I have been married for a couple of months but fear I may have made a mistake and I am not sure I want to be married anymore any suggestions? I don't think my husband is my soulmate and I am not sure if I even know what one is all I do know is that i don't want to be married anymore. What should I do?
2007-04-16 11:23:23 · 28 answers · asked by MiZZ707 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh dear! just a few months? To tell you the truth, what you are just going through is called marriage shock. In the very few months of your marriage, there is this problem of adjustment, getting to know one another more and more and readjusting to the realities of married life.
The feeling has happened to many a married couple. You will begin to have a sense of nolstagia and would loathe everything the marriage stands for but, the truth is that you have not made a mistake. You are going through a very transient curve which you will soon get over.
What you must do now is to be a little bit optimistic, hold on to one or two things that you think is positive in the marriage and let that console you within this phase. If you marry another man, you will surely go through it again and will you continue divorcing them? Have patience dear and the lord will give you the grace to pass through this phase as marriage is forever ok.
2007-04-16 11:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by comradechris 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not giving us many details to comment here. You married someone a couple of months ago and now it's a mistake. Why? And what in the heck is a soulmate anyway? Nobody is going to have a perfect relationship, especially in the first year of marriage. That's the toughest year. But for you to want to back out now shows you are too immature to be married and you need to be honest with your husband so he can get on with his life and find someone who can give him the type of relationship he should be having with you. And you wonder why the divorce rate is so high these days.
2007-04-16 18:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do hate being negative, but don't waste a moment of your life in a relationship that you know deep down inside will never work. You will only prolong pain for both of you and procrastination will make the whole process tougher to get through. Think this through very seriously for a couple weeks and when you are absolutely certain that your feelings of regret are for real then tell your husband exactly what's going on and make the break quickly without lingering or talking and crying endlessly about it. Move Move Move and don't look back. I really am speaking from some painful experience here and would have loved for someone to tell me this at the time.
whatever happens, good luck to you!
2007-04-16 19:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop cheating. This is the only thing that brings up these sort of questions. If your not cheating sorry, and stick it out. Marriage is hard and scary. There had to be something there to get married. The excitement is just wearing off, tell your husband he might be feeling the same way too. I've been there girl and I know how you feel. Being married is very fun, always having a partner in crime and not being lonely at night definitely pluses. Have some girls nights out to prove to you that you can still be separate from him and be yourself. Good luck and have fun.
2007-04-16 20:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think, there was a reason you married him. You don't say if you lived together before but I am assumming that you did not. It takes time to work out the "bumps" and there is no such thing as a marriage that doesn't need work. It is work to keep it alive even if there is love and you are *soul mates*. Is there a reason that you can point to for not wanting to be married? or is it that you thought you could change him into being what you wanted him to be and it is not working? Marriage is a commitment, stick to it and try.
2007-04-16 18:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by jacqui h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would comment on the fact that you got married and only a couple of months later you want a divorce but thats not what you asked so I will move on to the question. You don't want to be married anymore what should you do?? There is only one legal way to get out of a marriage and that is DIVORCE.
2007-04-16 18:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by trmah2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck of a time to decide this now. What's the matter? Now that the wedding is over, and you've gotten all the presents and you've had the fun of picking out the dress, is the excitement all over with? Real life intruding?
You don't mention your age but you sound too young to have gotten married. You need to tough it out some more. This is not the latest high school fad. This is marriage and should have been entered into responsibly, thoughtfully and gravely.
2007-04-16 18:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOTHING for a week. Just think. Then, talk to somebody. A minister, a shrink, a counselor. Somebody uninvolved. Perhaps your marriage is a mistake. Perhaps you guys will be married for 60 years. Just try not to rush. This isn't a trivial decision, so make DARN sure that you do decide correctly. Meanwhile, don't get pregnant.
2007-04-16 18:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your husband and have a little chat. Maybe he feels the same way? But you both need to figure out what you both really want, and maybe all you need is to talk to a marriage counselor, or maybe you two need to split up.
Sit down and talk it over...you never know...you could work out a few things and it could be a great marriage. Or you could agree that it was a mistake, both go your own ways, and have a happy life.
2007-04-16 18:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by pecksun8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Soulmate"... That explains it all. You are one of these nuts who think there is ONE person made for you.... out of BILLIONS of people you think ONE person has been set aside for you! Get over yourself, you are not that important!
Find a good guy, get married, and don't expect perfection. Live a few years, have kids, die, and make room for the next generation.
On second thought, leave him, he is better off without a neurotic nut like you.
2007-04-16 18:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋