when it comes to having sex ? and then he cant perform?...whats going on...now he doensnt want to have anything to do with me....btw..I'm married too...any of you men have had a similar experience?
2007-04-16 12:20:17 · 34 answers · asked by luv2fuk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its amazing how people think quick to judge others but don't look closer in the mirror. Thanks all for the Feedback. and to all those ladies who answered my ?...do you really trust your man?
2007-04-16 12:36:57 · update #1
The reason that he's getting nervous could be the reason he's having an affair.
There are three types of affairs, emotional, sexual, and emotional-sexual. Typically, men get into affair for sex but sometimes they will get into an affair to satisfy emotional needs.
You may be satisfying his emotional & intimacy desires and that's all he really wants. In most cases, women assume that a man involved in an affair emotionally means that he is involved sexually but it isn't always the situation.
Maybe he just wants a romantic-non sexual relationship with you. Affairs aren't always because someone is a point-blank cheater, it can be a "healing" need or an exploration of wholeness that a person can't deal with in their current relationship. Maybe he's realized some things and is trying to resolve his marriage now. :shrug:
Anyway, good luck.
PS- People are very quick to judge most times, it's really sad.
2007-04-16 12:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by JoffreM 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
He obviously feels guilty for being an idiot and cheating on his wife. You should be feeling pretty badly yourself. Men sometimes can't perform when they're doing something they have no business doing. And yes, I am "quick to judge" in this situation because it's WRONG! If you wanted to sleep with other people, then you shouldn't have gotten married. You're very naive to think that anyone would just accept this as normal and give a cheating woman advice about how to have better sex with her cheating lover. So sad.
2007-04-17 01:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by TruthSeeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as i just found out recently that my ex-befriend and my husband were having an affair let me tell you why he can't preform. He knows he is doing something wrong and probably still loves his wife. The thrill out of your little affair is probably over and he wants to end it before he gets caught and doesn't know how to. You both should go talk to your spouses and either work things out or get divorced before you go screw up someone elses life. This stuff hurts down to the bone for the partner that is being cheated on. Even if you both are not happy with your current spouse that does not give you the right to cheat. If a MARRIAGE can't be worked out that is what divorce court is for.
2007-04-16 12:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a 2 year affair when I was married with a married woman, and the guilt eventually got to her. But, I almost always used Viagra, so preforming was a none issue. My ex wife and I were into swinging and everyone used Viagra, because if you didn't someone was always disappointed. Way too much pressure. The guilt may be getting to him if he's starting to avoid you, or he's not in love with you?
Maybe it's time to end it before it gets ugly?
Good luck
2007-04-16 14:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by MARK S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man knows that what he is doing is morally wrong and if his wife finds out she will really be hurt and embarrassed, as well as his kids, that is if he has any kids.
It is like this, if either of you care for or about your families, you would put them first before your own sexual desires. But there is no doubt in this situation...the reason he cannot perform is because he is thinking of his family. It is other wise know and a conscience
2007-04-16 12:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like you make me sick. You are screwing around on your man, and you are screwing with the husband of another women. I hope you get caught and I hope she teaches you a lesson, because if it were my partner you were f-cking, I would sort you out good and proper. Be a real women and have some guts, if you are not happy in your relationship, LEAVE! And stay the hell away from men who are already taken. How would you feel if it were your husband sleeping with another woman? You just came off as the ultimate wh-ore here, and I am amazed that you even put this question up. Sounds like you are pretty proud of yourself. I just wonder how you sleep at night.
2007-04-16 12:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
having an affair with a married man is such a disgrace!
i cant believe ure doing such a thing.
To think ure married too!
I really think ure stupid to not have a married man feel guilty by having sex with a married woman.
Its just like the show "Sex and the City,"
U should watch it sometime and realize what teh lesson was.
2007-04-16 12:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by bubbles <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had such an experience because I'm not a home wrecking sluuttttt. His little head evidently has a conscience and won't leyt him keep cheating on his wife. I feel sorry for your husband. Is he gullible enough to trust you? Poor guy....
2007-04-16 12:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he feels guilty about cheating on his wife and that's why he can't perform and that's also why he doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. That should say a lot.
2007-04-16 12:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the word may be GUILT!!!!! Why are you messing around with each other if you are both married? Put that energy into your marriage....maybe then you can have a good sex life.
2007-04-16 12:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋