My husband is at work for long hours and I find myself lonely quite a bit. What can I do to make the time apart more bareable? Help! Maybe somebody has been in this situation before and has some good ideas?
2007-04-16 12:25:16 · 18 answers · asked by Catspajamas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As for whether or not I'm serious... if you didn't think so why answer the question? I find that rude. Anyhow, like I said, I am just looking for the suggestions.
And for those of you suggesting an affair... I find that rude as well. So please don't suggest that. If I wanted to get laid elsewhere I would have done it already.
2007-04-16 12:36:08 · update #1
I have a full time job. He works a lot of evenings.
2007-04-16 12:37:19 · update #2
I have a full time job. He works a lot of evenings.
2007-04-16 12:37:24 · update #3
Go window shopping, exercise, go to the grocery store. Fix some surprise meals for him. Show him how much you miss him each day. Put some flowers in a vase. Prepare a bubble bath for him. Make him feel special and miss you just as much. Maybe he'll quit working long hours if he knows whats waiting for him at home.
2007-04-16 12:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by larry m♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I can't certainly relate to your problem. My husband was in the Navy and also worked long hours, and was away from home a lot also. Of course, I did have children that kept me quite busy during the day, but when they were in bed at night, I found myself not knowing what to do. I started reading a lot, especially the romantic novels, sort of took me into another world for awhile, I also begin doing arts and crafts. Don't know if you have children or not, but if not, do you have any female friends that you could go out to dinner, or bowling, something like that. Hope you find something that you will enjoy and keep those hours from dragging so slow. Good Luck
2007-04-16 14:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by glorianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, I am in the same situation as you. My boyfriend works long and crazy hours as well. It is hard for us to plan things because there is a chance that he may find out at the last minute that he has to cancel. Its sad to say that these are the breaks. Try to find hobbies. In my case, I am a workout aholic so it kind of helps me to pass the time away. The thing that is good in your situation is that you know hes coming home to you at some point or another. In my situation we don't live together so its even harder. Thank God that they have jobs. We could have got stuck with two broke, lazy bums that were trying to live off of us! LOL We have to count our blessings and stick it out which is not hard to do when you truly love someone.
2007-04-16 12:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already have a full plate. Wife, and full time job. And a husband working lots of hours. Sounds typically American. It's just amazing that any marriage lasts. Lady, you guys will end up working yourselves out of a marriage. Are the things you have worth marriage? You folks may have to decide which is more important, stuff, or your marriage. I doubt a new hobby or interest is going to help much.
2007-04-16 13:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband works and travels I see him on weekends so,
lonely and I are good friends. When my husband is away on
business trips I go shopping and spend money we don't have
For Christmas my husband brought me a computer.Pretty
smart on his part he knew I would stay in playing with it,instead of going out spending.He was right because all I do now is sit and answer questions this is how I spend all of my
time now.I'm at my computer at lease 7hrs a day.The only problem now I don't want to do anything around the house now
2007-04-16 12:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you need to fill your days with something you liek to do and doesn't make you bored easily. Think about your hobbies and do some of them to keep youi company duringthe day, Also volunteer your time for charities and help people out, or make friends on net and chat with them, if you want you can IM me anytime or just e-mail anytime. But just think what you liek to do and do it. But you need to be carefull though because if your lonely at home how is your husband feeling working all those late hours.
2007-04-16 12:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have your own activities? If not, find some. Or, get a job so you can help out with the bills. In that way, he doesn't have to work such long hrs to support both of you.
2007-04-16 12:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby like scrapbooking or reading, working out. Maybe start a home base business that will take your time up and you wont be worrying about how long he is gone, you wont notice.
2007-04-16 12:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Mochica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation. Whatever you do, don't sit home waiting on him, don't have dinner waiting on him, and don't make him the center of your universe. If you do, it's bound to end badly. Get a wonderful great hobby that brings you joy and become an expert in that. Good luck and peace to you.
2007-04-16 12:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some girlfriends in similar situations?
Maybe take a cooking or pottery class, or get a gym membership.
2007-04-16 12:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋