17 and pregnant..... too young?

Question

i'm 17 (turning 18 in june) and i'm 16 weeks pregnant. i was already engaged before the pregnancy and i've lived on my own and supported myself for over a year simply by choice with no ill-will from my mother. now my fiancee (who just turned 20) and i are living together and are both excited for this baby to come. but..... i can't help but feel extremely young and unprepared even tho i've gotten nothing but support from every part of both sides of the family. do i feel this way simply because i'm too young?

Answer 1

yeah.. i think that is kinda young.. no one wants to look back on their life and know they had a teenage pregnancy, no offense but that seems slutish, but you are engaged which helps a little bit =]. which you have right now b/c you got pregnant before 18.

but you relaly can't do anything about it

Answer 2

i was 17 when i had my first ! im 19 an pregnant again .. In my opinion its all about your attitude if you keep thinking oh this is SO hard i hate this life i wish i had made Better choices then... yes it will suck because you cant turn back time ! Weather the daddy is there or not you are going to be the one taking care of the baby the most. The sooner you accept that and do what needs to be done the Better life will be. Just think positive thought always find the bright side in any situation. If the daddy of your baby's walks out that's alright your young and have your life ahead of you an that's his loss not yours, And im sure seeing a big smile on your face when hes not there is the best revenge. After lots of hard work and a little growing up my baby's daddy was there for us an we are now married, but unfortunately that'sts not always the case exspecily with young dads there hormones take over everything. Just keep this in mind. No mater how hard and tired you get each stage of youbaby'sys life dosen't last forever.. actually goes by very fast ! Life is still fun after having a baby it just changes ALOT that's the hardest part adjusting to the mommy life style but you will learn = ) everything will be fine and one day you will look back and laugh at the hard times

Answer 3

Absolutely your too young! However, just because you are too young does not mean that you wont be a WONDERFUL mother. I was a single 19yr old when i had my daughter..i will be 22 tomorrow and will be delivering my 2nd child (a boy) next Tuesday. I feel as unprepared and ill equipt to have this child as i did my first. This time around i have a wonderful fiance and both of our families love and support us. He and I have been best friends for years and he was there for the birth of "our" daughter and is now the same age as i was when i gave birth to her! You sound like a very responsible young woman and seem to have a good family support team going! Just keep in mind when you feel as though you are too young to deal with the resposiblitly of a child; this baby did not ask to come into a home where he/she is the cause of stress (so dont take it out on them). Also, i dont know if you are a religious person, but God put this child in your life for a reason.....Hope i helped!

Answer 4

Yes, it is way too young, and it's also too young to be engaged. But all you can do from here on out is try to make better choices. I had my first daughter when I was 17....she is 15 now, I knew I had to make better choices in order to give her a better life. It was hard in the beginning, but she is a great kid and I believe whole heartedly, that she will not make the same mistakes I made. I can't imagine my life without her, but she knows how hard it was and how much I missed out on because I was stupid and trying to be an adult, when I should have just enjoyed being a kid. Maybe it was just me, but I don't remember sex as a teenager being anything but something to do. I wish all these young girls would respect themselves and their bodies more, there really is more to life than being some guys *** receptacle, no matter how "in love" you think you are!

I wish you the best

Answer 5

I am 20 and I am also 16 weeks pregnant. I would have the baby if I were you. I went through a week of worring abou that same thing. As long as you love your child I would have it. That baby will bring you more happiness than you could ever imagine. Screw your families. They arent the ones you need to be worring about. You need to try to stay stree free so you can have a happy healthy pregnancy and baby. Once you beautiful baby come the families will come around. Just make sure you get on some state aid and go to a doctor.

Good Luck and Have Fun

Answer 6

I don't have any facts or a lot of wisdom to offer because I am only 22. My husband and I got married at 19 though and I felt really really happy and excited, but completely unprepared. Now we have waited til we thought we were ready to have kids and we still feel like we might be rushing things. We both really want a baby, but we just feel unprepared. We thought about waiting another year or so, but a friend of ours just got pregnant and she is 28 and feels unprepared. What I am trying to say is that I don't think it is your age, or your timing, or support, or anything like that. I think that just starting a family is a little scary and there is no way to truly be prepared, you just have to know that this is what you want. Good luck!

Answer 7

You feel that way because ALL pregnant women feel that way. =) No matter how old or how young you are, you're never fully prepared to have a baby. Excited, thrilled, nervous, scared - you should be all of these things. Yes, you are young to be having a baby, but you're turning 18 soon and you'll be an adult so people can just kiss your butt! =) That's wonderful that you have so much support from all sides, and hopefully it will help you get over your troubled feelings. Congradulations and best of luck! =)

Answer 8

I think you're just a little nervous and scared. I am 23. I was married at 22. We are 23 weeks pregnant. I am scared too, even though we very much want this baby. I think it is only natural. I don't know you, but you actually sound quite mature for your age.
I have found that getting myself as prepared as possible before our daughter's arrival has been helping me alot. I have been doing a great deal of research, I've signed up for prenatal and parenting classes, we've prepared the nursery, and we bought stuff slowly for the baby.
Good luck to you. I hope you have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy, happy baby.

Answer 9

It sounds to me like you are doubting yourself before you even give yourself a chance. I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first. Unlike you, I had no family support and an abusive boyfriend/ husband. I went through a time of not having anywhere to live. However, no matter what I had to go through, I would never give up any of my kids for the world. Once the baby comes it will all just be so natural that your age won't matter. I am pregnant with my fourth now and no matter what I go through, hearing my kids voices and laughter makes it all worth it. Good Luck.

Answer 10

Well sweetie just look at this like things happen for a reason. You may feel young and no one can tell you anything to make sure your ready for this. It will just come natural. I got pregnant at age 17 and had my baby at 18. No help from no one and still as of now at age 26 doing great. I never said it wouldn't be hard but it will be all worth it. You guys will do great. Good Luck!

Answer 11

sounds like you have your head on straight, just the simply fact that you are concerned about being too young, makes you a good mom already.
I had a child at 21, and although I thought I was totally prepared for anything, and well.... you never are. All you can do is love and do what's best for the baby. You will always have situations come up that you are unsure of, and you will do things wrong, but that's all part of parenthood. As long as you care about your child, that is all you need to know.
good luck!!!!!!!