Wud u settle 4 being... ??

Question

wud u settle being for 2nd best in a relationship.. where the piority in ur partner's life was their career ?

Answer 1

Even if you eventually decide to settle for that, it will hurt you so much. I am talking from personal experience. In the end you will be heartbroken and will leave. If I am not number one, it feels like I'm being cheated on.

Answer 2

Was it always like this? Did you ever think that maybe the reason why your partner is working so hard is because they want to give you everything? Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. But most of all COMMUNICATE! You need to talk with you partner and let them know how you are feeling. Maybe you are right and you shouldn't settle for being 2nd best, but you also have to find out why they are placing you or making you feel like 2nd best. Talk things out! Good luck!

Answer 3

Nope, I wouldnt settle for anything.
In a serious relationship you should come first.
However think about it, is it really that your partner thinks more of his career than you? Or could it be that he is just working really hard to give you both a great future together. Maybe he wants to save for house deposit, nice car, wedding, children.
Just know the reasons before you act. But if he is just concerntrating on his career for selfish reasons, maybe he is just not that into you and it is time to find a guy that will give you the time and attention you deserve.
Talk to him, tell him you appreciate that he works hard but for you to be happy you need to feel you are coming first and that to do that he needs to give you more of his time.
Good luck.

Answer 4

I don't think I could, but I work in a hospital, where I see the non-medical spouses of doctors taking second place to the medical career; a doctor whose wife is a teacher and changes jobs every year when he moves to a new contract; a female registrar whose husband decided to be the stay-at-home parent; a female doctor who gave up her work to raise her children giving her husband the opportunity to make huge moves in his career; a woman who uncomplainingly moved to a new house, new country, new life, three weeks after giving birth to be with her doctor husband on his new contract!!!

Answer 5

I am not first place in my partners heart, but he loves me my children are happy and so am I, I hate to say it but We are never first in anybodys life, Their is always a part in most people that says you come first honest when the truth is you were never first because their first love was, It may have a person, a car, a video game you get the hint, I would just take being in their life at least you are their.

Answer 6

If I didn't perceive there was a healthy balance between a career and a family, I would probably choose not to be in such relationship. I understand that my husband has to work hard to pay the bills - but he always finds time for "us", and I'm ok with that.

Answer 7

I certainly would not - but it depends on whether I knew the situation before I got involved. If he was always career driven then you can't expect to change him but if he has become this way since the relationship started then no I would not put up with it.

Answer 8

Although I realize that having a career, personal achievements and an income is important, it can never replace family or relationships. I can think of few people who are happily married to a workaholic.

Answer 9

No, personally, I wouldn't. But it also depends on whether the priority is forever or if this is temporary in order to achieve certain goals. Priorities can shift during relationships. It doesn't have to mean there is a problem. Only you know which this is.

Answer 10

I think maybe I am second, and I'm fine with that. Actually, I'm fourth: she has three children, two by me. Since we're not having any more kids, though, I would definitely NOT accept being fifth for any other thing! Kids = OK; career = not OK.