How many of you had very good relationship with your mothers during childhood?

Question

I have a friend who has a deep seated hatred with her mother.She didn't get a very good treatment when she was young. Her mom would physically hurt her whenever she commits mistakes,specially when she was in highschool. She said her mom would always tell other mothers how she would sneak out of the house,exaggerate it like she ran away with some guy,when she's actually just going to her bestfriends house. She would go their and spend all day their to avaoid her mom nagging her just about anything. I was her bestfriend,she would always come to my house which is just few blocks away from hers. She would cry to me,and open up about how unfair she's treated by her mom.One time she won this costume contest in school and she was so excited to show her mom but her mom ended up nagging her to death because she took time changing her clothes from the girls locker room.The list of bad memories of her mom would go on.Till now the mom is not very good to her,she continue to carry all the pain.

Answer 1

i did not have that relationship with my mother
i DID with my gramma, and it made ALL the difference
she will need therapy to heal and move on

Answer 2

I am an adult now and when I was 10 years old my mom left my family and because I was the oldest I had to take care of the others. My father started sexually molesting me as well. I hated my mom. I evan told her so over the phone. The best thing I ever did was talk to a friend about how I was feeling. If she is abusive your friend needs to go to the school councilor, or if she is older talk to a councilor because hatred can eat at you and you can become the person you hate. As of today I don't live in the same town as my Mother and choose not to, but I do talk to her weekly. It is hard on birthdays and times like mothers day because when I read those cards that say thanks for always being there I can't get it because she has not always been there. In her old age my mom is paying for her failures. I often pitty her.

Answer 3

My husband is the same way with his father and I can tell you the hurt and the anger never end. Just this weekend due to a sickness in the family his father had to come to Ky from Al. It was the first time in years they had seen each other. It was awkward because his father and I and his mother have mended fences due to the grandchildren. I just pray that in time they will be able to make amends.

Answer 4

I have no relationship with them. There is absolutly no communcation other then me saying I'm going to x and won't be out too late every once in a while.

My parents sheltered me from all the outside, but did nothign to discipline my brother who was causing my life to be a living hell. Of course I would get punished for doing anything though...

Answer 5

I too have a screwed up relationship with my mother. The thing is ........ you have to learn to let go. My saying is that I have had to learn to love my mom from a distance. All I ever wanted was to be loved by her. To be accepted, to have her approval. The hardest thing for me is that I'm never going to get that satisfaction. Yeah, it sucks,but I can only hope to never pass this on to my own daughter. You have to realize that you can't change other people, only yourself. It's taken a lot of years and alot of therapy for me to come to this conclusion. Prayer helps finding a loving God to do for me what I could not do for myself or my mother for that matter.

Answer 6

me and my mom... i lived with her from birth to about 4 years old. and then from 13 onward. we're ok. i mean, i get ticked off at her sometimes and she gets ticked off back and we yell and shout and cry and whatever. but now that i'm basically moved out, i've found that we're actually closer.

some people just weren't made to be mothers. they were only made to be females, but not mothers. they should do a screening at birth or something and make them infertile, so there'd be less screwed up people in the world.