I am still a virgin...the only left out of my friends. I am the picky one. They always say how lucky and smart I am to not have done anything yet. I actually kinda get tired of it after a while. This does not mean I going to go have sex because of it, I just get don't understand what the big deal is...
Oh, I am 21 years old and a female, of course.
2007-04-16 08:36:09 · 55 answers · asked by hapigrl85 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I can help you with that. :)
2007-04-16 08:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by sydb1967 5 · 3⤊ 6⤋
What you need to do is reverse the question and consider why everyone tells you it is great you still are a virgin.
Is it because first-time sex is often the least satisfying sex you'll ever have?
Is it because once given away, virginity can never be offered to someone special?
Is it because once you stop being a virgin, you lose some mystique to men that gives you leverage with them?
Is it because sexual innocence quickly turns to jaded dissatisfaction so quickly?
I could go on, but I think you may see where I am going. Being a virgin is just that - a virgin. For you it is nothing...for everyone else it is an ideal. Use that to your advantage and find the best person to offer your one-time boon to.
2007-04-16 08:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by MrDave2176 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the big deal is that a lot of people seem t be having sex really early now, so there aren't a lot of virgins in your are group.
I'm a virgin and I know exactly how you feel. I was on the bus back from a marching band trip and we played "I've never". We all went around and said "I've never...." and those that have done whatever they said put down a finger (we were holding all our fingers up). When it came to "Iv'e never had sex", I was the only one holding my fingers up and I felt oddly left out.
I later learned that most of those guys wasted their first times on people that they were only mildly infatuated with. Wait for the right one; I think it'll be worth your time.
2007-04-16 08:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by saintmeghan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The big deal is that you have something no one else has. The bid deal is you can give a great gift to someone who will always remember it. And the big deal is not every women in the world get the choice to stay a virgin. You have something that wonderful and you choose to make it even more so you ARE one in a million and you should be very proud!!!!!
2007-04-16 08:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by ddemore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great to be a virgin. And, no, I'm not.
You will not realize it until you've lost it. But, it's hard to find a female that doesn't say she regrets who she lost her virginity to. By being picky, you have less chance of regret. Most girls lose it just to lose it.
When you meet someone that you care about and want to have a long-term, deep meaning, trustful relationship with - it will mean so much more. And you will be happy then that you waited. And guys will respect you for being a virgin. They may joke and say they don't. They might call you prude. But, those are the jerks.
When you find a nice guy that deserves it - he will be happy that you're a virgin. And so will you.
Also, the obvious - when you have a relationship with a guy - you know he likes you, and not your, well, you know.
2007-04-16 08:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer74781 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let's see. .. what's so great?
1. Being something your friends have already undone.
2. Being able to respect yourself for not being easy.
3. Not having to worry about whether or not, in a few years that HIV test pops positive, as long as you've been monogamous, once you DO get married.
4. Not having to worry about Herpes, gonorhea(sp?), syphilis and the other 'wonderful' presents you might wind up with.
5. Not having to count the days to your next period and worry about whether or not you are knocked up because NO amount of prevention beats abstention.
6. Not having to lie to your parents when they ask you if you're still pure.
I could go on and on, but, you get the picture, I am sure..
As for the first time stinking, well, if you don't do it right, yes, it will, but, if it's between two loving people who take their time to help each other get the fullness of it, then no, it doesn't.
And all those idiots who are saying go for it are just that, pure idiots with no redeeming qualities.
2007-04-16 08:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually you are smart. Its better to wait and make sure your first time is something you'll want to remember. You dont want to regret it because once its done you cant take it back. Itd be much better to do it with a guy you have feelings for (even if it doesnt work out in the long run) than just jumping in some guys truck just for the hell of it. Even if it doesnt work out with the guy you lose your virginity to, at least you wont regret it because you had a reason to do it with him rather than just acting like a ho.
2007-04-16 08:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most girls give it up by 18. Most girls regret doing so.
Want to know why diamonds are so valuable? Because they take thousands of years to make and they are RARE.
Virgins are also rare.
Think of it this way...lets say you had $20K and needed to buy a car.
Would you rather buy a 5 year old rust bucket or a brand new vehicle??
I thought so, the new model which has not been driven into the ground, has a greater appeal than the USED car. The new one also costs a lot more...making it more valuable.
2007-04-16 08:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by M☺lly, RN 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
self respect....the guy your seeing's respect(if hes not an a hole), you can't get pregnant, no stds, and you will be happy you waited for the right guy..... i dont think you have to wait till your married... unless you really wanted to.... but at least wait till you are with a guy for a long time that you know cares more about you then he does about having sex with you... someone that you think deserves it. and then when you do it will be a whole lot better than just havin sex with just any random guy or a guy that youve only been with for a month.... if you do that.. i think u might regret it.... wait till your with a guy that really loves you...and then have sex like crazy
2007-04-16 08:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by shnookumz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by holness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 50and havent been one since I was 18. At that time ,I was only a horny young guy that lived and breathed sex. I do not think you need to worry because as soon as you decide to do it you wont be one anyway and it wont matter. Life will be filled with alot bigger things than gee I still havent had sex.
2007-04-16 08:42:47 · answer #11 · answered by tim 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋