Okay, my best friend is someone I look up to a great deal. But, she has been cheating on her boyfriend with a 23-year-old nasty guy. Her boyfriend is one of my friends so I feel like I should do something you know?? I tried talking to her but she won't listen. I don't understand why she would cheat on him, he's a decent guy! Every time I say something she gets mad at me but I can't let it go on...she's playing him. I don't believe in cheating, and I think not stopping it means I am saying it's okay.
By the way...she's 17
He's 23!!!!
Gross.......
2007-04-16 10:24:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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I have sooo been in this situation. Let me tell you what will happen.
I was great friends with a girl named Carrie. My boyfriend and I decided she'd be perfect for his best friend Andy. Well Carrie started cheating on her boyfriend which this guy who was a total loser. He wanted to be a player but we'd caught him numerous times sending both me and Carrie the same super romantic paragraphs over AIM. he was cut and pasting. I was friends with him--but that doesn't mean I didn't recognize he was a terrible boyfriend. We were roommates-- didn't he think we could turn around and see what a loser he was? So we made fun of him all the time. Well she started sleeping with this loser. Well as my boyfriend and I hung out with Andy, he'd ask us questions about how busy Carrie had been this week. Or he'd call and when I answered, he'd ask me where she was. I never said a word but he could tell by the way I didn't say anything. A few times when I tried to lie for her I ended up saying she was at the library --at one in the morning!! Hey I was tired and couldn't come up with anything.
I felt so guilty that I had introduced her to both Andy, who she was cheating on and the scum she was cheating with. If I hadn't introduced her, she wouldn't be able to cheat and wouldn't be able to ruin Andy's life.
Well Andy figured it out and broke up with Carrie. Carrie got furious with ME! She thought I told on her, but I didn't. Carrie told my boyfriend that I was cheating on him. He dumped me. She was furious and didn't talk to me anymore.
So to make the long story short--here is how we all are today. Carrie is still with the guy she was cheating with--the scum that we made fun of constantly. And I lost all 3 of my friends. My boyfriend, his friend Andy, and Carrie. My boyfriend believed Carrie's lies. Andy sided with his best friend. Carrie was furious that I told a guy she was cheating. SO basically life is fine and dandy for her and I spent a lot of time feeling guilty and upset that I lost my friends.
So your best friend is cheating. Well, are you willing to lose her friendship over it? Cause thats a guarentee. Her boyfriend will be glad you told her but he won't remain your friend b/c you are the friend of the skank who cheated on him. Guilt by association. Not to mention when her boyfriend finds out--she will get you back. Serious revenge is in store for you.
So I know where you are and I know where you are going. Don't do it. Keep your mouth SHUT! Don't say anything, don't hint anything and if you really feel like you can't control yourself--tell your bf that you think she'd be happier if she dumped her boyfriend for the 23 yo nasty guy. Cause if you tell her you think cheating is wrong, she'll blame you when she gets caught--even if you had nothing to do with it.
Run away and seriously hide from this drama that is guarenteed to explode soon!
2007-04-16 10:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should tell him urself. it would be hard for him to believe it but i agree with u about if u dont do anything it feels like u r saying its ok. or u can just talk to her and tell her that u need to say something and want her not to get mad at u just listen and maybe she will listen and not get as mad. or u could also give that 23-year-old nasty guy lol a piece of ur mind.
2007-04-16 17:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by <3rebeccalynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, I believe to stay out of a cheating friend's business because it is their business and not yours. They're the ones that have to deal with the consequences not you. But since the guy is your friend too you might have to get involved. Tell her to end it with one or keep you out of it. She needs to straighten up her act and can't get you involved in her stupid behavior. It's not fair to expect you to keep your mouth shut when you are friends with the guy as well. Give her an ultimatum to get things sorted out or you'll do it!
2007-04-16 17:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend want listen to you and you consider the guy a friend also tell him but be prepared to lose a friend either way. You could also mention it to her parents or one of her siblings. I know it is a tough situation but live up to your standards not hers.
2007-04-16 17:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by rjclancy@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hve done ur job by trying to stop her.Now let time take its own course otherwise, I am affraid, you are going to loose not only one but both the friends. So just wait and watch.
2007-04-16 18:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by rina b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ewww thats a pedifile shes not 18
tell her she can get her 23 year old guy in trouble
and if she dosnt listen tell her bf waht shes doing he has to know its not fair that hes being cheated
do whsat they did in mean girls
2007-04-16 17:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats horible! if u r really good friends w/ this guy tell him if u think its right.
2007-04-16 17:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do sumthin that wud make her hate him!sumthin really bad.
2007-04-16 18:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by guru_2cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋