Ok, here's the deal. I have bi-polar disorder, and the girl that I love knew that before we got together. I never realized how the manic phases attacked me until taking a step back here recently. In the time we were together, I broke up with her twice. Each time , was during a manic state. But, regrettably, I did not realize this when I needed to.
I have told her how I feel, and have started taking the steps (through chinese medicine) to remedy this problem. She is considering letting us have one more chance. I know that I don't deserve it, but we were engaged and I don't want to spend the rest of my life with anyone else.
Girls, if you were in thins position, and have admitted that you still love the person trying to get back with you, what steps would he need to take to prove his love to you. To prove that he will never break your heart again, and truely wants you back.
Is there any way to get the love of my life back?
(Please only REAL responses)
2007-04-16 11:38:38 · 9 answers · asked by shattered_likeness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
'To prove that [you] will never break [her] heart again', is a nice sentiment, but not probable. You need to admit your mistake, get psychiatric help with presciption meds, and realize that you MAY break her heart again.
Only through proven past behavior (what you do from today on) will she be able to see your sincerity, intentions to remain healthy, and hopes for your relationship.
Good luck. I understand because I'm married to a scizo-affective.
2007-04-16 13:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by mrs1101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly fair? I'd only take you back after more than a year with you being on medications that work. And if those meds and every smart doc in town couldn't keep your personality stable, I'd leave. I know bi-polar people suffer greatly -- (I'm sure now, looking back that my ex was bi-polar...I'm sure it was more than just his inherited gene for depression. We had a great life together: he was accomplished, smart as hell, and all the rest of it, but the alcohol and the anti-depressants just didn't work together.) If I were she, you'd also have to forget the alcohol, which makes the condition even worse.
Those are rather tall orders for you to have to follow....keeping your personality stable. And all meds -- Chinese and otherwise -- have some nasty side effects on guys, if you understand... and frankly, you'd just have to put up with those, or I'd not come back. If you think being bipolar is tuff on you, hon, be on the other side and watch what it does to someone you love... Don't hate her if she thinks she just can't handle it. If that is the case, you can't ask her to come back, and suffer with your problem more than you do.
2007-04-16 11:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Something your gf needs to realize is bi-polar disorder is a life-long illness. It is admirable that you are trying to do what you can to keep it bridled. I hope you will keep up with therapy even when you DON'T have manic attacks.
You can not promise to never break her heart again, because chemical imbalances need to be regulated once in a while. But, you can promise to try. You can promise(and keep this one! Please!!!) to listen to her when she thinks you may be exhibiting symptoms of the onset of a manic attack and go see the person who regulates your medicine.
If she really loves you, she will understand that if she wants to take her vows seriously-that bipolar disorder falls into the category of "in sickness and in health; for better or for worse".
I wish you both the best.
2007-04-16 11:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest there isn't much more you can do. She knows you have a disorder and accepted it from the beginning. If this is the third time she is taking you back maybe she understands that when you broke up with her you were in a manic state and decided to wait for you. Once you find out why she has taken you back again you can go from there.
Good luck.
2007-04-16 11:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on REAL medications and stay on them. Bi-Polar disorder is caused by chemical imbalances in the brain. I've raised three children with Bi-Polar. It take real meds not some Chinese waa waa medicine to keep the disorder under control.
Real meds or no go.
2007-04-16 11:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The earliest I could take this can be a couple of days earlier than your interval is due. The stages of hormones aren't often prime sufficient till round this time. I have had a constructive scan approximately three days earlier than my interval was once due, however not ever any prior than that. It could nonetheless pop out bad that early regardless that (despite the fact that you're pregnant). Don't fail to remember to make use of your first morning urine as that is while the hormone stages are such a lot focused.
2016-09-05 14:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by pounds 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to acknowledge what u did hurt her, deal with the bi polar, take the right meds, the proof of your love for her will lie not in words, or promises, but your actions. make her feel as if she is the most important person in your life, put her first, if u were to blame admit it, show remorse, seek her forgiveness.
2007-04-16 11:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would expect time. I would probably give you another chance, but I would wait to continue the relationship fully. Time heals all wounds and if you keep getting help and it works then I guess time would be the proof needed.
2007-04-16 11:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by chattykatty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe if he parted the sea and walked on water
2007-04-16 11:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋