Do you think that your spouse is a "compromise"?

Question

My husband told me many times, that I am a compromise.That everyone is a compromise. To be honest, I think that he is blind and does not know half about me. I think that no one would ever be able to live to his "high expectations". No woman can always be happy, smily, airy-fairy, always says "yes, darling". I believe that either you love with all your heart or not. Perhaps, it's idealistic. DO you think that the person you love is a compromise?

He is not good at making compromises though or negotiating.

Answer 1

First of all, I find your husband's comments hurtful. Why would he want to tell you something like that. As for my husband, I feel like I won the lottery. I was all set to marry another (who was absolutely wrong for me) when we got together purely by a chance phone call. I couldn't be happier, but this doesn't mean we don't have our moments, but I didn't settle by any means. I feel very lucky.

Answer 2

I wouldn't call my husband a "compromise", but in every relationship there are compromises, sometimes significant ones. Perhaps this is what your husband means when he says it - granted, not the most tactful way to express it, but I think he has a point. Yes, no one can ever be "perfect"; which necessarily means that everyone is a "compromise" to one degree or another. Which isn't really a bad thing - it's life! And yes, you can love the person very much, and still acknowledge things you have compromised on to be with this most awesome person. Love doesn't have to be blind to be true.

Answer 3

Compromise for what? A compromise is when someone has something that they are willing to compromise for something they want in return so how can a wife be a compromise. A husband and wife compromise all the time with each other usually to settle a disagreement. Now didnt you realize the kind of guy he was before saying "I do"? Realistically. the ideal conditions could never exit in our world as there too many different thoughts and opinions to survive. In other words too much individualism so we all compromise our values everyday to survive

Answer 4

Your husband does not value you. Otherwise, why the heck would he put you down and tell you to your face that you are a "compromise"? Why do we as women take this kind of emotional abuse from any man? We don't have to. There are a lot of men out there wondering the same thing. Wondering why we all want the jerks of the world. Tell him you have a compromise for HIM. He can stop talking to you like that, or condescending to you and devaluing you, or he can ride OUT on the same horse he rode IN on!

Answer 5

No, I do not think that the person whom I am in love with is a compromise. How dare tour husband breathe those degrading words to you? Love speaks volumes, he speaks something I'd rather not hear ever from someone who claims to love me.

Answer 6

Oh man, what a slam. I tell you that guy needs an attitude adjustment. He is ruining his marriage slowly with each unkind word he says to you. Sort of taking an ice cube out of the fridge and putting it on the table.
Listen, you need to sit him down and say to him. It's not acceptable behavior for a husband to talk like that to his loving wife. Your wife, the person that you love is NOT a comprimise. You wern't a comprimise when you got married. You're not now, he just saying that to hurt you and to elicit a reaction. Do let it get you down. just ignore him and love life (I know, easy to say, hard to do). It's not you, it's him.

Answer 7

I would never call him a compromise. He's all I ever hoped for and more. And that's they way your husband should feel about you.

Answer 8

I think your husband is an idiot. Sorry, but even if he thought that, what on earth would possess him to tell you?~?~? I am happily married and no, he isn't a compromise, he is my husband and I love him to death.