thinking i would "test" my partner's fidelity.... i got a friend to see if he could "seduce" him. unfortunately, my partner took the bait. i know what i did is questionable.... but even if it was a setup... my partner still had the "intent" to cheat didn't he? am i trying to excuse away his potential infidelity because of my lack of trust?
2007-04-16 11:20:33 · 24 answers · asked by Harvard W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you did was wrong but at the end of the day you questioned his fidelity and something must of been making you question it. What you have probably been thinking has been confirmed if he does it to you once you can guarantee he will do it again
2007-04-16 11:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you definitely have a trust issue. Was your last relationship the same way? Did you also have issues of trusting the other person?
You might need to be the one to take time out and figure out why you are having these problems. You might be the problem. It's alright to take a break and not be with someone. You will still be someone.
But you need to find out who you are and what you want, when you do that you will find someone who is right for you, and then you won't be so insecure that you think the other person is cheating.
2007-04-16 11:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of emotional cheating. a super style of the time actual cheating comprises thoughts. interior the circumstances the place actual cheating will possibly no longer have in touch emotion i might say it does no longer be as undesirable as emotional cheating. while does this relatively take place nonetheless? perchance while somebody gets drunk or severe to the factor that they are not thinking approximately what they're doing and that they are in simple terms going alongside with what the different guy or woman is doing. Then there is people who in simple terms choose to get laid. in the event that they have been actual in love with somebody else, that'd be plenty extra complicated to get around. interior the tip the two are hurtful and the lesser of the two evils is hardly lesser.
2016-11-24 23:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You created a situation that could happen, and left the decision up to him. You observed. It was an experiment, X person in Y situation equals Z action by X person.
He has cheated on you once, he will do so again. Don't feel guilty because you found out the truth.
2007-04-16 11:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Big Super 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe you are trying to excuse him. You have a lack of trust, and that is what lead you to do what you did. Perhaps, he gave you reason not to trust him in the first place.
Set up or not, he cheated. Now that you know this, do you continue your relationship? If not, what will you tell him is the reason for your breakup?!!
2007-04-16 11:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mocha Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu set it up so I feel you cheated on your self in a way
most dogs will not pass up a nice looking, nice smelling pork chop, so the butcher should leave his meat in the locker......
You put it out there so who is really to blame? but yea if he cheated that easy it was a matter of time before it happened any way.
2007-04-16 11:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I believe that in one form or another it is on a man's mind....being married makes it complicated to cheat because of the logistical matters and efforts that go into it....but if an "easy" opportunity arises, they there is a good possibility that the "bait" will be taken......That being said, the question I have for you is......did you "want" him to take it???
2007-04-16 11:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by o m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! i cant believe that. Yes you probably shouldnt have done that but its a good thing you did. at least now u no the truth. i think in this case what you did compared to your cheating partner makes you look like an angel. good job
2007-04-16 11:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong of you to set him up like that in the first place, and if he hadn't cheated he should have broken up with you, but since he did cheat, it means that he wasn't that attatched to you in the first place. It sounds to me like you both are at a place where you need to end the relationship.
2007-04-16 11:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by ShortStuff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way you are still his partner and it sounds like he didn't think about you while he was cheating. Regardless he is still going to be mad that you set him up but he still could've resisted and not cheated. Either way you look at it both of you are going to be mad but he still shouldn't have cheated on you.
2007-04-16 11:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋