Specify the role of fidelity in married life? Why infidelity? Suggest measures to end infidelity?

Question

Fidelity is on the wane! Many say. Please answer touching all aspects of fidelity in married life? Does forgive and forget rules apply on violations? What suitable punishments do you recommend for the violator? lileeann33

Answer 1

Fidelity is the foundation of a successful married life.This coupled with love and understanding embellish it and make it a bliss.
If somebody really wants to be a happy person then he/she should follow it religiously.
Some people tend to think that they can be an infidel, and get away with. It is possible, but then, in the back of their mind the thought of infidelity will haunt and would gnaw at their conscience. They are bound to be miserable in the long run.
Infidelity once can be forgiven, but if any body is habitual then he/should be kicked off.

Answer 2

The role of fidelity in a marriage truly depends on the marriage. No two marriages are the same. For one couple it would be he/she strays once and its over. For the next it would be counseling, for the third it could be just plain fun. Men and women need to understand what a promise means and how one lie can affect and break up the whole family. As far as punishment goes, that only will go as far as the person who strayed in the marriage has a guilt. If that person does not feel guilty or remorse, there is no punishment. That person is getting what they really want and that is out. If the party does feel remorse the punishment is looking their partner in the eye and remembering how they lied and let them down. The worst case is when children are involved. The children are cheated on too

Answer 3

Fidelity is very important... but also is forgiveness. In many cases it's because marriage has no importance to the world anymore. It's just a silly thing people do. Well Marriage was ment to be a commentment and covenant between two people. To stand together through thick and thin. Not to just be turned asside when the mood strikes us. People have no care for how sacred marriage is and there for have no care if they are unfaithful. It is very possible for people who have had infidelity in their marriage to work through it and heal. it is also possible for people who are unfaithful to continue to be unfaithful. Weither or not a marriage or relationship should end because of infidelity must be looked at on an individual basis... circumstances differ people differ. Basically... the problem with Marriage Is that people have forgotten how to Love completely.. how to trust... and how to be forgiving and selfcontroling. All these things point to how little we think of our selves and how little we think of others.

Answer 4

Separation only for violator. Fidelity is not on the wane , particularly in Muslim society it is nearly non existent. Violators r not true muslims , according to Islamic laws. Fidelity is a must & to be maintained in married lide . It is not at all difficult too to keep it so. Only grossly idisciplined , completely unreliable, dishonest , unjust, highly selfish, materialistic minded, very dangerous person having no consence & not being God fearing at all thinks or goes for infidelity. Such person must be discarded by the society at any cost. Such person can spoil the whole life of the person of opposite sex for ever if that is a man i.e., he can tempt & arouse so many simple & innocent girls/women to nymphomania , have sex , make them pregnant & leave like trash easily, without even thinking what adverse effect it can has in the personal life of the hapless victim. If, to prevent this , hard Islamic laws are implemented like 100 lashes for adultary & death sentence for the rapist, it is justified. There should not be any scope for forgive & forget in such VERY SERIOUS matter of great human dignity & honour. In married life, both husband & wife MUST try to adjust so much that they make married domestic life interesting, like & love each other & have regular satisfactory sex, then there won't be any scope for infidelity at all.

Answer 5

It is very important to have a happy and harmonious marriage life where trust and respect is not stained by being unfaithful. Divorce is not the only solution but rather, it is a way of running a way from the problem. And yes, to forgive and to forget applies that is, if you two still love each other and willing to talk about it in the open. Understanding and listening helps to find out what motivate him to break the marriage vows. Though, it's easy to forgive but to forget is hard. Time will tell. You can ask him what he really want? Is he happy with you or what? To stay or to go. It's only him who can decide. If he does, then you know that he meant to stay. For good.

Answer 6

Its double edged sword. If you are faithful to one partner you are likely to get one .
If you end fidelity are you able to tolerate the similar development in your partner .
It lot depends on who is asking the question ?

In case you are a single and live upon poaching ( particularly for a mature age ) you will see fidelity a a satin and want to drive it outta this world.

In case your partner has cheated and you r trying to revenge fidelity issue of other options u search become hindrance in your pursuit and you need in-fidel's in this world .

In case you are a normal man/women married and into normal sexual relationship with your partner the infidelity may be a flicker and pass off soon . It is simply academic.

If you belong to none of above try counselling it will help.

Answer 7

I'd say it depends highly on circumstances, what were the sexual conditions of the relationship at the time? You should try to get to the root of what's going on and why, then maybe drag him to a counciling session as a method for trying to reclaim what's been lost. Punishment is not a concept that I think should be incorporated into a good loving relationship, it conjures elements of domination, and control wich can be further damaging. Try to forgive and heal if you can, if not I'd say scrap it all and start somewhere new.

Answer 8

Well my question is this? what to do with vilator? why would you do this? if the person did something with another person and married? i mean they did it and meant it and therefore why would they be punished. they watned to do it and could be in love and therefore how can you make someone love you and they dont'. i say when something happens if it does then get rid of it period. there is no way to stop the unfaithfullness. i can't believe all these men or women can behave or what ever you call it and for punishments why? i mean that is stupid to do to adults they know well what they are doing and do it for whatever reasons. so get it over and out and then someday you will find the one person who really cares and wouldn't do this.

Answer 9

People grow apart and sometimes find someone outside the marriage. It's human nature, there is no way to end infidelity. Forgive and forget shouldn't apply, unless you want it to happen again. Punishment? The person who cheated was unhappy, punishment isn't warranted.

Answer 10

To end infidelity there are two possible solutions;
1)end marriage
2)computer chips in peoples heads