I need help and advice help me out here please I beg of you?

Question

I know this is major and you may ask why ask a bunch of strangers but I am in this situation where I ask anybody for help.So if you are able to please do so.

Here's the situation:
I have this friend I wanna break the friendship but she knows mainly all of my boy secrets. She gets in trouble plus shes promiscuous,I don't want some one like that to be my friend .However I am afraid if break the friendship she'll tell my parents and I will lose my insurance,bank account ,going to prom OMG so much and all other benefits that my parents have in stock for me plus the trust they had for me they will never trust me again.What should I do?And what should I do with my future frenz?

The y r dirty secrets those like running away and going to guys house ,taking money n stuff from guys,going into rooms with guys( though I did nothing,she went with me,but she may lie and say otherwise).My daddy is a principal my mama is an assistant director at her firm .Am like kinda up there i n society if they know these thimngs plus with the type of guys(yea those that smoke,n sell weed)God I was foolish.
Thing is she made it feel alright,when its not.So yea I just realize I was so stupid.Thing is I was never like that i have just suddenly changed since I had her as a friend From January to now.I was intending to give back all the guys their money they spent on me in that way they can't claim me you know,since they were all bad boys.What do you think?

The y r dirty secrets those like running away and going to guys house ,taking money n stuff from guys,going into rooms with guys( though I did nothing,she went with me,but she may lie and say otherwise).My daddy is a principal my mama is an assistant director at her firm .Am like kinda up there i n society if they know these thimngs plus with the type of guys(yea those that smoke,n sell weed)God I was foolish.
Thing is she made it feel alright,when its not.So yea I just realize I was so stupid.Thing is I was never like that i have just suddenly changed since I had her as a friend From January to now.I was intending to give back all the guys their money they spent on me in that way they can't claim me you know,since they were all bad boys.What do you think?Oh I also had her give a 22 yr old guy a poece of paper with my name and stuff so we'll hook up.

Answer 1

Pretend to still be her friend until graduation. That way she'll still "be your friend", or so she will think. You just avoid her as much as you can. Your parents will think your still friends, and everything will work out! good luck = )

Answer 2

Hm. Wean yourself from her...ease away from her...become involved in other activities...But remember, no matter what you do, she has ammunition she can use at the slightest whim.

Were I you and were serious about shedding this person as a so-called "friend" -I'd have a talk with my mother and tell her just a couple of things tell her you are concerned because this girl may cause social trouble for you and you are trying to break away from her negative influence on your life so you can measure up and move forward with you life...Methinks Mom will take this to heart, if the friend tries to pull anything, the mother will know/understand the negative intention behind it and pay it no mind...

In the future, don't become so chummy that you share ALL your secrets with others, even close friends. Some things are best kept secret...they really are.

Take care honey, I'm rootin for you - that you'll lift this burden from your shoulders and talk to Mom or Dad about it and then move on with your life...

Cheers!

Grace

Answer 3

Well, can you just not spend so much time with her? Maybe just not be available to do stuff? In other words, be acquaintances but not great friends. That way, you stay on her good side but you aren't enemies. I assume you are also promiscuous too if you have "boy secrets" that would make your family practically disown you. Maybe she'd be supportive of you trying to turn over a new leaf. Just don't come off as judgemental or "better than thou" with her and she won't have any reason to squeal. Maybe your parents already disapprove of her anyway and wouldn't believe anything she said. Thing to remember is not to burn your bridges - don't make an enemy of your friend. Just try and let her go gradually by making other friends. And next time, choose more carefully - both your friends and what you tell your friends. Life's a big lesson. I doubt your parents would write you out of their lives, but if worse came to worst, you'd still have the same opportunities everyone else has to make a life for yourself. I didn't have wealthy parents but I don't feel cheated. Life is what you make of it, hon. Live and learn.

Answer 4

So basically you're being black mailed into being her friend.

You could sit down with your parents and explain that since you've become friends with this girl you've made some unhealthy and straight up stupid decisions that you have to live with and you'd rather not go into it but that you're no longer wanting to hurt yourself and you no longer want to be friends with this girl and so if they do hear anything that she happens to say it's lies because you've ended the friendship and she's angry.

Trust me your parents know the things you do before you even do them. I'm 20 and learned that a few too many times!

Honesty is always the best choice.

If you'd rather not be honest with your folks why not just start to slowly stop hanging out with the girl? you could always say you're grounded and can't go out at nights or you need to study, have homework, volunteering, working or babysitting, etc. There are PLENTY of ways to ditch someone. Eventually she'll take the hint.

I hope this helps :)
I know what it's like to dislike someone or their lifestyle and have to be their friend or else...it does suck!

Answer 5

You can break away a little at a time from this friend. Just for whatever reasons be busy when she wants you to do things, have homework or something more pressing when she calls, or you could just be honest with her and take that chance that she won't screw you over by telling your parents about your secrets. In the future I would try to choose my friends more wisely. If you see or hear your friends doing things you don't agree with, let them know right off that you won't tolerate that in a friend. I don't know what you have done that would cause your parents to take away your privleges, but when you are judging your friend remember what it is that you are afraid to tell your parents about yourself.

Answer 6

first of all, you sound like a nice person, don't beg for anything:)

Now, as for question, I think If I were you, I wouldn't do it by announcing "Hey, I don't want you're company no more because this and that". Something like that could be a trigger for her to talk to people.
What I would do, is slowly slowly (progressively) lose contact with her.
If you meet very often, get to a position you don't meet as much as you did (once a week, maybe twice and cut it down by the time).
Say you're busy (I count on you to make up something cool), maybe you got some stuff of your head, school, anything that make her go:)

Good luck Mila

Answer 7

She dont sound like much of a friend. Your parents are bound to find out sooner or later. So just break it off with the friend> then sit down and talk to your parents. I bet they did the same thing when they were young. Being honest is the only way to be. I tried it. Good luck

Answer 8

first of all i dont mean to be rude - but this is not MAJOR - dieing of cancer is major ... but anyways ...



i have been in the situation where you dont want to be friends with someone anymore ( whatever the reason ) ... and this is the best way to go about it - without hurting anyone feelings - and in your case with out getting her pissed enough to spill your secrets ....


you nonchalantly stop talking to her --- just slowwwwllyyy stop answering her calls - slowwlyy stop contact --- still have a little bit but just use excuses like you have been so busy bla bla ... and slowly she will back off --- Once you graduate - it will be WAY easier - because you wont be seeing her in school everyday -- once you graduate you loose contact with all your friends anyways ....

ALSOOO be very careful in this process not to talk about her or gossip about her - because that will get her going as well - and im sure you dont want that!


ALSOOO dont let her know she has you in this position - right when she thinks she has a little power she will use it!



good luck - im sure once high school is over she will be out of the picture -

Answer 9

lose her as a friend slowly. Dont do anything to make her mad to where it would give her the opprotunity to tell your secrets. She doesn't sound like much of a winner, and you should in the future chose friends that are more like yourself and that you as well as your parents will respect. I would just stop calling her so often and stop hanging out with her so often as well. just slowing stop befriending her, and maybe she will get the clue, but won't be so mad. good luck and hope everything works out for you...whatever you do DONT miss your prom, do what it takes, just stay honest. I missed mine and regret it to this day, 7 years later.

Answer 10

If you no longer want to surround yourself with people like that, then I suggest you sit down with your parents and have a long talk. Explain everything, tell them the truth. Hopefully they will be understanding. I know I would with my daughter.
Then once your parents are aware of everything then there is not much this friend can do to hurt you. And if she spreads rumors at school, who cares. I'm sure if she is as wild as you say then the kids at school know that as well. Plus anyone who is truly your friend won't care.
Good luck.

Answer 11

Little by little try not to spend much time with her....try to alienate yourself from her...without telling her upfront that you no longer want to be her friend. Eventually she'll give up and start hanging out with other friends. For future friendships, don't reveal EVERYTHING to a friend...there are something things that you just go to take to the grave! Good luck =)