in the 6 yrs we have been datting i received flowers once,1 card and gifts only on x-mas/b-day.Its not about the money, i feel like unless im right in front of him he never thinks about me.if he was like this to everyone i would not care as much but i know he was very "giving" to past gfs so whats wrong with me?plus he is allways doing thought full things for his family but "forgets" me
2007-04-16 11:26:36 · 13 answers · asked by jennyvincent4563789 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The writing is on the wall, either get over it or get a new boyfriend. You make the choice and then live with it. This is just the way he is with you, you can't change him and he isn't going to change himself.
2007-04-16 11:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In case you're feeling hurt because you are comparing how giving your fiance is to others he loves aside from you, I would first remind yourself that normally, being a fiance, you are different than others who are loved. It is a tricky happening that the one who a person intimately loves is also the one who becomes the butt end of sensitive issues. Before second guessing his love for you, you might want to consider the possibility that his past generous behaviors with girlfriends did not work well for him. Maybe he felt used or taken advantage of, and might still be nervous about that. This is one suggestion just to keep in mind so that you don't feel hurt or hastily misjudge his affection for you. Of course, your daily interactions with him and your gut feeling will give you the best answer. If you honestly don't feel loved or if you feel mistreated aside from the times when he gives you gifts, some honest communication or further help may be necessary. I hope this helps you to think deeper into the situation to avoid any sort of hurt.
2007-04-16 18:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by suncatcher84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he is acting more like a husband then a boyfriend/fiance...don't expect a lot after you are married either...
this kind of neglect is just because he has taken you for granted. since you have never said anything in the past..maybe he feels that buys stuff for you and doing little favors for you is not necessary...
sometimes men can be real thick when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. good luck..you are not happy..and when Momma is not happy..nobody is going to be happy..lol
2007-04-16 18:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Louella R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will hate me for this but.... He has grown to just accept the fact that you are together. As for past GFS... here it comes now you will hate my answer... Drop him.... don't make the mistake of getting married if you expect him to change. You will only be another statistic.
2007-04-16 18:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by p2ponly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta take care of you first if he aint steppin up even after you've talken to him about it. Than it comes down to how much are you willin to take... You can only take so much. A relationship is a give and take he aint holdin up his side so kick his butt to the curb because its not a healthy type of relationship
2007-04-16 18:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. He might not even know what you're talking about. I've found that most guys are completely clueless about stuff like this. Tell him exactly what you wrote here.
2007-04-16 18:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by oxymoron1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I have non-giving boyfriends in the past and I leave them. If you love something let it go and if it loves you it will come back! I'd test him, my guess is he is taking you for granted!
2007-04-16 18:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by lil~confused~one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why are you marring him then? Sadly you'll be miserable if you marry this guy!
2007-04-16 18:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BREAK Something of his! & say you hurt yourself breaking it.
I just feel like breaking something.
2007-04-16 18:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Birdie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE NO USELESS PEOPLE IN THE WORLD... JUST ASK HIM WHAT'S WRONG WITH US AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU FEEL LEFT OUT AND THAT IT KIND OF HAVE YOU WONDERING IF HE DON'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE AND STUFF JUST TALK TO HIM BUT ALSO REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE NO SUCH THING AS A USELESS HUMAN BEING
2007-04-16 18:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by slim_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋