whats life been like after divorce?

Question

I'm doing a report please help me with this.

Answer 1

Well, my life changed dramatically - for the better. My marriage was overwhelming and I was about to have a nervous breakdown so I am glad I got out of it when I did. But, there have been struggles - financially and mentally that have also been overwhelming. But, I don't regret ending the marriage I am a much healthier person for it. I am in a much healthier relationship and I am much happier - in general.

Answer 2

It really depends, I think it's quite individual. It's a whole different ballgame if you have kids (and I have 2). Some people manage it quite well, for others it's rocky forever. I think (unfortunately) my situation falls into the latter group. But it's certainly interesting!

Email me some specific questions if you have any, I'm happy to help anyone with a report. I've been separated 13 years, divorced 10.

Answer 3

Better some days, worse on others. Lonely sometimes, full of warmth & happiness other times. A lot less fighting/arguing. NO domestic violence since my divorce. I miss him sometimes still. Miss the "family life". It's very hard to get over. Some never do.

Scary to start all over. Too much going on. So many STDs. So many players, so many cheaters, so many abusers, NOT enough NICE guys to go around. Being a single parent is hard. Takes a lot of energy. The reward of having peace in our home is priceless. Well worth the divorce but doesn't make it any easier to deal with the loss of my dreams. My dreams of being married for a very long time. Shattered all those...picking up the pcs one by one. Some days I don't even think about him...most of the days...but then other times...i just can't seem to get him out of my mind. I miss his family. They really liked me a lot and I loved them. My x and I are trying a new thing...trying to get the kids together with the two of us...so they can still feel that happiness when mom & dad are "together" even if it's just while they play at the park.

My x chose to play the field after our divorce. I chose to play it safe. Been with the same man for 4+ yrs. Very hard to not break up when things get tough. I'm working on my commitment issues. I hope to not marry ever again. My x wants to get married again some day. When my relationship falls on hard times I think "I could of stayed with my x if it was going to be like this". So I second guess myself a lot. I know the divorce was neccessary on my part as well as for our kids. I have peace for once. NO drama, except for my b/f's family. I do miss the security I felt from being married. To be able to turn and introduce " this is my husband" everyone takes you so much more serious than "this is my b/f". But marriage hasn't worked out for me. NOT any of them. I am doing much better since our divorce but it doesn't mean I don't love him...just not in love with him. After a divorce the new sig other is usually jealous of the X. Always fearing we might go back. So that much is hard to deal with. Always reinforcing that your NOT getting back...not ever. it's hard but has it 's rewards too...

Answer 4

There is a lot less stress. Marriage had its good points and I can clearly see so does being single. You trade some goods for some bads and vice versa. I was able to take the opportunity to learn how I can have more fulfilling relationships instead of one of constant head butting and bickering. The first year or so is pretty tough. It's much better once you accept the change and move on.

Answer 5

Ok for the report...
Life and divorce are universal, so here it goes from Mexico

After that life continues and you realized you learned a lot even from a failure...I could say I learned more than in college, and was more expensive that Harvard...

Answer 6

It's better for me because I don't have to listen to him cuss at me over stupid things. I can do what ever I want now; spend the money I want ,on what I want.Sometimes people try to control people after they get married and mine was that way so I feel I was relieved from a ball in chain and the lower hand about it is I have to pay my bills all by myself and that's very stressful.Good luck on ur report.

Answer 7

Fantastic, it gave me the opportunity, many years later of course, to find the real love of my life I should of been with in the first place. Divorce is not the end of the world, it just means you chose the wrong person, so you keep looking till you find the one God meant for you to be with. It's heaven on earth!

Answer 8

My daughter-in-law is very sad and can't shake it. She doesn't want to stay in the house with only her son and has him running up and down the road, living out of suitcases, staying with relatives. It breaks my heart.

Answer 9

Frustrating for me but worse for my child.
Different problems but less control.

I was married for 21 years and had a cat for 16 years(the cat died) - I miss the cat more.