I have a guy friend that i dated off and on since I was 17. We lost touch for a while and when we met back up again he had a 1 year old son that he had full custody of. We got back toghether but it did not work out because of his work schedule and his child. Now I have a nine month old son (and his dad is a loser) my friend wants to get back together and get married. The only thing is he is training to be a federal agent and he might have to relocate to Chicago. What should I do? Should I marry him and relocate?
2007-04-16 15:57:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey! I think if you love him and he loves you, then yes you should relocate. As long as there is nothing that you need to be where you are now for. I don't think you should runoff and get married though, go to Chicago, live with him, let your boys get to know one another, see how everything works out, you never know you both could have different parenting skills, daily habits, etc. I don't see anything wrong with taking a chance. Good luck to you all!!!
2007-04-16 16:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Amber and Parrish H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your situation is hard and like you have gone through alot. Marriage is forever, or should be. From a guys point of view follow your heart. If you honestly believe he is your happily ever after marry him and go along with him and his job were ever it may lead you. If you are not sure where to go and your heart isnt telling you anything, try living with him or think about what opptions would be available after relocating. Maybe in chicago there is a job for you and a great school for your and his child to go to when they are older. Think of it both ways and the pros and the cons. The end result is yours but do what you believe is right.
2007-04-16 16:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Fightnback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? That's the big question. Are you willing to make sacrifices to be together?
If you love him and want to be with him, why not relocate? There are worse things in life than relocating. In my marriage I've lived in Oklahoma, my home state, Louisiana twice, Texas once and Michigan for 15 years.
But if you have doubts, break it off and you your own way.
2007-04-16 16:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what you want to do or how you feel about him. Are you thinking marriage would be compatible because you are both single partners? How would moving to Chicago work for you and your family? These are all questions you will have to answer for yourself. These are all decisions you will have to discuss and decide with him. My advice is don't do it out of financial need. Only do it if you think you love him and more than that like him. God bless and good luck.
2007-04-16 16:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by wonder woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, marry him! Give your children a decent chance at living in a stable two parent home with parents no longer thinking of just themselves, but are now thinking of the boys they've conceived who'll one day grow to be men and want to know what you two were thinking of when you decided not to marry before giving birth to them. Get marry soon, for the sake of your boys!
2007-04-16 16:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question here should be "Should I marry him if I don't love him?"
It doesn't sound like you do, and if its a marriage of convenience, then what will happen down the line with your 2 children?
If you do love each other, what's wrong with Chicago? It's a great city.
2007-04-16 16:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Epiphany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really depend on how you really feel about this man, you stated that you like him, but what about love., both of you
have to look at this for what worth because there are two
children tha will be affected with this decision.
2007-04-16 17:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to stop dating guys and think about this...KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED!!!...But seriously? Don't just go get married becaue somone asks you. You have to love them etc...Also, I never get back together with ex-boyfriends, it always end bad + sounds like you date losers...
2007-04-16 16:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by livelymorphine 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you really loved this guy you wouldn't even be asking us, you would just be busy packing.
2007-04-16 16:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and he loves you and he is comfortable with you going with him then go for it....do what your heart tells you...do the right thing:)
2007-04-16 16:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋