How do I get out of an unhappy marriage with the least amount of damage?

Answer 1

plan plan plan and when you make the move, make it fast and don't look back or second guess yourself

Answer 2

sadly enough if your thinking about divorce the damage is done. Nothing is more tradgic than the splitting up of yet another marriage. The law is quite specific about the division of debts and assetts being divided at 50%, however, the best way is to obtain an attorney and know all of your debts and assets together. Then you will know about what your 50% is. Then there is the 50% chance that it will be divided that way. I have seen the 50% be 90-10% because of one or the other participants dishonesty in the division of property, assets and debts. An attorney will help with this but you have to be very careful with attorneys. They lie, steal and deceive like everyone else. Research your attorney as you would a personal or family health professional if you would expect the same results. If you do not, plan to get what you get and once it is done, it takes more than an act of congress to make changes. Take a no nonsense, no bs approach as it is very serious business and a court order is what it is. The court order becomes law and when violated means that you can be prosecuted if your the perpetrator. Good luck and sorry about your marriage.

Answer 3

Financially or emotionally?

Financially, agree beforehand how you will split your estate. Use a mediating divorce attorney, and have him fill out the paperwork. The more you agree on, the less time it takes him, and the cheaper your bill... $75-300 in most states. Call a few. Get some divorce papers off the internetso you know going in what they look like. What you wish to avoid is the adversarial stance where you get an attorney, he gets one, and the two of you have at it... Mega buckos, and those two end up with all of YOUR money.

Emotionally, agree that your marriage is a failure. If a relationship/marriage is respect, admiration passion and trust, and there isn't much in the way of any of these four left, then indeed your marriage is a corpse. If you feel it has some hope, see a counselor for a session or two.... sometime what looks to be something totally dead, is just years of mis-communication, and indeed that person is who you still married. Counseling can make some definitive outlines for you --- sometimes reaffirming that indeed, you each would be better off going your own way.

In each of these, the only way to divorce is to do so civilly... stay friends, for sure, and be for sure sad that it is dead.

Answer 4

Just accept the fact that you tried and it just didn't work. Be respectable of one another. You did love each other at one time, so why damage the relationship even further? Know that there is a future out there, whether it be by staying single or finding someone else to spend your life with. Everyone wants their marriage to last when they get married, but sometimes it just doesn't work even though you give it your best.

Answer 5

i say to go to couple therapy and make sure that your spouse fully understands that you want out.

after that, take your stuff and run as fast as you can. haha. just kidding. make sure that your spouse knows that you're serious about this and close the relationship without any loose ends. if you have kids/dogs, figure out where they are going to go. remember that as a married couple you have property that has to be taken care of as well, i suggest not making any new investments until the divorce is official or else your best friend is taking half.

get a good lawyer. if you've really had enough, find a way to limit conversation with your spouse so you wont argue as much but at the same time be fair... let him understand why you are leaving and hear him out if you are willing to and THEN make your decision. make sure that this is something that you REALLY want to do.

or.... you could always use a back-up plan and run away to mexico :)

Answer 6

By telling him as soon as possiable the longer you wait the more unhappy you'll be just went through this 4yrs ago, beleave my i waited and about lost it. I SEEN A SHRINK FOR 2YRS. No time is right and there is going to be hurt,GOOD LUCK FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Quickly

Answer 8

put no blame on the other party, work out the details before u go to court, so there are no surprises, in every divorce there is one who wants out and one who usually doesn't. the less u say about the reason the better, especially since your mind is made up.

Answer 9

I just left with the kids and told him he could keep everything. I didnt want any of the stuff. I just wanted out. I got the kids he can see them anytime he wants easy as pie. the judge told us that our case was one of the easiest he had dealt with in a while.

Answer 10

I guess I would say to get an attorney, try to be nonjudgemental. Try to think of things in a strictly nonpersonal manner from now on. Just business. Keep it from getting to you.
Just keep it from getting to deep and ugly.

Answer 11

Just go for it and don't get nasty. Think and find out what is really important to you. It all depends on how much baggage you have and how willing you are to fight for what you both have aquired during your marriage.