My best friend since second grade just called to tell me that she and two other of my friends are going on a trip for one week. I am upset because A..I wasn't invited, B...I have asked her to go on a trip with me and she has given me the run-around. What would you do?
2007-04-16 11:21:45 · 27 answers · asked by Alicia P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
By the way, I have lived two hours away from these friends for over ten years. But, I still talk to my best friend on a daily basis. Also, she told me that their wasn't enough room in the car....because of luggage and three adults and one newborn.
2007-04-16 11:34:24 · update #1
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2007-04-16 11:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes your human, of course you're upset, who wouldn't be, i would be. Go ask her why she didn't invite you, that's important, don't let pride get in the way of asking her.
Don't let the hurt get to you either, there could be a good reason why she didn't ask you to go. Accept that your upset about it, go have a talk with someone you can trust, like a family member, then release the hurt. If that doesn't work, write your feelings down on paper, include everything and then burn it, or throw it in the bin along with your hurt.
But, most important and this is what I'd do, ask her why?
2007-04-16 18:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Purity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't sound like great friends to me.
I would want to know the reason why.
I would just ask your friends to be very honest with you about why they didn't invite you.
If they can't give you any good reasons....., are they really the kind of friends you need and would you really want to go on that trip with them?
Maybe it's time to look around for some new people in your life.
2007-04-16 18:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend? She's definitely not your best friend. She's clearly excluded you from the group. I'd confront her and ask her why she didn't invite you. I think it's always better to be honest and upfront with people rather than holding things inside. Just casually ask her one day and see what she says. Maybe there are some unresolved issues you two need to work out.
2007-04-16 18:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Fierce Lioness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her about it. Maybe its nothing. Its okay for friends to not always hang out with eachother. Maybe she wanted to spend time with these other people she went with. I think its important for you to respect her feelings... other wise you will develop a friendship where she feels she she is obligated to do stuff with you even though she doesn't want to, and then she will harbor resentment about it. Hopefully she will tell you if anything is going on when you ask her about it. She might just have a good reason. If she doesn't listen to you or respond to your hurt feelings, then I might consider being upset. I think you should find out first.
2007-04-16 18:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad, but maybe she has some reason for not inviting you-or going on a trip with you. Call her and talk to her and tell her how you feel. Make her tell you why she is doing what she is doing.
2007-04-16 18:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is still your friend but she has other friends too..don't feel like the lone ranger..this happens all the time in life..
just have other friends too as you can't make this girl change her plans to suit you. maybe these other friends are not really the friends you think they are..or maybe they think that more then three people would not fit into there plans...
make more friends and don't take this as a person slap in your face...its just something that happens in life...
2007-04-16 18:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Louella R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her what she has hurt your feelings and that you dont understand why she is going on a trip with some people, and not you. Its alright if you are upset...maybe even a little mad, but you should talk to her about it and try to sort through your problem.
2007-04-16 18:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by linny5227 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I'd be a little upset too. I wouldn't let this one thing destroy our friendship but I certainly would ask why she would be willing to go on a trip with them and not one with you.
2007-04-16 18:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by dreamer.rc42 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad also that is kind of mean that they didn't invite you. Maybe you think more of the friendship than she does and if that's the case I think you should think about getting a new friend.
2007-04-16 18:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Yvonne Cesaro 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I would b pissed, but she must have her reasons. Try to understand her or ask her why she didn't invite or gone with you on a trip
2007-04-16 18:25:34 · answer #11 · answered by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋