I am a female college student who has always been into guys, but for about a year now I've been realizing that I find women attractive. I often have fantacies about being with a women (not just in a sexual way) and more recently I have actually developed feelings for a spacific girl. She's a friend of mine and I would never have a chance with her because she's straight but I can't stop thinking about her. I'm confused because I'm still attracted to guys as well. I haven't had a boyfriend in about a year and a half so part of me thinks that maybe I'm just going through a phase, rationalizing that if I can't seem to find a guy to be with then I should find a girl, but then the other part of me thinks that maybe my feelings are real and that I'm into women. I don't really know what I should do to get ride of this confusion. If there is anyone who has been through something similar or knows anything about this stuff could help me figure out what I should do I would really appreciate it!
2007-04-16 11:42:17 · 18 answers · asked by Confused Chick 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
just go with what you feel and whatever happens happens..
the only way to find out if your attracted to girls and not just this one inparticular is to put yourself in a posistion where your around other bisexual or lesbians .. maybe a lesbian dance club or social group.. if after being around other bi/les females you find yourself attracted to one or more then one.. get to know one a lil better.. your body will tell you the rest.. if you get the flutters or find yourself wanting to get intimate with this girl.. then id say yea your atleast bisexual because im guessing you havent totally canceled men out the picture...
but just because you have one or two incidents with another female it doesnt make you lesbian... like you said you could just be going through a phase.. who knows maybe youll get together with a girl or two and then decide its just not for you... but not until youve found yourself in a relationship with another female or you have normal attractions to other females on a daily basis where you can comfortably say im definitely attracted to women and want nothing to do with men sexually will you probably label yourself lesbian.. if you cant say that today then the answers no.. your just a human being who finds another human being attractive .. thats human to feel an attraction towards something pleasing to the eyes and mind
the only way to find out is to jump at it and experiment with what your feeling.. go for it
2007-04-16 12:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
"There is no easy way for someone else to determine what your sexuality is, after all your sexuality is your own personal issue and it does not have to be communicated to all people. In understanding your sexual orientation you must be comfortable with the fact that you are unique and how you feel about yourself is going to be different than how I feel about myself. You have to decide what your sexuality is for yourself, through asking yourself questions and experimentation. But don't feel pressured to box yourself into a sexuality or a course of behavior that you do not feel comfortable with!"
2007-04-16 11:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed girls first... I was about 8 when I kissed my first girl was 12 or 13 before I ever kissed a boy and I find myself sexually more attracted to women and find myself in deeper relationship with them and I don't consider myself bi or a lesbian.
I just fall in love with the person and go from there basically.
That's the best way I could explain myself or whatever...
2007-04-16 11:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you are bi-sexual. The best advice I can give is not to limit yourself. Listen to your hart and you will figure it all out. My girlfriends bi and my best friend is a wasbian who is married to a bi-sexual man. Be true to yourself
2007-04-16 15:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by lesbin chick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are bisexual or bi curious. Just give it time, it may be a phase or it may be a new part of your life. I started realizing I like girls about 4 years ago and I came out 3 years ago. Now, I like girls a lot more than men. I hope I helped!
2007-04-16 12:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You could be bi.
try and date a hot guy and see how you feel about him.
if you still have the feelings of likeing this girl than maybe you can be a lesbian.
2007-04-16 12:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by HP7 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
probably Bi or Bi-curious. It's all good. Lots of hot college Bi chicks... Try it out, see how you like it, then you'll know. Advice from strangers online won't help you figure yourself out until you've tried it yourself.
2007-04-16 11:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am a guy and I have the same fantasies about women that you have.....
Does mean that I am a Lesbian too ????
2007-04-16 12:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by poap_benedicked_16th 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry about classifying yourself. Just be yourself... if you are curious, then try it.. It doesn't automatically make you a "lesbian" or even "bisexual"..
2007-04-16 12:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by butterflikzd 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you're bisexual to me.
2007-04-16 17:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋