my friends are driving me crazy. they've been my friends for a very long time, but have turned recently and started acting fake and ignoring me. when they do this, my immediate reaction is to ignore them right back, or get very moody, but i know this isn't solving anything. any tips on how to not lash out? they've made the last four months hell for me, and i can't trust them anymore. how do i hold my tongue?
thanks so much!
2007-04-16 15:37:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Time to get new friends sweetie. It's better to have no friends than the wrong friends. See how they are already twisting your mind and your self-esteem? Who needs that s__t? Why should you "hold your tongue" against people who "they've made the last four months hell for me"? What the hell makes them so GD special? Does the earth turn to gold under their feet? Come on. You know the answer. Get new friends. Cause those are not any.
2007-04-16 15:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trudy, first of all start by defining friendship. If what you have with these people fit into your description OK , if it doesn't , you know what to do, right?, yes.
Friends don't ignore each other, friends are there one for each other, to cry , to laugh , in worries and in pain.
Never, ever hold your tongue to your true friends, if you do, you are being just like them, hypocrite and insincere. I know, by the way you expressed in you question that you are not like that, so I suggest you rethink your friends. Or just talk to them, let them know how lonely you feel, probably they haven't even notice it. Be honest , everything will work out just fine, give it a try.
2007-04-16 15:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you pull them aside and talk to them about what you've been noticing. Possibly taking them aside one by one could be the easiest. If neither you nor your friends know each others' feelings, you won't be able to stay friends for very long. By understanding why they are acting this way and possibly figuring out a plan for remedying the situation, your life will definately be a lot easier. If they truely care about you as well, they're hurting from this situation as well and would be willing to work out a solution. If they still ignore you or still hurt you, it may be time to find some new friends.
2007-04-16 15:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by puppy326 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a yoga class and learn breathing technics Meditate and practice it daily Sometimes as we grow older we outgrow certain friends True friends stick with you though good or bad thick or thin They let you know when you need a attitude adjustment and laugh with you at a funny movie They give you a tissue when you need to cry And help find the right jeans to complement your thighs When the day is done there are only very few best friends
2007-04-16 15:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are your FRIENDS we're talking about. True friends don't do that. True friends tell you when something is wrong, or when you have wronged them.
What you need to do is next time they start acting like a bunch of children, confront them. Ask them why they're doing that to you. If they deny it, say you've noticed it for that past few months. Ask them if it was something you did and if you can fix it.
If they don't cooperate, than it was never meant to be. They're not worth your time if they're gonna act that way and you should move on to people more mature.
As for keeping calm, the trick is to breath slow and deep.
Good luck :)
2007-04-16 15:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, that's a hard one. It happens for me too, sometimes. When you're just annoyed so much that you can't help but say something nasty to somebody. You know all that crap that tells you to "talk it over with your friends"? Don't do it. Believe me, it doesn't work.
Anyways, I think a good thing to do is remember your happiest/proudest moment of your life and smile. If they see you, they might get mad (which actually is pretty great for me) and if they don't you know you did the better thing than those idiots.
2007-04-16 15:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new friends and let the old ones go for awhile. After some time has passed the ones who are real friends will still be friends and the ones making trouble will have moved on.
2007-04-16 15:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by dave k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi...
maybe you are allowing others to control your moods and emotions.
sometimes it's difficult to put up with the way others choose to treat us or act.
i don't know what happened between you and your friends, but perhaps call one of them and let them know you're feeling ignored. ask them what you can do to make things better?
if you don't get anywhere with this approach, then it's probably not worth the bother or effort, and they simply are not the friends you thought they were.
i found a free Ebook on line which deals with how to cope with emotions.. i haven't read it all yet, but perhaps it will be helpful for you.
take care...
2007-04-16 15:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should confront them about this.ask them if they are having problems with some one that is causeing them to be like that.talk to them about it .mabe they herd a roomer about you that you need to straighten out.just say your not liking the way thier acting and you want to know whats going on.if you dont make that move you will be angry and mabe lose your friends.just talk to them.
2007-04-16 15:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just find some new firends and ignore them dont' start something with them its not worth it you have learnt a valuable lesson they aren't firends huh?
2007-04-20 15:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋