2007-04-16 07:57:07 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that is obvious!.... lots of sex.... and interest in what makes them tick... take the time to do the things she wants to do together with the idea of learning about her, not how stupid it is.
2007-04-16 08:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Joel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, If all you have a a great sexual connection, I don't think that's enough of a reason to get married.
If however you are already married and in that situation, you'd have to decide if you want to stay in the marriage because the sex is good, and work on the actual relationship. Or get a divorce.
Making a relationship one that is "happy" and works well is usually a lot of work. It's about both wanting things to be better. No one person can make a relationship work on their own. Talk to your partner and exchange thoughts and feelings. Let him/her know how you would like things to change and why. That would be a good start.
2007-04-16 08:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Мəəĸά 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage based on sexual attraction probably will not last. If a couple feels they are drifting apart, they should try new things together. Take classes in art or dance, go on outings, and take a trip together. Experiment with new things. They should also look at why they fell in love in the first place and try to rekindle those feelings. Do little things for your partner like open the door for her, or leave her a small note. Letting her know you care will help.
2007-04-16 08:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by thisisthelamestnameicouldfind 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that................I had the same trouble with my wife........now ex-wife...........you know we live together while she finds a better job and/or finds a living relationship partner thing but in the mean time we get along great, we are pretty good friends, and if we just had a better economical situation, and her we could actually discuss problems and not just fight about them without finding a resolution we could provably still be married!!
You know the only time we were really happy and that she never complained or at least while she was getting it at least once every two days, was during sex. Now, I have stopped with that but she does try to pursue something from time to time but I think it is because I don't plan to have a serious relationship without anyone but I don't want emotional feelings between her and me to intervine either and if I had sex with her it would definetedly bring back some feeling.......so because of the things I have gone through I really wish you good luck!!!!
2007-04-16 08:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...you don't.....eventually that attraction fades some, and then your left with nothing. If you have nothing in common, either find a way for both of you to share some sort of interest, or be prepared for the big D down the line.
2007-04-16 08:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by David M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a marriage like that..We got together for our sexually love for another but once that is gone what do you have??? We are seperated and we are now trying to become friends because we love eachother but dont know why we love eachother..its something hard to deal with...trying talking more, about anything in the world...it actually does help.
2007-04-16 08:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is one that leads to perception.
If 'in common' does really apply but the rest of your marriage is unhappy, maybe examining what has changed in the marriage from the time you both got together.
If your examination of this change leads you to believe that the changes are not in your favor by way of her wishing these changes to be on your behalf, talk to her in a way she realizes that your examination of these changs wished do not fit into your scheme of reality, and this can be helped in accomplishment by returning back to your behaviors that the marriage started with.
If she does not feel these behaviors are acceptable, it is time to lean even moreso into the behaviors of your acceptance, moreso than behaviors she found acceptable in the beginning.
2007-04-16 08:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Garret T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should suggest compromising with one another and start doing things that you both like to do so that you can get to know each other in other areas. If you can't do that, well then I think your relatinship and or marriage is going to fail anyways. Try and work it out though. It's still possible.
2007-04-16 08:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is why the old saying love is more than skin deep. You have to look past the lust to have a marriage.
You have no chance , you got married for the wrong reason.
2007-04-16 08:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple - don't rely on that relationship for anything other than good sex. Which may mean that marriage is not the best way to define this relationship, but from the way you've phrased your question, I suspect that may be a fait accompli.
2007-04-16 08:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work shift work and dedicate yourself to a hobby so that the only time you have to spend with the other person is for short periods of time.
KIDDING!
Besides, you're not supposed to be THAT similar to each other...you're supposed to admire and respect WHO the person is...not that they like bowling just like you or love action movies just like you. You can be complete opposites as long as you like what the person stands for and who they are on the inside.
As far as not having ANYTHING in common with each other...now's the time to find something you can both enjoy together: people watching, movies, gardening, hiking, you tend to one part that you're good at and let ther other person tend to the part that they're good at. And let each other know you appreaciate their part.
Ever consider party night? Game night? Card night? with friends?
2007-04-16 08:02:40 · answer #11 · answered by Greywolf 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋