you shouldn't give them the same middle name. Although it's cute, it could get confusing and they'll want their own name. You could choose middle names that start with the same letter, though, rhyme or sound alike.
I hope this helps!
2007-04-17 07:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different middle names FOR SURE! They are 2 totally different humans who just so happened to be in the womb at the same time! You need to respect their individuality! They need to be different, and each have their own, personal middle name. They will feel more special that way.
2007-04-17 09:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by dramapiggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not the same name.
when they get older and they both like the middle name better what would they do? be Little Bob and Big Bob?
They are going to be twins for the rest of their life, give them something that is different. You can dress them alike but let them have their own name. Twins are cute and all but let them have something that is just for them.
2007-04-17 03:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be awfuly confusing!
I don't think you should give them the same middle names. Give them their own identity, by giving them their own middle names. It's already hard enough being a twin sharing everything, don't put middle name on that long list too!
=)
2007-04-17 15:09:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋