I have a great life. Great grades, great friends, and I give great teen advice on how to deal with boyfriends or girlfriends, depression, stress, etc. I can pinpoint the start of any problem and solve it. I've helped someone through depression. But now I have a 'problem' of my own. For example, on the bus today I was listening to my iPod and my friends were talking to me, but I felt tired, and I can't really say 'depressed,' but that's the only word I can think of. It's like a lonely feeling, an unhappy feeling. Like I'm having trouble letting go of something. And what bothers me the most is that I have no emotions except for anger and happiness. Most of the time I'm happy, but other times I feel 'depressed,' and like I need to release some anger. I can't cry...I'm pretty sure I haven't since 8th grade [I'm a sophomore now], and I usually don't feel any sadness. And I can't even follow my own advice that would help any other person through the same problem. What's wrong with me?
2007-04-16 14:11:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i am thinking you help your friends a lot maybe too much and you reached a point where you need a break from the world. some my time. I think a healthy dose of solitude or be one with nature for a bit. You can't listen to the worries of the world without flushing out those bad vibes and getting refreshed. You need to find a way to get away over a weekend. longer if you can manage it.
2007-04-16 14:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you receive a great feeling from being able to help out your friends. One of the reasons why you're so helpful with your friends is because you're avoiding your own needs. It makes you feel good to be able to help someone else out, and you strive to help others while not taking care of yourself. You're doing a great job, but dont forget about yourself. Remember, the only way to help others is if you are setting the model. Try extracting yourself from your own situation and looking in as a 3rd party. You may see some obvious faults that you can point out right away. I know it's really hard to see your own problems, but whenever your stuck just try this method and it should answer some of your questions. Right now, your just a little warn out. You need a break.
2007-04-16 21:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by wize1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think i'm the most qualified person to answer this. i myself have felt what you describe right now...i am sure to a higher degree. However, for a while i was happy. Right now I'm going through a bad moment in my life. I'm a second year student at University of Puerto Rico, I'm under preassure because of classes, my grandparents health isn't so great, and my mother has been in and out of bad relationships leaving me to pick up the pieces, and deal with her broken leg. See? not all is bad! Some of it is funny! Anyway, Some personal things have been added to my list. I've lost friends, and someone very dear to me recently, someone i would give my life for. However, I'm dealing with my dissapointment and just my dispassionatte feeling for life one step at a time. I have begun practicing Tai Chi and Chi kung. They are both ways to seek, control, maintain and raise energy lvels within your body. I recomend the book "Chi kung: Way of Power" by Master Lam Kam Chuen. I also recomend maybe seeing a psychologist? here they have services in campus for free. Perhaps there are some in your area? i have also begun writting. I write verses, poems, prose, stories, whatever comes out. I hope you find happiness and I hope this helps, even if just a bit.
2007-04-16 22:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by akaidream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that you seem quite unhappy and I am sorry that you are going through this in your young life. I can remember going through situations similar to what you are going through and I found a solution to my problem. Get out there and find somebody that you can help, I know that that may seem odd to you but if you do this you will find the inner peace and happiness that you seem to have lost. You have been able to give advice to others now go and help somebody who needs you right now and you may perfectly know who that is. Loosing yourself in the service of others is a way to find yourself and I know that through that experience you will not be depressed anymore. I Hope that this may help you in some way...
2007-04-16 21:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by RJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you may be taking the problems of your friends onto your own shoulders.
You need to find a way of dealing with that baggage. It can and will build to the point where you just won't be able to deal with the stress.
Look for methods that will help you "detach" from the problems of your friends. This will greatly help in many aspects of your life.
Writting is one method I use (as well as many others) to help me get through a mood or situation. I try to pin down what thing, or things, are getting to me. Then I try to figure out just what it is about those things that bother me the most. The final step is to figure out what I can do about it. If there isn't anything I can do, then there really isn't any need to continue allowing it to take up space in my mind.
2007-04-16 21:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by afreshpath_admin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are tired from all the care-giving you are doing for your friends. Take a day, and afternoon, whatever, off and just tend to your own needs.
If those feelings last more than 2 weeks, though, see somebody for help, OK?
Good luck
2007-04-16 21:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Croa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We cant give you advice. What I would ask you to do is go to your counselor in your local school. Get an appointment. Tell your parents so that they can be of support to you. I hope this helps.
Otherwise, you can get a big, hudge boxing ball, and box the **** out of it. That usually helps against anger.
2007-04-16 21:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by angelikabertrand64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a psych student in grad school, and they really stress that each one of us sees a counselor. so i am going, for the first time ever, and i cannot express how beneficial it has been for me. it is a process, to be sure. but i really suggest it for you, for everybody and anybody. it is really wonderful to have someone help you realize that what you are feeling is shared by lots of other people. and then, the best part is, together the two of you figure out ways to feel better! you totally win!
2007-04-16 21:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by mary tyler moo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even shrinks with doctorate degrees know that they can not counsel themselves. They don't have objectivity. They can't see the forest -just the trees. I think it would be good for you to talk to your parents about seeing a therapist. You could also ask to talk to your school psychologist or social worker or a minister at your church. Please find someone to talk to. It's great that you have been such a good listener for others,now it's your turn to ask for help.
Good luck
2007-04-16 21:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by Karrose 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're counseling others, you may be mentally & emotionally drained from all the stuff you're helping others to deal with; it's a good idea for you to get counseling too.
they advise therapists to get therapy while they are giving it, to help to prevent becoming overwhelmed...maybe you should find a therapist too!
I hope everything works out for you; best wishes to you. ;)
2007-04-16 21:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by *Chika* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋