i think ABORTION.....?

Question

my cuzin has been dealing with this word for a while and coming pretty soon for her to make a choice her parents don't know of the small human living and breathing in her only her and me and its painful to think she could possibly consider this decision cause we were brought up to let the baby live yes all people have a choice but they have other choices too like adoption even though she thinks her parents will throw her out of the house she always can turn to me and i could help her its like we always useto say well always be there for each other thru thick and thin even though i know she has to make this decision on her own. ok heres my question if this was your cuzin and she had to make this decision what would you tell her??
THINK IT THROUGH

Answer 1

I am pro-choice, but do not personally believe that abortion is the *right* choice for birth control purposes, if that makes any sense.

I would really do my best to just support her through as best as you can, because any moral judgement you try to impart to her is really only going to feel like you are disapproving, don't understand, can't really be relied upon to support her, you know? Years and years ago, my best friend in HS had an abortion. She did not tell me about it (the pregnancy OR the abortion) ahead of time; she told me after the fact. She said that she already knew how I felt about the subject, and she could not stand the thought of my disapproval. I've always felt so terrible that she thought I would judge her. Anyway, chances are your cousin already knows exactly how you feel. The best thing you can do is just tell her you love her and will keep loving her and supporting her no matter what she feels is the best choice in the end.

Blessings to both of you....

Answer 2

Without knowing all the cirumstances and knowing exactly why she thinks she cannot have this baby (age, relationship status, religion, family, etc.) it is very hard for me to think of what I would tell her. I am 100% pro-choice. Though I do not condone of using an abortion as birth control, I believe it is the woman's choice and that's that.

Help her go over a list of pros and cons. Pros are you bring a baby into this world and become a mother. Being a mother is a very wonderful thing, and I love it. I became a mother at 15 so I can understand if why she wants to do this, if she is in the same position I was. I chose to have my baby and prove to myself I was meant to be a mother. And proved everyone else wrong who said I couldn't do it.

Cons are it is a very stressful job. It takes patience, time and money and maybe right now she knows she cannot mentally, emotionally or physically handle it. That is her decision.

Just be supportive in her decision, because it sounds like you two mean a lot to eachother. She is her own woman and feels like she is being forced to do something she doesn't want to do. Either which way she looks at it.

She probably feels really alone right now, no matter how much you try to support her, so just bare with her. Help her be able to sit down and think clearly about this decision before she makes the final choice. Good luck to her, and you.

Answer 3

I would tell her this....You are responsible to the child! You were aware of the consequences of your choice to have sex you now have to accept the reality that you have created. We cannot as a society continue to kill human life because we cannot control our hormones, or because we made a "mistake". Every child has been created by God through humans and it is not our life to take. There are however other options. I know at least 5 couples that have not been blessed with the ability to conceive. There are thousands of people lined up to take on the role as parents. Responsible people who can give that child a wonderful life. Many programs will go far beyond what you'd expect including providing travel, lodging, and other monetary benefeits for the sake of saving a child. Don't worry about what you parents or anyone else might think of you. You have only one judge and that is God. Do what is right. You can seek further assistance through your choice of religious sources. You can also find "abortion alternatives" before abortion in almost any phone book. God Bless you and your Family

Answer 4

You seem like a great friend as well as cousin- she should be very happy to have you there to support her. Your greatest support would be to encourage her to place her baby for adoption. You are right, the baby is breathing, the heart is beating and their is life inside the womb, not a bunch of cells and tissues.
I am pretty sure she knows it would be taking a life- however if she doesn't have her go online to some fetal development websites. Tell her also that there are physical and emotional risks that she may have to endure-
bleeding, infections, torn uterus, damage to other organs. Miscarriages and/or fertility problems later.
Emotional risks can last a lifetime- I know of a few women who have had abortions 10 years ago and is not past the hurt yet. Tell her you care about her and the baby. Be there for her as you already are. If you can email me, I would love to chat more.

In response to Give me Liberty- you have got to be kidding me- not aborting a baby kills children already alive. You are in bondage my friend, you do need liberty. Those children that die in third world countries and in america is horrible, but aborting a child in the womb is not going to help them- how would you have liked it if your mom aborted you- to save another human already alive?

Sweetie- do not let people like this discourage you from the truth about abortion- it is a guilt tactic. Keep on doing what you are doing.

Answer 5

If it was my cosin, best friend, sister or anyone I would tell them that no matter what i would support them in what ever desion that she makes. I have been feeling like a lot of young girls are choosing to have abortions because they are scared. They dont no what to do or how it is all going to work out so they paninc and get an abortion. After they end up regreting it and wish that they had not made that desion. I would tell her to really think it over. Ask her if her parents were okay and supportive of her would she still want to get an abortion or would she want to keep the baby. If she would want to keep it then i think deep down that is what she really wants to do. I think it is so hard for any girl to make a desion to abort her baby, it could never be an easy desion, and it is a painfull and awful experience. Tell her dont make the desion out of fear, let her heart tell her what to do, she will know inside what she really wants and when she makes that dseion make sure that you support her completly even if your the only one that dose. You only live once.

Answer 6

I would tell her that I would be by her side through the whole thing, but that the life she is carrying deserves a chance at life, regardless if it is with her or some good honest people who can love the baby and give it a good home. Whether she decides to carry the baby, her parents will have to be notified. Trust me, I was a teen when I first got pregnant and was certain that my dad would throw me out. He didn't. Now I have a 13 year old son who was his grandpa's little man right up until the day he died. My son was 2 months old then, but I believe he made those last 2 months of my dads life happier.

Answer 7

i do believe in having the freedom to choose but i would never want to be put in a position where i would have to. there are so many aspects to think of from financial to medical to religious (if you are so inclined). where is the father in this circumstance? how old is she and what can she offer to a child depending on where she is financially, emotionally, pyschologically. if there are any concerns on health care and giving birth to a healthy baby (whether or not she keeps it or gives it up for adoption) then i would not want to have an unhealthy baby. babies have so many challenges as it is why add another one. while it is selfish to think about it she does need to consider what her future will be like if she goes through with either choice. i have friends who have had abortions and while it is not something they are proud of it is something they do recover from (although how full the recovery is only they can answer). i am guessing based on the concern of being kicked out of the house that your cousin is fairly young. please look up the laws for your state and consider planned parenthood. they may have free counseling to help make a decision. and while it is too late to make up for this time around please talk to her about being safe in the future. no one want to go through this twice. whatever she decides remind her that it is not for anyone else to judge her. she needs to decide on what is best for her and her future, no matter how selfish some may consider her decision to be. i am sure having someone like you by her side helps. stay there with her. my thoughts and best wishes go out to both of you.

Answer 8

You are a very very selfish woman. Saving the fetus will cause the death of 12 loved and wanted children. http://www.prolifeismurder.com. You are not the one that is considering abortion. And you have no right to over rule the will of the daughter and her parents. The parents have probably considered all the important information such as shown on my web site above. You on the other hand are simply a child that is brainwashed into thinking a fetus is more important than a child. Leave this alone, it is none of your business. Read my page and realize you are a murderer of 12 children unless you allow the abortion to go though.

Answer 9

first of all no one should per sway her in to doing any thing she is the one who will have to live with her decision for the rest of her life not her parents or no body else she will and if she is per swayed in to an abortion she will despise who ever talked her in to it I think you should help her talk to her parents this is probably her biggest fear right now ya they will be pretty upset may be it would be a good idea for her to talk with her school counselor and maybe they can talk with her parents together a neutral party sometimes can go a long ways no one can live her life for her not now or in the future she is the only one who will have to look back on life and ask the what if"s tell her not to try to please every one around her, there is only one person she should be worried about pleasing right now her self who cares what other people think they don't breath for us and I'll leave it at that.please let us know what happens good luck god bless

Answer 10

Wow what a tough decision your cousin needs to make.

If I were you, I would tell her to not abort but to put the baby up for adoption. Tell her if her parents kick her out, you will be there for her and she will have a place to live with you.

Next encourage her to practice safe sex after she is no longer pregnant. Better yet, to not be sexually active until she finds that extra special person she wants to be married to for the rest of her life.