cheating wife and dont really care, read and tell me what it means?

Question

i think she is cheating on me, i stay at home with the kids, i get my own retirement so i have my own income, and she goes out alot and away on weekends to vegas, and i really dont care, the kids and i just hang out all the time and have fun while she just goes out and parties, but i really dont care, in fact we like it when she is gone

Answer 1

i say yes shes cheating on you if she gose out all the time n gose to parties wit out you thats just worng she should not do that good luck if you want you can email me at [e-mail] n we can talk some more hope to here from you

Answer 2

Sounds like it has become a marriage of convenience and habit rather than love. That happens to a lot of people.

What you should ask yourself: are you happy? Would you be happier divorced? Are the children aware of what is going on? Is there tension when she's home?

If the situation is stressful at all, you are probably better off separating and sharing custody. If you remain friends and are both invested in raising the children in a stable home, you can possibly continue along the way you are.

Children can pick up on your stress when their mother is around. That's something to consider.

Can you and your wife sit down and have a realistic talk about how your marriage is doing?

When wives cheat, it is usually because they feel emotionally empty and want to feel loved and cared for by a man, even if that man is not their husband. She is missing something in her relationship with you. Can you get that back? Sometimes it is possible. But you both have to want it. And to know whether she wants it, you have to *talk* to her.

Maybe if you open up a line of communication, for better or worse, you'll at least know where you stand--and whether it's worth it to stay in the situation you are now.

Answer 3

Well, first and foremost, I think you need to figure out your feelings for her...second, ask her about it, and tell her to be honest...it may be that she is cheating on you, and it is also possible that she isn't. If she is, then she obviously doesn't love you the way she used to, if it gets to the point that you want to see other women as well, then there is always a possibility that you could separate for a while and you could look after the kids...If she isn't, then she isn't. But, make sure that the kids really don't mind...if you do end up separating, make sure that it doesn't influence them in a negative way....I wish you all the best!

Answer 4

If everyone seems happy with this arrangement, then keep living your lives that way I guess. All families are dysfunctional in some way. If this works for you keep it up. I would say get a divorce, but why? This way the kids get to live with both of their parents, she seems to be happy going on her trips to Vegas and spending her money however, you seem content to let her go and just have fun with the kids. The only negative I see is the kids aren't really witnessing a realistic marriage, but they wouldn't be seeing that if you divorced anyway. I couldn't live the way you are, but it's not my life. If there's no hope in reconnecting emotionally with your wife, and you don't bicker, argue in front of the kids or call their mom bad names and can live this way, this would be the next best alternative, I think so anyway.

Answer 5

Get separate bed rooms (thats what my husband and I did) we got older and started going our own way.) we actually got closer ( do that if you don't want a divorce) pretend like you don't care if she's gone. Perhaps she will wonder if you love her and not leave so much. Don't tell her what you're doing or where your going just do the same to her as she's doing to you. If she thinks you are waiting around for her then she will always do this. If she thinks you don't care, she just might want to stay home more.

Answer 6

I really think you may consider getting a divorce.. I mean, since you and the kids like it when she's gone and all, why not make that a permanent thing!! LoL.. Actually, something similar happened to my aunt and uncle a few years ago.. They stayed married and still talked, but lived in separate houses for over a year.. Eventually they got over it and moved back in together.. I guess just wait and see what happens!!

Answer 7

Wow. I don't want you to sell yourself short thinking you've got everything you really want outta life and a spouse that loves you and respects you isn't one of them. But I also acknowledge it sounds likeyou've worked out a way for it to work for YOU. The only thing I worry about is the message it's sending the kids. They're going to learn how spouses are supposed to interact based on you guys. They may be able to see what's going on and they may not. Ultimately, you have to answer not just for yourself, but for the kids you're caring for, too. So do what's best for all of you.

A counselor can help you work through and consider your options.

Good luck to you!

Answer 8

If you really don't care, what's the problem. Yeah, it sounds like she is cheating on you and has been for a while, so you might want to get a DNA test for your kids. She may decide to get a divorce when she gets tired of using you, so start documenting her infidelities.

Answer 9

It would be good for you to speak with a counselor or priest/preacher/a man of the cloth. Sounds like you may be going though a little down period, when something is telling you you deserve her mistreating you. You are not the babysitter. You need to build enough confidennce in yourself, where you can confront her and tell her she is denying her kids the time ythey need with their mother. If she wants to be free, so be it. There are many women out there that would love a self made family.

Answer 10

Though I can appreciate the fact that you all seem fine with this bizarre arrangement, I can't help but worry what it is teaching your kids. This isn't a real marriage and it isn't normal for kids to prefer that mommy be gone. Honestly don't you think it would be better to divorce and begin teaching better life lessons?

Answer 11

The most important question is, do you love her when she's home? Do you enjoy your time away from her because it gives you "alone time" with the kids, or is it relief that your wife is gone? If everyone is happy, and you're "open" enough to allow your wife her excursions, then leave it alone. Why mess up a good thing for both of you.