Even if my boyfriend or friends tell me they love me i have a hard time believing its true, i never had time near my dad and my mom was under depression because of my dad, she rarely hugged or told me that she loved me but i always knew she did, now that im older and shes remarried, she huggs me and tells me she loves me and even if i know its true it feels weird when she does it. i think its because of that that i cant see why or how someone can love me,like having that feeling towards me is very hard to have, its very hard to explain, im a happy person and live a healthy life but whenever someone tells me they love me im more like"oh i love you too" but inside i think to myself "no you dont" is it maybe something psychological?
i love myself, its not a depression thing i just dont understand how people are capable of having those feelings.
2007-04-16 15:12:27 · 3 answers · asked by Leonor D 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
is it possible to change?
2007-04-16 15:38:34 · update #1
Of course you can change the way you think about love. You are luckier than most people, they don't even have ONE person who tells them that they love them, but you do. Let your guard down, and let your heart melt a little, it's a nice feeling to feel loved and love them back.
2007-04-16 15:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I kinda get that feeling too...my mom will sometimes tell me she loves me, and I'm like "yeah big deal" or something. That doesn't really happen with my guy though (I've had trust issues with guys before due to bad relationships, but I have enough faith in him now that that doesn't come up).
Maybe it's because they say the words but don't really show it by actions (other than hugging you)? I think that might be what it is with my mom...ok she buys me food I like and all that, but I always get the feeling she gets annoyed by accomodating me. Like "ok I don't understand why you need x but I'll do it anyway, but I still think it's stupid".
2007-04-16 22:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you kind of stated it's almost foreign to you when someone says "I love you" I think if you would have gotten that as a child you wouldn't feel this way.
2007-04-16 22:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by wutsup? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋