I'm in my second trimester of my pregnancy. I plan to take a maternity leave from work later on. But work is causing me a lot of stress these days and I know that's not good for being pregnant. Should I think about starting my maternity leave sooner? Should I talk to my doctor? I don't want to though because I don't want to worry my husband. What do you all think I should do?
2007-04-16 09:06:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
too much stress while pregnant is bad, what do you do for your job? can you afford to be off early? i would talk to both your doctor and your husband. See how your husband feels about it and if you agrees with you that it is a bad situation for you to be in, then i would let your doctor know what is going on
Good luck
2007-04-16 09:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Diana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If work is causing you stress, talk to your doctor, and tell him/her your concerns. The doctor may take you off work for a few weeks for medical leave, which may help ease your mind, rather than the maternity leave. Save the maternity time, after baby is born, you are going to want to have all that time with the baby. Best of Luck
2007-04-16 16:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lemme tell ya... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in my second trimester of pregnancy, and i am 26 wks and i have already started my mat leave, due to the same issues u are having. I am also stressed out, i have 2 other kids 6 and 3 and my job was very stressful. You have to do what is best for u and more importantly, for baby. Talk to your doctor and see what they have to say. Stress is not a good thing for baby as i have heard that stress can induce labor and u are not far enough long yet to have the baby.
2007-04-24 13:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by spacelee666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you get to take as long as you want off for maternity leave? If not, do you want to waste the time now? If you do get as long as you'd like then can you afford to stay home, and would you not be any crazier not working already? If you would be able to not work, is there any appointment that your husband will not be able to attend? If not maybe you can just schedule a quick run in with your doc to chat about this. If he thinks that you are at any kind of risks because of your stress level, then you definitely need to tell your husband. It is normal for them to get worried about you and the baby, but if you and your doc decide it's not a big deal and you would rather stay at work then just tell him it's a lot easier to stress out when you are pregnant. He probably will feel secure with whatever the doc tells him, at least mine does.
2007-04-24 11:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend a short vacation to re-charge. When I was expecting my oldest I worked up until the day I went into labor! (of course I loved my job and it wasn't a source of stress for me) A few months before the birth of our son, my husband and I took a weekend away to reconnect and catch up on some much needed sleep!
We found an elegant bed and breakfast in Friday Harbor on San Juan Island. We took the ferry over and spent the entire weekend lounging in bed with some good books, enjoying the two person whirlpool tub and dining out at some really fantastic restaurants!
We enjoyed it so much, we have made it a tradition for each of our pregnancies!
You might find that a weekend away will be just enough to set you right. If not, go ahead and take your leave! Just make sure you understand all the specifics about your companies leave policy. Mine only allowed for a total of 12 weeks and I wanted to spend my ENTIRE leave with my baby! :) (of course I ended up becoming a stay at home mom anyway lol)
2007-04-16 16:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by western b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was pregnant. I planned on working longer than I did, but at about 5 1/2 months, it started to be too much for me. It was a hard decision to make, but I decided to take my leave early. At first I was worried that it would be leaving me with less time with the baby once they arrived, but then I realized that the most important thing is that the baby is happy, and healthy. So I do think you should consider seriously taking your mat. leave early, but in the end no one knows your limits better than you. Just keep your health (and that of your child's) first and foremost.
2007-04-16 16:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take care of yourself for your baby's well-being. You might consider taking just a few days off...maybe Wednesday through Friday to give you some time to relax. If you come back and you're still stressed out, take maternity leave early. You may have to call your doctor to get a doctor's note.
2007-04-16 16:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation as you were. I quit work over stress and found I went stir crazy in the house. Which stressed me out even more, Then there was the guilt of disappoint my boyfriend because he became responsible for all the bills. I am not sure where you work, but you might be surprised if you confide in your supervisor/ boss and tell him , you want to work through your pregnancy but your hormones are going crazy and Iyou are getting a little stressed out. Tell him your job is important to you but request a couple days off. You might be surprised on how compassionate they will be and respect you for your honesty. Sometime a little break is all you need. Good luck
2007-04-23 00:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by pandorashollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOO MUCH STRESS WHILE PREGNANT IS BAD! If ua re in a situation that is causing u STRESS then get out of there as soon as possible. As long as u have enoguh money flowing to help out with other baby expenses then TAKE MATERNITY LEAVE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. u want the best for your baby. Talk with your boss and your doctor!!
soon 2 b mommy
2007-04-22 10:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by babiilove101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to your doctor. Talk to him about everything.
It's hard to work when you're pregnant. You get moody, impatient, and you're tired and some part of your mind is always on what's happening to your body. However, not everyone who would like to quit work can, so in that case the best thing to do is try to Zen it all. Go for mind-clearing walks, take 20 minute power naps in the afternoon, and plan for as much leave as you can, and look forward to it.
Smile a lot and try to distance yourself from the stressors... life is too short to take some things seriously anyways.
2007-04-16 16:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you the mother, feel that you are risking future problems, then yes you should take a maternaty leave. Your husband should understand this. You are carrying his child and as a parent, you want to prtect your child from future problems. Better safe than sorry. I was in the same position as you. I'm 30 weeks and already took a pregnancy leave. I did it because I do not want to cause any complication during child birth. Listen to your motherly intuition
2007-04-22 01:30:11 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋