There's this girl who I've been "friends" with since 1st grade, and since then she's made my life MISERABLE!!! For example, she's called me names in front of people, told me I can't be friends with others, and she's been the boss of EVERYTHING i do and don't do. I'm not even exagerating. This has been a problem for WAY TOO LONG.
So I bet ur wondering why I don't tell her too cut it out, or try to stop our friendship. Let's just say I did that once, and I'm NEVER DOING IT AGAIN. She won't let me not be friends with her, also, which I don't understand since she is popular, I'm not, and she has a million other friends.
She's been nicer lately, with lots of cruel comments, tho. So, I just wanna tell her to cut it out, instead of get rid of our "friendship". HELP!
2007-04-16 14:21:53 · 8 answers · asked by pink_luv787 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honey, what you need is a backbone.
I understand it can be hard trying to make new friends when the only one you've ever know is not a friend at all. At times it may seem better to be her friend rather than none at all. But truly it isn't.
You have to understand that in order to move on and stop letting her push you around, you have to have a confidence and presence about you. Don't let her have and inch, while you take a mile. If you feel like she is too intimidating write it a note, do it over AIM, myspace or the phone. Face to face can be hard if you feel like she would make you feel bad about what you're saying.
Then be honest, tell her how she makes you feel, tell her how she bosses you around. Give her an ultimatum and a time table. She has two weeks to shape up, or you guys can't hang out anymore. Tell her you're not her groupie. And don't let her tell you otherwise.
You can do this, i know you can. You can't get anywhere in life if you just let people push you around. Stand up for yourself because no one else will. In the long run you'll feel like you made the right decision. You won't be unhappy. And maybe once she sees what she was doing, she'll try to be normal and friend-like.
2007-04-16 14:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how you would consider this person a friend. Friends do not mentally abuse one another. I would let her know that under no circumstances will you tolerate her crap anymore and if she was a true friend than she would understand. I don't agree with this at all times but maybe she needs a taste of her own medicine-give it to her like she does you-just be prepared to defend yourself if needed after you do this. I would move on and find a friend out there who will not treat you like dirt-
2007-04-16 14:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to solve your problem, is probably just to talk to her. You should just ask her why she's always so mean to you. But when you talk, don't say things like "cut it out" because when you say things like that, it puts the other person on the defense, and you'll never get anywhere. Just simply ask and nicely let her know that you'd like to be friends, but you can't be if she keeps controlling you and saying mean things.
2007-04-16 14:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by WithLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she does it another time and then just walk away. Tell her later that comments like that really hurt, especially from her, since you are friends. Ask her to stop. If she doesn't then she is not a friend of yours.
2007-04-16 14:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a situation that just might be too hard to stop without telling her to back off. I have a similar problem with one of my own friends and I need to deal with it soon as well.
2007-04-16 15:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by drake_zula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "I have known you for so long, and we think of each other as friends. But the truth is, we are not friends. You call me names, and boss me around, and its about time we stopped being friends."
Then don't run away like a cat, walk away slowly with your head high to show her, she doesn't scare u, and u r proud!
2007-04-16 14:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Heather♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you do not waant to be freinds with her anymore. What ever they are, we should friends with them.
If this friend did this, you should tell her directly. You should not keep inside you because thaat would be wrong.
Are you being friends with her because she is very popular?
2007-04-16 14:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sun Valley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be like... i thought u were my gurl why are you always putin me down, dont you have better things to say than talk about your FRIENDS..... then just be like .........thats kind of shady and 2 faced of you and its really pissing me of!!!!
i bet that would make her feel kinda stupid about what shes doing
2007-04-16 14:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by babyblue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋