If your spouse told you TODAY that they were cheating on you, would you leave them TODAY?
If YES why?
If NO why?
And please think about this and speak it how it REALLY is for you.
2007-04-16 15:02:37 · 20 answers · asked by Millionaire in training 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I would leave...I was in a relationship before where I forgave him and honestly I couldn't live with it...I lost all trust. I couldn't trust him and I became insecure. I didn't like the way it made me feel. Then I didn't like who I became. I became very possesive. Questioning everything...doubting him all the time...
So I broke up with him...
I did it for me....I didn't like who I was being with someone who cheated on me...
2007-04-17 05:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him so fast the ink on the divorce papers wouldn't be dry before his stuff was out!!
Cheating is the biggest betrayal. I'm a very jealous person and I couldn't get over it. I would think about it all the time -Wonder who she was?? Why he did it?? If he really loved her?? What I did wrong?? Does he think about her when he's with me?? Will he do it again??
I am also the type of person that brings things back up for years to come, so we would both relive it over and over - not good for either party!!
Oh yea and I'd kick her butt!!!
2007-04-16 22:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by HAVE2KNOW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would! Because I stayed in a relationship where i was cheated on to try and work on it. And found out that he was still cheating on me 2 months later. I just couldn't let myself get walked all over again.
2007-04-16 22:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by taz19953369 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In a relationship there are factors to consider before deciding on leaving a spouse. Perhaps we have shortcomings that contributed to his/her infidel act. We must also think of the reasons why he/she hurted you.At least he/she is honest to admit of cheating on you. If I personally believe that I need to let go. Then I will.
2007-04-16 22:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by hermecshec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, I'd stay. For me, marriage is for life. At some point, I'd demand we seek marital counseling through our church. Forgiveness would eventually come, but for me, the hard part would be regaining trust. I don't know how people do that... how you build back that trust.
I don't know how things would ever be the same, but I'm of the mind that I'd rather KNOW about the infidelity and deal with it, rather than be deceived and think everything's perfect.
I love my husband, and even if he betrayed me, I would not give up on our marriage. A lot of times with infidelity, there's a bigger underlying issue in the relationship that involves BOTH partners, not just the cheater. I'd want to know what I needed to fix with myself... what was I neglecting as a wife that would cause my husband to turn to another woman for emotional fulfillment?
2007-04-16 22:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by sublimekindalife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, because then I know that I could never trust him again. And there is no way to guarantee that he did not get any diseases from the person he cheated with.
I am not married now, but that is what I would do if I was.
2007-04-16 22:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by innocence faded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would leave tomorrow because i have had a few to many to drink. And the reason would be obviously the relationship wasn't working out, that would be one main reason she cheated.
2007-04-16 22:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by klp_dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband cheated on me i don't think i would leave him, i would most likely seek counseling for both of us. I just don't believe in divorce no matter how much is going on i believe faith is stronger than all!
2007-04-16 22:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. unfortunately we are all humans. and a man IS more sucessible to cheating. i wouldn't leave him because he was honest. because by telling me i know he'd be willing to discuss it. knowing that it was going to be a long emotional night, knowind he could lose me, he would be risking his own security in the relationship. by him telling me the truth i'd feel like he really regreted what happend and was sorry simply because he could've chosen not to tell me. and that would be lieing. and a lie like that could permanently destroy a good relationship. it could kill trust. and then there is no hope.
2007-04-16 22:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would leave him as soon as possible. I don't want someone who disrespects me like that and obviously does not love me. I would take my two kids and leave on the next flight out. I'd destroy as many of his possessions as possible. concentrating on the TV and his beloved deer head mounted above the entertainment center.
2007-04-16 22:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋