Well here's the thing, I've posted before about my wife leaving and going back to her home state, and how she and her mother think I should have to pay to send all of her things to her. Here's my question, am I allowed to like rent a storage thing for a month, send her the key and tell her she's got until the end of the month to get her things? Her and her mother in law say it's my problem and that I should pay to send her things when it was her decision to leave our marriage. And to be honest, I don't want her up in the house because she's becoming crazy like her mom.
2007-04-16 10:52:49 · 21 answers · asked by Jon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You only have a duty not to damage the property. You can store it in your home or in a storage shed. The legal book I read on divorce recomended that you store the property for a full year before disposing of it. If you sell it after that time, you owe her all the proceeds. I would also send a registered letter telling her the disposition of her property if you do store it or decide in the future to sell it.
2007-04-16 10:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why you should be responsible for sending her stuff. Especially if she was the one who left. If you kicked her out, that's different. The storage unit is a plausible idea, although I would tell her to come and get the key instead of mailing it - if it gets lost in the mail, bad things could happen on BOTH ends. Tell her she has 30 days to get her stuff or you're going to donate it. Make sure you set up a time when you can be there to watch, and if you feel that she's unstable you can always ask for an officer to be there just in case. If she doesn't do it, you did your best and have no reason to feel guilty.
2007-04-16 17:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you kick her out? If she left you, then it is her problem to get her stuff, why should you pay? Or move all this stuff into a storage unit at your expense? If you don't want her in the house you can pack up what is hers and tell her its ready to be picked up and if you think you'll have trouble with her call the police and they will come and keep things under control. It sounds like your being bullied unless your not being honest and she left because you abused her or cheated or something else. Good luck
2007-04-16 17:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by SusiQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, legally you do not have to pay to have her things sent to her!!! There is no law that says if one person moves out the other has to pay shipping fees....If I were you, I would tell her that you are giving her so many days to get her things out, or you can wait until you guys go to court. There you can address the things. It is not your responsibility to make sure she gets her things. I dont think that the storage thing is a good idea....although it is funny. If the payments are not made on time or made at all, she would lose her things in auction. In that case she may have a way to come after you for the damages, considering you were the one to place her things there.
2007-04-16 18:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Miss. American Nightmare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of a touchy situation and it really depends in what state you are in. There are different laws for different states. However, my advice is go ahead and send it to her. I know it will be a pain in the butt and maybe expensive unless you yourself drive the uhaul to her, which is an option. But keep ALL you receipts!!!!! Then when you go to get the divorce give the receipts to your attorney and ask that you be refunded in full. 9 times out of 10 once a judge sees that you were trying to be nice and keep the peace he will order it refunded. Also since she is the one that choose to leave the cost will be on her. I know this is probably not what you want to here but trust me, been through this, it is the best way to go even though it sucks!!! Good Luck
2007-04-16 17:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by laraprice2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your solution isn't against the law (where I'm from, but it may differ from state to state), and it's perfectly legal as far as I know, but what sort of things are you talking about? If it's stuff that's insured or has a deed of purchase or something like that, than I don't reccommend being too careless with it, just in case damage or theft should occur with those items.
So though your decision to put things in a storage unit is perfectly legal, should a law suit come up, your behavior and decisions are things that could be used against you in the law suit.
In my personal opinion, it should be her problem to get her things since she's the one who left. It doesn't make sense for you to sweep up her leftover mess, but that's just me.
Good luck with everything!
2007-04-16 17:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you and unless a judge has specifically ordered you to send her stuff to her at your expense, then there is no law that says that you are obligated to meet her demands and her mother has nothing to do with this. The old lady is no more than a crazed spectator. Typically, it is up to your wife to go get her stuff, so go for it, rent the storage space and send her a key. You can offer to help her load...lol
2007-04-16 18:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to depend on your local laws. I say contact your local sherrif's department since it is obviously a civil issue. If it were me, I would contact her and give her a deadline to have her stuff out. She has obviously moved, so she doesn't have an established residency at your house any more. Put her on notice, sometimes the courts make you put something in the news paper to put them on legal notice.
She left you and her stuff, so obviously none of them were important to her. I say give her notice and a timeline, after that...do what you wish. Make sure you check with your local authorities before hand because laws vary from state to state. I see no problem with putting them in a storage unit, and sending her a key, but you have to make sure there is a way to prove she knows about it, and prove she has the key.
Check with local authorities....good luck!
2007-04-16 17:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre not legally obligated to do anything with her possessions. What you mention above would be more of a courtesy than a legal obligation. Also tell her that whatever will happen to her things if se doesnt come to get them by the months end and it is not your problem. You would only get into trouble if you prevented her from having a chance to get her things. You can also make her call you to set up an appoitment to retrieve her things and then havea deputy there to prevent trouble and to make sure she only takes whats hers. Hope this helps
2007-04-16 18:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no obligation to send her her things. If you are getting a divorce you hade better discuss this with a lawyer before you do anything. If you move her stuff out you could be accused of forcibly evicting her which could get you in legal trouble. Its better just too box her stuff up (so she doesn't have to spend any extra time in your house going through your stuff) and leave it somewhere in your house until she gets it under your supervision or your divorce lawyer tells you what to do.
2007-04-16 17:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by riki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋