well, here i go..........! ive recently started having strong feelings for my boss. the problem is its a women, does this meen im gay? or bisexual? ive had relationships with guys and they never seem to work out. i always get bord and move on.
my boss is a lesbian and is in a long term relationship with the other boss. (they both own the buisness). she is also quite abit older than me.
is it the authority that is attracting me to her? i just dont no.
i dont see her much because i work on an agency and very rearly have any reason to go to the office, although i always find myself thinking of her. we have alot of telephone contact, but never seem to stay on the subject of work. she contacts me at least once aday, and recently ive found out that she doesnt contact the other employees through telephone, its all done by e-mails.
shall i just leave it or shall i start hinting? if so whats the best way without being obvious?
please help. im confused.
(sorry its long)
2007-04-16 11:24:22 · 12 answers · asked by no angel 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are obviously attracted to the woman and you owe it to yourself to `test the water`.
Work on very subtle hints and little things like slightly prolonged eye contact and the odd piece of paper held that liitle bit too long when passing it across etc.
You will know what feels right as these things develop, there are no right or wrong answers.
Also, its not always a totally monogamy in these relationships in any case.
Good luck.
2007-04-16 11:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships at work are often a cause of trouble. This is especially true if one party has some control over the other person - like a boss.
I would be very cautious and steer clear of potentially damaging your career and wellbeing.
If you want to learn about your sexuality, do so in a less potentially harmful way. We all need to have an income and good references etc. in future. There are many ways you could explore your sexuality, from talking things through with others to even putting a toe in the water and starting to date elsewhere. I know crushes can be powerful, but don't walk on thin ice!
Remember, friendships can be very powerful bonding experiences and sometimes forming new friendships can be like falling in love with someone. Couple this with potentially latent sexual feelings and this seems naturally to be a a very potent mix. She may just be very comfortable with and you could explore the friendship side, and aim to learn about your sexuality elsewhere.
Also, falling in love with someone who is not reciprocating, can also be emotionally hurtful to us, and I would aim to avoid this happening, if I were you. I, and many others, have been been there and felt the hurt of 'rejection' which may not be personal, just about another's preferences.
Take care and good luck! Rob
2007-04-16 21:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rob E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi no angel,
what makes you think you are gay ,so you have had a few relationships with a couple of guys and they havent worked out it doesnt mean your gay they just might not have been the right sort of guy for you.You dont say how old you are are you an impressionable teenager in awe of a powerful women who you may aspire to be in the future is she a mother figure that you feel a sense of bonding with .If you show or tell your feelings to her now you may well jepordise your friendship /job or respect if she feels anything for you let her do the running dont risk your career or happiness on something at the moment is all in your head
sorry to sound blunt.
good look
jim x
2007-04-16 11:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by jab6361 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pure and simple its turning you on cause you know she's a lesbian, would you have the same feelings for her if you knew she was straight? Your curious and that's ok, it doesn't make you lesbian or bi-sexual it makes you, you. I'm straight but often thought about what it'd be like i just haven't done it yet. But for starters their both the boss, there in a long term realtionship and it would be a mistake if your curious there's ways of finding what you want. Its a shame society has to label sexuality or condemn it if you like, do what you feel and makes you happy ok.
2007-04-16 22:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by DeViL..^--^~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After taking one quick look at the politics of that situation I would suggest that you DON'T MAKE A MOVE!!! That would be a very bad idea that would leave a lot of people unemployed and really hurt. That doesn't mean that you couldn't talk to her for support regarding your same-sex desires.
2007-04-16 18:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you dont want to ruin her relationship if shes been in it for a long time. But maybe theres a way to hint to her. Im not sure on how that way is, but dont destroy her relationship for your own benefit. Then again, you may bit be bi at all, it may just be curiosity.
2007-04-16 12:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never a good idea to hit on the boss, whatever the sex. Just stay clear. If, however, you have strong feelings for other women, I reckon you should try it. You might be surprised. Boss = no though!!!
2007-04-16 11:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart darlin, ive had a relationship with a woman and it was the best thing until my eldest child stated to get hurt(hes only 12) we are still friends and i still like men but relationships are ano go for me. You go for it and see what happens she can only say no xxx
2007-04-16 14:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes interested but shes also committed to someone else plus its a bit heavy for a first dabble, so to speak, think you might be better looking elsewhere in finding out about your sexual identity, this one may leave you feeling bereft.... good luck....if only i was 20 years younger lass...lol
2007-04-16 23:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by juejua 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought of discussing this with the lady. She may be very interested
2007-04-16 11:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋